I’ve been friends with this girl for 4 years now. Our relationship has been on and off flirty then entire time. However, she goes MIA for several months at a time (like 4-5 months) whenever she has a BF.

Anyway, she just broke up with her BF and is now single again and is back being social. Given this, she has now been texting me more often, and also invites me to a bunch of things (not always just me, sometimes a larger friend group, but either way).

In any case, I’ve made sure to be terse in my text responses, and be “less available” to try and balance not falling back into the “friend zone” / build up my desirability

I’ve planned a couple of social outings this Sunday with a bunch of people and by virtue of her saying she would be interested in these events, I’ve invited her to them and now we will be virtually spending the whole day together (not just us, a large group of people).

She sent an e-mail today just to me saying “Does this mean I have a super larry-full day on sunday?”

(a) How do I interpret this message / what are people thought’s on this message and the implications?

(b) How should I respond to this message?

Really... no responses?

it most likely won't be all to long until she has another boyfriend, really 4 years is a long time to not do anything with her, but if you are super in love and all that, then really you might as well try for yourself so you can at least have some form of closure, not sure exactly where you are with your confidence etc. but you should start somewhere along the lines of

''you know something is sort of different about you, you have this sort of sexiness to you going on now, hard to put my finger on it''

start gaming from there and escalate things just like how you would on a girl who you just met and were trying to hit on, no different, if she tests and starts being weirded out, hold your frame like what you are doing is normal, just keep escalating and try to sleep with her relatively sooner then later, don't expect anything from her since it has been 4 years and that is alot of time to reverse how she thinks about you especially if the feeling you have are not mutual, you can't really reverse an impression just by doing a few routines or anything, doesn't work like that

so basically, just try to sleep with her, sooner rather then later, if she rejects you, then you have two options, be her friend and stop trying, or just keep trying until she either stops talking to you and being around you, or has sex with you,

but realistically if you want this to end in you having sex with her, you will have to be willing to not be her friend anymore, even if you get into a relationship with her there is a really good chance when it is over you two will not be friends that hang out anymore

GOOD LUCK