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1) Eye contact: Eye contact is incredibly important! It is amazing what you can achieve with non-verbal. Every guy should take the time to master the art of eyes contacts! Deep stares have the ability to NOT reduce sexual tension, but to INCREASE it. Look at the girl like you are about to fuck her hard. Personally, I think that my stare is at his best when my eyes are semi-closed. For some people, it may look natural that my eyes are small but I constantly work on it.
Don't forget that with eye-contact, there comes a lot of facial expression aswel. Having eye-contact without any facial expression can lead to awkwardness and a lot to estranged behaviour/creepiness for the lady. Add a smirk (bit of a playful smile) to the expression and it's a lot more fun. It's also proven method that smiling does increase attraction because she will feel the urge to smile back.
BUT don't OVERsmile.. really important to get this through! Else you will lose the sexual vibe you have.
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5) Routines:
Routines.... Routines.... Routines....
Pfft.... Routines... I feel the need to talk about routines.
I personally think that routines are BAD for your game. Fuck them, just be yourself. Routines may be good for you in the short term if you have nothing to talk about, but it will only make you a social robot and you will soon forget your true self. I don't recommend anyone to work or try to memorize routines... Exept, maybe... One.
I never figured out WHY people proclaim Routines to be bad. Yes, it's contradictionairy cause I did the same. However, there's a logic between all of this.
When you look at this forum you have 3 kind of people, those who preach the positive about routines, those who hate routines and those who just act as routines.
Let me clarify this for you:
A routine is a handle, an activity that you've gotten USED to. This means that you are doing it multiple times to get the hang of it.
Eventually a routine is made to strengthen the outcome of the interaction and thus increases your chances of sexual activity with your target. Between the 3 people mentioned above, only 1 category is succesfull on all levels (progress, game, life) and that's the third. People ask me a lot about this and they ask me:
Hey, but why not the second either? He can do all the routines
True. He can do all the routines BUT and this "but" is big.. take this person out of his familiar environment and his chances of success gradually decrease. Simply, because a routine is a "predifined" situation and a predifined "answer" towards something.
The third category are those who have done a lot of routines, with rising & falling and made those routines a part of their daily habbits, adjusting the routine to their own character. Thus creating an attractive persona on a lot of levels.
True, a routine can be useful at some point of the interaction, but I still don't recommend them. PUA's, rAFC and others often get criticized for being really good during the first hours with a girl but aren't that great on the long term (i.e. finding a girlfriend). It might not be the case for everyone, but this statement is just on point. In my opinion, this probably have something to do with people using too many routines and not relying on their own brain to go with the flow and improvise a conversation. When you are using a routine, you are controlling the interaction, you know where this conversation is going. I guess my point is that you can use routines, but not too much or at least don't only rely on them when you are interacting with a girl.
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Then, let me ask you a question: Why are you so scared of approaching?
- Most guys will say that they doesn't want to be rejected. Hell, I know that rejection is harsh. But the more you get rejected, the less you care. Hell, I don't even remember if I got rejected last Friday since I didn't give a damn!
This "not giving a damn" thingy, has it gotten so hyped these days? Does it actually help progress you? Think about it.. what has THIS done for you. . .
Think long & straight about this answer Matt, cause it'll show where you are standing right now.
It might not be the answer you were looking for, but I'm going to be 100% honest with you. Rejected might be harsh at first, but once you get "used" to being rejected here and then, you realize that there is no major consequence and that it doesn't matter. It might be because I've been through tough times, but I know that there is things in life so much worst than being rejected by some girl you don't even know and you will probably never see again (and even if you did, she probably won't remember rejecting you).
I'm a really athletic guy and I practice a lot of sports. Personally, I see pick up like a sport, a competition. If you ever played any sport, you will know that you just can't win every time. If I lose a hockey game, I might be a bit mad, but I realize that it doesn't really matters and life goes on. Same thing for pick up, you can't always win the girl, sometimes you got to lose.
What has this done for me?
I actually think it helped me progress faster. Since I didn't really care about the outcome of my approaches, I approached and talked to much more girls than if I actually cared about what others might think of me.
More approaches= More rejection (you learn from your mistakes so it might actually be beneficial on the long term) and more success (more experience with girls).
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The first kiss
The first kiss... Awwww... The most important kiss you will ever have with this girl. I see lots of guys who are having trouble with the first kiss. There are so many information about k-close on this forum so if you don't think that I am specific enough, just go check some other thread on k-closing.
In my opinion, the "best" (Best, as in most romantic, that girl will crave for) are the non-verbal ones. I usually k-close a girl non-verbally by putting my head on hers while I am dancing on her face to face. This will increase the sexual tension and you will have a feeling of being more intimate with the girl. At that moment, you can just close your eyes and "feel" the girl you are dancing with. If her head is down and you do not have acces to her mouth, she's not ready so you just have to wait a bit. You could probably tease her and then close the distance back (Example of teasing at that point: Awww, your so cute, you look so shy). If her head is up and you have access to her mouth, simply kiss her. The first kiss should never be really long, maybe 5-10 sec. Then just look at her and smile.
I like this, good description.
Have you tried it out while putting the palm of your hand on her cheeck? Like as lovers do in movies? It creates a lot of attraction and also a lot of familiarity, as if you are long year lovers..
Also, if you wish to keep it playful (which is GOOD in dancefloor) don't go in for the expected "first kiss" just go in.. and just at the time that you're about to kiss, pull back out and say something stupid like "awww.. you look so cute when you try to kiss me".. she'll feel a bit embarassed and shy, which is natural because she thinks you don't want to..
At that stage, just put your hand on her cheeck and kiss her.. you'll see that this kiss is a WHOLE lot more fun to do then a regular first one.. and it'll improve your ego a bit more
Yeah, I tried these. There is so many things you can do to make the kiss better. Personally, if I'm near a wall, I like to push the girl on the wall, grab both of her hand, push them on the wall over her head, then lower your hand while touching her body all the way to her hips, her pull her hips toward your dick. It's a really dominant kiss and girls often told me later that they really liked how I kissed them THAT specific time.
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