I'm not typically shy... I don't think I'm ugly... I have brains, confidence, discipline, and am reasonably successful... Yet I tend to be the two year relationship cycler with women who are not typically my dream girls... I plan to change - sure, I'm looking for that 10 but she needs to be super intelligent and very successful... and that is hard to find - so why not have fun along the way?

I don't typically get much time to go out. Between social responsibilities, a job that often takes 90 hours a week, and a myriad of hobbies, I tend to be a loaner. The few weekends I manage to hit the clubs I play catch up with friends and am too out of shape to approach women, which then becomes unintelligible and awkward. So where do I start?

This week was in San Francisco. After a nice dinner with a dozen guys decked out, ties and suits we hit Balboa Cafe in the Marina district. Right coming in I run into a set, a 9 blonde and a 6 brunette. I open with "I'm out of town and trying to gather if I'm in the right place to party." The girls get interested where I am from. I say Boston, they disagree... "no way, you are from here, just messing with us" then they say, no - you have an accent (Eastern European). We explore... but this older dude jumps in and says I went to school in Boston - if you are really Boston where from. I go - I'm in Cambridge - where did you go to school? I ignore the girls and become best friends with him. But then when he says MIT rocket scientists - the girls are all excited and over him. F*&k... I'm a brain surgeon you know... I try to AMOG him going so do you just play with fireworks now since NASA is like done with building spaceships... etc etc... I think I pushed too hard as the girls are like well we are off... last ditch failed effort... I go to the blonde "is that really blonde or are you wearing a wig?" she gave me a pissed look and walked away... Critique gentlemen? My thoughts - 1. I ignored the girl by paying attention to a strange guy who was not part of the set instead of just pulling them away and isolating them both 2. my attempted neg was really an insult with no time to recover 3. I could not provide value as the rocket scientist was just too cool in his 50s...

Second set was at the bar, bitchy 8 brunette and a 6 blonde... I jumped between them and asked them if they are from around. They were like, of course where else would we be from? I was like, well, I know at least 10 of this guys in suits that are not from here... you know the big conference in town... small stupid chat, the brunette is kinda pissed that I broke the two girls conversation. I tried to do value play - "Think of a number 1 to 10 - is it 7" she goes, hmm... that's weird... it was 7... still really cold attitude. I return to the location conversation and go - you are not from SF (neg?). She goes, well... I'm here now. Where are you from? I say it's hard to say - they'd have to guess. She is not interested in guessing. I go, your turn, where are you from? She says... well - you have to guess too (no remember this girl shows me no interest). I think about it for a second - she likes gives me a profile to help me guess - almost thought she's actually interested. Then I say - Minnesota. She goes - yep... I'm like "shit, are you for real?" she goes "yes" I say, "you see babe, I'm just that good" she turns to me and says "or really creepy" that kind of tired me out so I go, well, ladies it's time for me to hang out with my buds. The brunette goes "ye, why don't you do that". No luck...

Next set - two indian guys and a short brunette converse. I smile at them and bump into one of the guys. Start conversation, then move on to my friends. The girl - probably a 7 but really cute walks in the middle of our group. I go "where are you going?" she's like ladies room. I say "well, I will be right here when you come back". In the mean time a really drunk cute 8 cougar is talking to this couple. She's escorted by another cougar - probably a 5. One of the guys in our group, totally drunk starts bothering the 5. The 8 in the mean time starts talking to this couple and kisses the girl on the cheek. I approach and go where's my kiss, pointing to my cheek. She looks at me, smiles, and tries to push my away with her elbow while almost falling down - totally smashed. Then she waddles away barely keeping upright. In the mean time the cute brunette is back from ladies room and I go - "you know, I'm tired of waiting for you" she plays along going "well, I'm back. I'm Ashley" I go "and?" she says "and what's your name?" I say that it's really a mystery, she appears confused, and I say, fine here's my name... I ask her to think of a number 1-10. She says 7. I was like that's what I was gonna say. She's like ya right. I tell her that most people think of 3 or 7. She does not believe me. I ask this guy next to us, he confirms 3 or 7. My friends try to plug in, I grab her by the hand a pull her to the side. She had a lot of jewelery on so I was like you are really shiny. She starts feeling bad, says that it's probably too much jewelery. I was like are you wild? She takes that as a neg and says no, she's actually really boring. I was like no way. She says, well, she was raised as a good girl. I go can we make you wild? talk about sex. She gets flustered and wants to walk away. I grab her by the shoulders and turn her towards me - we talk about family, ethnicity (she was Norwegia evidently), either she left the area - turns out she traveled to Italy (interestingly, most girls have barely left San Francisco that night). I mean this girl was really connecting. She was like "wow, you are so cool. you are really travelled, you are really smart" I though I was in when the indian guys who are like short and dorky come by and say, hey we are gonna go across the street. I didn't know who they were - friends or wanna be boyfriends. I try to start talking to him, but it played this way. One was talking to the girl and the wing totally was in my face trying to AMOG me. he was patting my shoulder, saying he's like really drunk. I tried to play it back, slapped him on his back that I think I shuddered him. In the mean time the other guy was just stealing my steam. She says, "well I have to go, it was really nice talking to you while she rubbs my elbow" I go, well we are in town tomorrow going to a party. She says - sorry I have plans. I was like, then why don't you stay and I'll walk you later. She says - I gotta go... At that point I was like fine, I got to catch up with my friends.

