I know it’s hard to read blocks of writing so I’ll try simplify this


► I started speaking to this girl, we talked a lot and she’d often come to my friend’s house (he had house parties quite a lot)

► She was “seeing” this guy at the time, who is the same age as me. Although even though she was seeing him we kissed 2 or 3 times at these house parties.

► We became very close, she told me a lot of thing she hadn’t even told her closest friends or her boyfriend. (At this stage I began to think I had been friendzoned but it turns out I hadn’t really later on)

► She tells me how her and her boyfriend fall out all the time and don’t get on most of the time. At a party she starts dancing with me and grinding against me whilst her boyfriend is there.

► Weeks go past and we keep talking and meeting up, going for walks etc. However sometimes she would blank me or ignore my texts at certain times, but at other times she was completely fine.

► Recently at a party she seemed in a strange mood (her boyfriend was at the party aswell and she doesn’t like her being around me because of how close we’ve been but he doesn’t know we’ve kissed or anything like that).

► We’re both drunk and at home after the party and I phone her, we’re both pretty p*ssed off with each other and start saying thing like how we seemed to be leading each other on etc. (I’m not sure how much of what we said that we actually meant). Anyway I confess that I like her but I know she has a boyfriend so it’s obviously not gonna work.

►We don’t talk at all the whole next day until about 11:30 at night when she phones me.

►On the phone we’re talking about where we go from here after what’s been said. She is pretty upset on the phone and confesses she has feeling for me but also still loves her boyfriend aswell.

► I tell her maybe it’s best if we don’t speak from now on because all it has created so far is drama for us both. She says she doesn’t want to lose me because she genuinely really likes me and has feelings for me but doesn’t know what to do because she has a boyfriend.

We’re in a really weird situation right now. She’s coming to my friends Party on Saturday and there’s going to be quite a lot of people there including people I’ve hooked up with before. Truth is though, I really like this girl A LOT.
What should I do from here? :/

I remember being in shoes like yours and it can be tough wanting what you can't have at the moment. She obviously loves/likes her man and you as well. All she needs is a really strong reason to leave him and be with you. So at this point you aren't satisfying something that she needs that she finds in her current bf. if you can figure it out then you might have a chance. Most likely it's the machismo element of her current bf.
Then again she could just be knuckling futz and in need of meds so be careful. I personally wouldn't pursue her because I don't want a woman who will kiss another dude while she is with someone (because she'll do it to you too) but this is your issue so you have to decide what it is you are willing to sacrifice to attain your goal and if it is worth it. If you want to go for it then do so but go balls to the wall. All or nothing. If you just want to bang her then take a break from her, and re-engage when you feel the time is right.

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I'm in a similar situation as you, just that i've been in it longer (4 months).

I tried stealing her away from her bf but no matter how often we hooked up, she still stayed with him. She's told me she loves me and even all my girl friends (who don't know about our situation) say it's obvious she loves me. But alas, still with the boyfriend.

At first I was OK with the situation...but I found myself falling hard for this girl to the point where I wasn't actively seeking other women. That's when it became a problem...when she becomes a priority to you but you are only an option to her.

But by all means, if you want her then go get her. But keep your emotions on check. Remember that as long as she is with her boyfriend, then you are playing second fiddle. I thought I would be ok with that, but after a while, it's only human nature to want to be #1.