I was baffled. What happened. I had this girl... Granted I'm not even from town and flying of in a day. How would you close that situation? Was it just the fact that she saw no potential relationship and as I said she played it all as the good girl... I could have gone with them to the next bar, but I had to call it a night. hmm... advice?

Next day I was ready to head to the airport... Spent the day walking the city and finally decided to go to the airport early. As I walked into the hotel, this all american blonde is waiting at the counter. I need my bags. She says she needs the yellow pages. I was like, "wow, did not even know that those still exist". She says, well, she would like to order pizza in. The lady at the front desk is not sure, but suggests that there's a pizza place a couple blocks away. I'm like why don't you just get it there. She says she's afraid to walk down the block by herself. I suggested that I'm hungry myself and we walk together. She was hesitant and I put the time constraint. I told her that I have a flight to catch, so don't really have much time.

I dragged her across the city. Lot of time to talk and hang out. Turns out she was there to audition for America's Got Talent. Fun little girl, only 18... HB9. My mistake - I used negs all night long to the point that I think I destroyed her. It did not help with an 18 year old, as she was really flustered and insecure with herself. At the end of dinner, on the receipt I wrote number 7... asked her to think of a number, and showed her the receipt. She went "god, am I so predictable". We laughed and walked back to the hotel. As soon as we got in, she took the stairs. I stopped her and asked for her number and name (funny, to this point we just talked about everything but never introduced ourselves). She's supposed to come to NY next summer and I suggested that she visits me then... We'll see...

At the airport I texted her but did not hear back though... I asked to be friends on Facebook - will wait and see if she accepts. What do you think? I had trouble transitioning from the opener and midgame to sexual tension, etc... I did not have much time... but still...

I guess I'm really f*^&d... I got in Boston today and bored was browsing Craigslist as I always do for motorcycles... I have a Honda CBR600 but want a Ducati Monster or Streetfighter. Next I know I'm on the personals... This post caught my attention and I replied. Couple messages back and forth with plenty of negs and plan is to meet at a bar around the corner from my place. Being further dismissive, I'm 30 minutes late - she's at the bar... I'm screwed - just like the typical stereotype - the picture she sent me must have been from 10 years ago. She's in her late 30s... I guess I'm stuck - at that point I get a beer, chat for a while. I neg her as she complains of the cold weather - considering that we did not even really get snow this year (What are you talking about cold - this is like spring weather as I take my jacket and flex in a tight t). I neg her on her clothes that even though really nice (she's reportedly a fashion designer), appear somewhat random ("was that nail color on purpose to match that off red sweater?" consider that they did not match at all). She says she's been trying to do yoga at the gym - I bring in motorcycling, biking both mountain and road, skiing, kayaking, hiking, and even flying (took a couple test flights - it was fun, but for the money I have much more of an adrenaline rush from my two wheeled rocket). She tries to bring me down by being how come you are single and browsing craigslist (I don't know myself) - I tell her look, I just got out of a 3 year relationship and am just having as much fun as I can... Just got back in the city this AM and was looking for something new... I finish my beer and ask her "Want to walk?" The bartender is like "You guys have fun tonight" as he winks (I bet you he thought I'm like an escort). We walk back - I tell her my place is just around the corner as she complains of cold again. Walk in my place - I had a fireplace screensaver on the TV and as funny as it was Marvin was going over the surround system. I put my arms around her moving her hips in a dance move. Before I realize she was in my pants - we walked upstairs.... An hour later she's gone and I feel really disappointed with myself... I can do so much better. She had a great body - but her face showed her age... I just did not know how to escape it at the bar - do I just apologize and walk away? I said whatever and barreled through... She does not even know my name or phone number... I guess I got laid... or used... hmm...

Just watched Style on youtube for a bit.. I got to remember this routine - 5 question game - but you have to get all the answers wrong...

1. What city are we in?
2. What's your name?
3. What's your job?

Oh wait - how many questions is that? girl thought for a bit and goes 7. He goes - darn you are really good... you got me there, have you played this game before? She goes, no, no, I haven't...

Got you there - that was question number 5!

Another routine... Pull a penny, a nickel, and a dime... Put them on your palm - question:
Ben's mother had 3 children - first one was penny, second one was Nicholas... Third one was - points at the dime... The answer is Ben (it's in the question)

I need to learn the folding dollar tricks... either with the fishing line or 1 dollar turn into 5...

More Style material...

Dog jaw... I think I got a dog jaw as you scratch your jaw... Anybody got a dog jaw? As the girl shows interest, you go "here, feel this" and as you approach and she feels it, you go "rrrr, bark"

Also value talk - don't ask them about job, where were they born... etc... it does not represent them... it's mechanical and not interesting... Ask values:

1.If you would have to choose one thing in your life to make it worthwhile, what would that be? or What do you like doing?
2. If you have that thing, what kind of things does that allow you to do?
3. If you would have that - how would you feel? Happy - you just filled your life goal in 3 minutes... That's your core value... Religion, etc it's really just your path to happiness... Don't you feel happy now?

Best friends test - it's the eye contact - does not matter what shampoo they use... Also, the girl looking at the other girl first is the more passive... easier pick up...

Papa's Neg: you look like.. you are not... but you look like the biggest bitch... but you are not... surprizing... hmmm...

Push pull techniques:
"Oh my god, I always fall for blondes... I hate you... now, actually let's get married... right now... nope, that's it, I'm breaking up with you... we are divorcing... but we can't divorce... what about our 17 grandchildren...?"

Too bad you are not my type

Note to self: do not date this girl

Hey listen, let's take this slow, I don't want to get hurt

Sorry - I can't talk to you anymore... you are bad news...


Things I need to learn:
The folding dollar
The 1 to 5 dollar conversion

So tonight, I engaged one of the hairdressers at the salon... I know her from before, last time she gave me her card - this time I got a haircut with a different person. But, as I sat in the chair, I acknowledged her. She's pregnant - I knew that - so I asked her about it. We chatted for a bit as I was getting my haircut. It maybe just a fetish - but I'm attracted to her pregnant self as well as the rocker look, black maskara, and tattoos. Afterwards we talked about her client who was offering her to do body painting. She gave the lady her number - I was like "how come I don't get the number". She laughed... I acted like a complete AFC.. despite that, she was into me. this guy was tried to get a haircut, she totally ignored him to keep talking to me. She goes "there's people in line before you - why don't you have a seat and wait" as the guy was getting pissed off... And guess what, there were no people in line ahead of him... there were people behind him... I chatted a bit more, but she finally took the next customer. I was like "all right then" she goes "I'll see you in 2 weeks, V (my name)"... hmm, I waked out and felt flattered for a second as she knew my name - first I thought it was from last time - then I realized that she must have seen it in computer... She's into me but I just could not find the way to ask her out, a number, or something else...

I should have stuck to the plan - I should have put a time constraint "hey, I really have to run, but" I should have roped her in with a story - but then felt bad as people were there waiting... I should have negged her - perfect setup, she had the rocker/emo makeup. How do you ask for their number in that situation? Perhaps next time I have her cut my hair which gives me more time to talk... hmmm - thoughts?

Either nobody reads these posts or I'm not getting any help... I need feedback... somebody help!!!

I think I have 3 girls I'm in love with and ready to marry any of them... The problem is that I've totally got no game with them... This other girl that I was into - I made a complete fool of myself before the holidays. Basically - I've always been into her for like 6 months since I knew her - work together, seen her about 2-3 days a week. We always talked, laughed smile, but she had a boyfriend... Finally one day after a work party I missed she goes "where were you?". I was like "man, I missed the chance to meet your boyfriend..." she goes "what boyfriend? we broke up..." that's where I f'ed... I was like "I want to ask you out right now, I want to buy you a coffee, a drink, dinner... I like you and I really wanna know you" She says "but I just got out of a relationship" I kept pressing... "what's your number?" she goes "but I work with you" I go - no longer as I was switching to a different hospital. She says "How about this - let me get through the holidays and then I'll call you..." I was all into it - really awkward and like a school boy I took a post it note, wrote 3 boxes with 3 different great restaurants then my number and said "when you are ready, choose one and give me a call" A month later on facebook I messaged her saying "hey, I still owe you dinner" - never heard back...

Well now - 3 girls I'm really into... and I think they all are involved... one of them I saw today but managed to play it cool... even though was evident that I was into her. She was at the computer in the library, I sat at the next computer and started conversation like I just saw her yesterday and we were best friends (saw her about 3 month before). Last time she told me her boyfriend was ready to propose when I said the standard line "then, where's the ring?" This time I was like "still no ring, ha? laughing... " she started really laughing but said "no". we chatted for a while. She's a student and looks up to me. We talked about her future, shared some laughs, I asked about her boyfriend and tried to make fun of him. At some point I was like "look, I have to go back to work". She is beautiful, really friendly... but I just don't know how to jump to the next step - how do I steal her from her boyfriend?

Same is the case with the other two... One I clicked at work before the holidays but was not able to see her since. Finally, about a week ago I emailed her under the pretext of sending her some articles she was interested in - negged her in the process. After a week she e-mailed back with a lot of exclamation marks. She evidently was on vacation but looks forward to working with me again. I replied in a joke with two sentences "Wait, who is this? How was it?"... No answer... should have not wrote the "How was it?" darn it... anyway... This was the first Valentine's day where I was single...

The routines and tricks are great for picking up random girls... but not as easy for picking up the special one... the one you already know... and all these trully 10 girls in all respects - beauty, brains, success, maturity - are usually taken... I'm ready to cry

So - at a coffee shop tonight... I've been pushing me over the last couple weeks to spend all my time reading or writing at a coffee shop down the street. It's usually busy and there's not much talent, but at least gets me out there and opens me up a bit.

I realize that it's ultimately a lesson in self. I spend my entire day being nice to people, talking and interacting, that out of work I have like nothing to talk about. I usually end up at home crushing on the couch with either the laptop or ipad browsing, writing papers, or reading - an introverted existence.

So, at the coffee shop, a couple cute girls sitting across what looked like their boyfriends. I thought for about a second to try to break one of those couples and then gave up. A table with 3 girls but I did not get excited about any of them. A true 10 walked in but after looking at the menu she walked out. I almost jumped trying to run after her, but chickened... The only other girl that interested me walked in, got something and went to the back room. Initially I thought she was about a 7 from my place. After a while, I decided to find out and walked into the back room on my way to the bathroom. A 5-6 people party was sitting at one table and the girl was in the corner. After I came out, she was by herself. I took a look at her, smiled, and went - 'lonely out here' as I kept walking down the hallway to the front room. She raised her head in surprise and smiled loudly. I kept walking but then thought - what an idiot! I just missed the moment.

Came back and thought about it. Now if I go back I would be the creep right who came to ruin her quiet study - I would be cornering her with no good exit strategy on her part. She would be pressured to hang out. Nevertheless, after a minute I decided that the back room was a great place for me to do work, so grabbed by bag, laptop, and walked back there. Entered the room and after saying 'I like your idea' to which I got a blank look, I sat in the opposite corner on a recliner, hidden from her view by another recliner across me. An hour passed and the guys started sweeping the floor as the place closed. She was evidently trying to finish her article. I asked the guy if they are closed - he said "yes, but you can stay - we'll be here until 10". I was like, nah, don't want to bother you and got up. As I got up, so was did the girl stating "I'm almost done". I started walking out, and then turned to her and asked "What are you reading anyway that you need to finish?" She told me it was a neuroplasticity paper. I tried to neg her saying "so you are a brainiac". She goes "I wouldn't go that far". "Why would you read that then, you are a neuroscientist right." She goes, well, yes, in grad school, I'm trying to figure it out. I was like "so, neuroplasticity is your area". "Well, I just rotate through labs right now." I was like so you are just a first or second year - she confirmed "first year". I inquired about neuroplasticity - she gave me a complex line of glutamine receptors and drug interactions - I guess a shit test in her mind. I used that to bring her down - "what do you know about neuroplasticity - I see that everyday - you see this people with severe brain damage, open them up, and save their life only to have them be a vegetable. I took care of this girl, 18yo who fell and had severe brain injury, were gonna let go but parents changed their mind last minute - a year later saw them in rehab and they were really messed up." We talked some more about her research, transgenic mice, a lot of stuff that truly I had no idea about but can show understanding in view of my background. Finally, I looked at her outfit... "jeans and tall boots... doesn't really match" as I turned around and walked towards my car smiling while in my head I was pissed...

I just could not escalate. Was trying to find a way to transition into a routine but could not really get a connection from protein signaling cascades to ESP... afterwards thought - wait, reading minds works perfect with neuroscience. Could have had the guess number routine... Wish I had the pennies cause I could have transitioned into "so if you are so smart, here's a test for you, Ben's mother had 3 children..." but I didn't have them... I even tried to do the value test - after she told me her graduate education, I asked her so what do you see with all of this - "I think I would be a professor or something". "And if you become that, what would you do with that" "I don't know, teach I guess, research" "So what attracts you to it then, is it the power, the curiosity?" I realized I don't really fully understand the full value test. that's the reason I decided to quit and exit. I thought - I will likely see her here again...

I can be totally cocky funny when I don't care about the interaction... I've been using the techniques on girl coworkers and even my ex who I had bkfast with yesterday... and it works, and they all giggle, laugh, are all into it... yet, when it comes to the girl I want, the HB9 or 10, I just act like a needy puppy wanting attention.

From the first time I saw her, I wanted to say hi, I wanted to know her, and I wanted to marry her. She's a coworker kind of - different department. I played it cool by ignoring her, but either I want or not, she needs me for consults. So we kind of talked about a month ago, I did not make any moves. Several weeks later since I did not see her for like a month, I e-mailed her with a reference to some technical questions she had, being like "here's some information in layman words". She e-mailed me a week later back going "hey, sorry, was on vacation, bla bla bla... Are you calling me a layman? " To that I was like "Wait who is it? How was it?" meaning vacation but did not hear back.

On call over this weekend and again I get a consult from her. I see the patient, playing it cool, and then make again a point with a reference being like "you see, this is so simple". She goes "you always have this great references". I ask her about her vacation. She says "We went skiing" - I took that cautiously, was she talking about a boyfriend but did not ask. She reframed "my family came up and we went to this place" I made fun of her - "vacations with parents... plus skiing here - man that's boring... I would have hit Aspen or Jackson Hole - the good powder and terrain" She started defending her choice and I smiled. She had to go do something, but when she was back, I asked "Do you know the poor house?" She smiles, "Oh yes, used to there all the time in college..." I ask her, "What time do you get out? Want to do kegs and eggs?" She goes "Sure"... In the morning I check on her - she goes "this was a rough night, I have so much work still left" I say "Well I could wait for a bit - see you in an hour" She goes, "no way", I go, "fine, an hour and a half" she smiles back... After thinking about it and realizing that it's unlikely to happen today I page her in 15 minutes "That's it, I'm divorcing you, and I'm keeping the house and the dog - you tell all our 17 grandchildren... and to celebrate, I'm gonna have bkfast with my own friends..." Since she didn't really respond, on the way out I stop by and go "are you ok with that, grab bkfast tomorrow?" She goes, "look I still have a lot of work, but I'll see you tonight". I did not want to go see her last night, but this morning I ran down - "so, when do you want to have bkfast? ready in an hour?". She goes "ya right, I've been really sick" f&*k f&*k f&*k at which points a bunch of coworkers engage her in conversation as she like totally ignores me... I'm like stuck standing behind her as she's in the chair... f&*k... I respond "you are such a flake" "man" thought she didn't hear, but she turned and smiled, turned back to coworkers at which point I just turned around and walked off... where do I go from here? Likely won't run into her for another month...

I feel like she was interested - thinking of asking her directly... but may not be able to build enough attraction - my understanding is that I would have to start from scratch if I see her in 2 weeks. The problem is that if I search her, I'm automatically showing interest - like asking her for breakfast. Which initially was the innocent coworkers having breakfast but I think then she felt pressured like me asking her for breakfast... and flaked...

I'm thinking that in like 2 weeks I may drop by her and bring in an indirect opener - "Hey, I have a question about this or that..."

Then try to transition to something about her - "have you ever thought about that?"

Then bring in myself - and then directly ask her out - options
1. always wanted to do dancing lessons, do you want to join me
2. have tickets to the basketball game, do you want to join me
3. going out for drinks on Friday, what are you doing?

Granted, with all our schedule I'm running a big risk of a response, "sorry, I'm on call" but hey... worse a try...

Any feedback?

So tonight finally planned to go out with a number of wings from here... Some were busy but one of the guys came out...

We went to an irish pub that typically has a live band, big screens with the game on, and plenty supply of women. I entered the pub, ordered a drink, and watched the hockey game for a while - my wing was new at this. I'm new but I have no problem with approaching - I can pretty much open any set but as I said before, often have trouble transitioning.

First set - 3 girls... They've been sitting at the bar for a while... They were having fun, but during a pause, one girl yawned, second yawned, and third was checking the phone - I approached with one opener I like. I call it the "rule enforcer". In this case - I go "ladies, didn't you see the sign... no boredom allowed, and you are in total violation of that" (along the same line goes, "be quite, you are causing too much noise polution", "double fisting not allowed, you have to share with friends" while I take her second drink - these are all situational openers, but they work for me). From their I transitioned to "so how do you all know each other" (turns out they went to school together). And then switched to having fun at the bar - and what's fun to do... It seems every time I ask girls a question like "what do you do for fun? what's the most fun thing you've done? crazy thing?" I get this thinking thing going on... they can never come up with an answer... or go something like "I don't know, chills, come to a bar". Which allows my DHV like "bars are fun, but that's not most fun... common... you know what I call fun? jumping out of a plane..." to which all girls tonight gave me the "I'm scared of heights, could never do that" and I go "how about motorcycles - I love racing a bike in the summer down the twisty mountain roads, the wind, freedom, just you and the machine" I usually have them hooked by this point... and that's were trouble comes...

At this point I guess the girls show me an IOI but they ask what do you do? I tried to play the Style game but I think I do it wrong... I've used the "lighter repairman" or "car salesman" response, which just annoys them... these girls were engineers, so I thought to make fun of that which made the situation even worse... From there on the thermostat was broken - I could feel warm air, then cold air, warm air, then cold air but could not rebuild it... The girl thought she's all smart and was really laying it into me like I had no education... which was funny to watch... At which point we exited...

Next was a set that just came into the bar - I used the opinion opener... "Valentine's day breakup" "My friend Johnny was just dumped by his girlfriend on Valentines day because he had to work all night long - he was saving lives... And now she wants to get back together... " Girls were into it, they responded, but then they were like "we have to go to the birthday party" I was like where - one of the girls (below average) went why don't you join us... We went across the bar... started talking to the guys in the group, had some fun with them... kind of became friends - trying to work the angle as they had about 5 guys and 10 girls with them... then my wing had to leave, so I circled the bar for a round...

Opened this other set - really cute girl - Blondie... again no problem with approach and transition, but as I tried to move into more DHV's like what's the most fun thing you've done? What's really important to you? She went "those are really hard questions, why are you asking them..." I thought this set is really gonna work... her friends even got me a shot with them (love getting drinks at the bar from girls)... but then about 10 minutes later they were like - we are going dancing... I ejected... (the point that you have to work fast as you never know when the set ends is true)

I then slid right into another set... worked really well, had fun, they even got a bunch of friends with them... The new friends bought me another drink as the initial 2 set had to go to the bathroom... I hang with their other friends for a while, but the girls don't come back, so I went back to my birthday party... The HB4 that invited me to join them was like really drunk... Talked to the guys a bit...

Time to call it a night - so I circled the bar again - saw Blondie talking to another girl and I jumped in and was talking to the new girl "how do you know each other" turn out they just met through friends... I ignored Blondie for a bit, talked to the new girl.. Blondie looked bored... I introduced myself to the new girl... not to Blondie... Blondie was about to leave, I grabbed her by the elbow and go - hey I never got your name.. she goes "you should know it" I say "ok" and talk to first girl... Blondie is upset - "I go really, what's your name" at which point her dance floor friends come to grab her again... I go "how do we continue this conversation" she goes "I can't"... awesome...

Issues: the whole thing of ignoring your target does not work... in every set there's one girl that shows interest... if I ignore her, I loose the whole set... In many sets - only the girl that shows interest actually communicates - the wrest of the set is going on with their thing - not powerful enough openers? They will play in, but leave the two of us alone - it's like the group knows who needs game...

Issues: I loose them late in the game, usually after I tend to ignore them and focus on the rest of the group, or I insult them somehow... I need to play less arrogant and less of a jerk with them... There's a very fine line between jerk and cool guy...

I need input guys - what do you think... By the way - I got 2 guy numbers and the Hb4 number (I'm actually happy with that one as I got it for another purpose - they are all invited to a party I'm hosting later in the year... I thought to use her as the connection to get more girls to the party)

After I left location one I stopped by a familiar place and met a bunch of old friends that I have not seen in a year... they had this cute girl with them - we talked for a bit... I asked "how do we continue this"... She goes, "I'll be back here often..." I was like, "but I won't" and she goes.. I'll see you here... hmm... now what does that mean - I guess I did not have enough time to build attraction...

Great night last night, despite the freezing temperatures and equally freezing girls in line just in front of us with no interest in interaction... No problem... I'm not looking to find my mate at the bar, don't care if I get laid or not tonight (can always bring in the back up), and am out just to have fun, work on my game, social skills, meet new people, and lay groundwork for the future...

I started the night with a shot of Stoli and half a red bull at home - great pick me up, and ends up saving long term since I usually stick with one beer and Sprite while going out... keeps me focused, but also allows me to actually make use of the weekends... I started the night at a Russian party which was quite lame - all men, one set of 3 girls, and 3 dancers in military camo... I got sucked into the dancer girl group for official club pictures, cute, we improvised some fighting moves, took a gansta picture with an fake M16, laughed for a bit and got going... As one of the other guys I got introduce to earlier was talking to the girls, I approached under the pretext "How do you all know Max?"... the girls did not really respond... turns out one was the DJ's girlfriend, one was only like a 4... and she started talking... and the other one, maybe an 8, was really cold and not interested in communicating... we chatted for a bit, a dude jumped in with the 8 and said that they are roommates, which is bull... but after a couple minutes, I ejected... my new Wing was outside...

I met RyDubs - first impression, young, great peacocking qualities, smooth calm manner of speech, a Justin Timberlake type persona, and moves that I would assume to Style... We decided to hit this place - Storytown... but the line was around the block... a group of girls was leaving the line and I just hackled them on the street... they paid some attention, I told them we will meet them at the Bar, as we ourselves conferred and decided line not worth it, going to the Bar... there we saw the girls as expected, started chatting with not much response from the group... At this point my wing pulls a very smooth move - take off his jacket and asks the girls for the bathroom. When directed, he acts all confused, puts his arm out, and while putting a time constrain "it'll be just a second" asks the girl to show him where the bathroom is. She really thought hard about it... if not for the age difference, and perhaps if we would have built a bit more time with them... that would have totally worked... I was stunned...

While he was gone, I left the Bar and walked to the Pub across the lobby... Two 9s at the bar, I approach from the side and order a drink then turn to them and go, "My friend is waiting for me, and he's trying to hook me up with his friend... How do I tell him I'm not interested" opinions around, kind of funny... but I could just not transition, clinging to the opener "tell me what you usually do in that situation?" they go "to a guy, I just tell them I'm not interested, but that's too harsh for a girl... tell her you have a girlfriend or something..." I go "well, do you want to play that for tonight" - "No thank you"... we chat back to the opinion opener and girls go "this conversation is not going anywere"... could not transition for the life of me - I think their looks and confidence intimidated me... could have used my typical transition "how do you two know each other?" but was not popping in at which point I went "well, gonna go try it with my friend, but I'll see you girls later". Caught up with my wing, tried to get drinks at the Bar, waiter was talking to this two girls - I approach going "so how does a guy get drinks around here?" the girls flag the bartender - I ask "how you girls know each other" turns out they went to high school together with the bartender... my wing was familiar and stated talking chatting about that... the girl was totally into him... but I don't think he was interested - we decided to get drinks at the Pub... on the way, met 3 friends in the lobby, chatted for a bit, walked into the Pub but no available sets... my friends decided to hit another place... we saw a hot mixed set... I thought of approaching, wing was anxious... Told him, come by in a minute with the line "dude, have you seen Michelle?" (standard routine - gives us social proof - we have our own mixed crowd...). Girls were on the phones - I feel that's always an opener... A girl on the phone means she's bored, looking for something to do, not entertained... I use my standard line "no cell phones allowed, this is a place of fun" they go "dude, we are planning a bachelorette party" we chant, turns out the bride to be and groom were there... I ignore the girls and start talking to the guys, introduce myself... I go "so for a bachelorette party, where's the male strippers?" the guys give me a shit test "do you even know of what you are talking about, have you been to any?" I actually crashed a number in college... bring up this group at Shampoo in Philly "where we actually spend the night playing with shampoo bubbles - they had a floor where they would blow foam on it... fun and wet stuff" My wing approached me and I tried to introduce him as a male stripper for the bachellorete party, but he pulled me aside... His point - I needed to calibrate - girls were not into it...

He is right - but it's so hard to do... How do you decide that it's time to exit... girls not interested - does that mean that you have not build attraction yet, or you lost the set? We went back to the Bar - I approached a set with the line "I think I know you from the hospital?" (figured it builds me a DHV and girls may ask you about it) She goes, "nah, no way, I don't think I would be good with a knife..." I insist - she tells me she's from Rhode Island... we talk about it for a bit... but I exit to find my wing... plus, girl was just visiting...

We decide to check out another place down the street... As we enter, I see a two set - tell my wing to go for it... I make a circle - find a friend, she's chatting with some guys - tells me they are being jerks... I go hey now... I give her a hug, we laugh, chat for a minute... I go - hey, gonna get a drink... she's barely holding hers... I walk to a bar, get two sprites and a beer - take the beer and walk to my wing, give it to him (figured out that builds social proof for him)... turns out my friend is in group with the two girls... we all laugh, introduce ourselves - I leave my wing with them and circle the bar... tried to open a walking set, they keep walking...

I run into this blonde checking her phone... I approach "no cellphones"... she turns to me and goes, "I think I had the worst day of my life" (later it turns she said date)... that is too easy... turns out she was setup with this guy who went "I'm sorry I'm so borring" all night long, as well as "I think you are too good for me"... I was thinking - I guess those could have been teases, but evidently he kept on them to the point that she had to stop him, supposedly told him, look, you are a cool guy, stop appologizing and telling me you are borring... I guess she struck a cord with him cause he told her he does not need advice from her... at which point she wished him good night... funny story... I tell her "I feel bad for the guy, but I'm glad cause now I got to meet her"... I tell her "I don't think there's borring people in Boston" with the schools, the ocean, the mountains... "I mean, I spend the whole day skiing today, race motorcycles in the summer, had lots of fun going flying out of New Bedford" I think she has an accent - she tells me know, she's from Main - I go awesome, I just spent a week there in the fall at the Acadia park - she's intrigued, we talk about it - I offer to show her pictures from Acadia on my phone... (Note to self, organize pictures in folders) I run into pictures of my motorcycle, me driving one of the duck boats, some pictures of severely mangled extremities which freak her out (but acts as the transition into my work, which is a DHV), finally we go through pictures of Main... all this time I keep teasing and negging her... I think I go too far... she tells me - you are so confident... I'm like a total looser compared to you... yet she's a law student, finishing early, looking to save the world through the environment, worked in Africa, is a ballet dancer taking lessons with Boston ballet, has been dressing horses... I tease her... "no, no... I'm sorry I'm so borring... you are just too good for me" she goes stop it... I say you need a hub... we hug... I kiss her on the hair... she leans in... we chat some more... she asks me about my job... I give a whole philosophical spill that jobs don't define people... like she's a lawyer - and I don't give a shit... I think what makes her cool is ballet, horses, fun stuff... she insists - I tell her "if I tell you what I do, I'm afraid you will fall in love immediately, and then I could not get rid of you"... she says "oh, well... you don't have to... you seem to feel uncomfortable telling me some things" (all this time I was trying to play misterious... shift in game... it does not work... or I don't know how to lay it)... I tell her about my job... I ask her about ESP... guess 3, but then second number was 9... I went 7, 8... but then was like, no, I guess me and you can't work out... we don't have ESP... she goes... but I thought of 9... that was awfully close... I was waiting for you to say 7, 8,9... I use that and give her another hug, this time kissing her on the cheek... I lean in and we start making out.. I look at her and go - you are quite a thing, I'm afraid you'll hurt me... we make out some more... she looks around - "I feel like everybody is probably watching me right now, we are making out at the bar... I never do that" I go - "yes, everybody is watching, so we better give them a show.." She says she needs to take the jacket off, it's too hot... I say, "yes, I'm that good... I can take your clothes off without even using my hands... shirt goes necks... pants, but we leave the boots on"... she goes again - you are so confident... I tell her the panties joke "guy walks into a bar and stairs at his watch - this girls looks at him and asks - is your date running late? He says, no, I just got this cool watch and playing with it... She asks - what's so special about the watch? he goes, well... it has this alpha wave technology and talks to me... she giggles and goes - so what is it telling you right now? the guy looks at the watch and says - it says you got no panties on. the girls laughing says - sorry to disappoint you but I got my panties on. The guys looks back at the watch and says - damn, my watch is one hour fast" she giggles, we make out some more... I tried to walk away a couple times as the conversation gets tensioned... both of us are trying to figure out what's next... she tells me - hey, despite what you think, I'm not a slut... I go "wow, you are wrong... I'm not that easy, you can't do that to me" and walk away... get away 10 yards and turn back, she is lost... I walk back, we make out some more - I go - do you want to get out of here? She gets her jacket and I ask her how she's getting home... She says - I need a cab... I offer to drive her, she agrees... my car is like 4 blocks away... we drive home... all roads around her place are like diverted by cops... she says, "I'm sorry - I can walk if you are tired of driving in circles" I tease her... "well, let's not walk in circles, I better get lucky tonight" while giggling... she giggles back, I grab her hair... finally figured how to get to her place by going down an alley... At her place things are progressing but I stop her... I say... look, this is too fast... and excuse myself to go home... she runs after me - wait, you are not gonna even get my phone (totally forgot since my phone died earlier in the night)... I go, no, I had fun.. she plays hurt, finds a paper and writes down her name and phone number... we make plans to see each other during the day today - but she has dinner with friends tonight... at this point since I slept most of the day and I still got a bunch of stuff to do, I think I'm gonna ditch her today. Instead, I'm gonna invite her over to my place later in the week for dinner and a movie - my rule... no dates on Fri or Sat night... that's the boys night out!

I'm still confused on theory... I can't get the game to work for me... going by my old theory... I believe social interactions are like Brownian motion... presumably random drifting of particles... with random collisions... and random reactions... ultimately, the number of collisions is defined by the size of container and number of particles... some elements react, some don't... Translation: I find that as I open sets some girls like me some don't... same way goes in reverse, I like some, others I don't... and I know that in about 3 seconds... so ultimately, the more sets I open (collisions), the higher my chance of finding somebody who I like and they like me (reactions)... The initial interaction establishes in seconds, after that it's building attraction and comfort where routines help... Now - I have not figured out how to get that 10 who has no interest at all in me... they tend to remain passive even after I spend 25 minutes with the group... bringing up crazy hobbies, fun stuff, questions, routines... I guess - just got to keep working on the game... so I can create an electric field wherein particles are no longer random, but oriented in the same phase as me...

So... I started conversation with this girl at work... Probably Hb6-7, cute... Pushed DHV off the bat 'well, u will probably be gone by 5 drinking martinis on the beach...' she goes, 'I don't know what life u r living, but that's not me' I go, 'common, I usually hit the happy hour, go for a run, have fun and stuff - what are u doing tonight?' the question stopped her - 'hmm, I got class, why?' started chatting... This that... I go, 'may go to a party on Saturday, what are u doing?' 'i don't know yet' 'what's ur number, I let u know if anything going on...' and there u go... After that felt a connection with her... Saw the puppy eyes everybody is talking about... Too bad I won't call her on Sat...

In the evening I went out for dinner with another two guys and a girl coworker... The table we were about to get seated only had 3 chairs... The table over which had 3 guys and two girls stole one of the chairs... I looked at one of the girls and went "I want my chair back now" all serious, she was like "sure, I'm sorry" I jumped laughing... we got a chair from another table and sat talking. I looked back at the girl and she was looking at me and smiled. I sat some more, slowly the group left one by one and only the two girls were there... I turn to them and go "what's wrong with you two - everyone is leaving you" a minute later one of the girls goes to the bathroom and I turn around and move into an empty seat at the table with the other girl. I say "everyone left you" she asks me where do I work as I was in scrubs... I go - "wow, that's straight forward... and a bit weird" she goes, well I work at this hospital too... I'm like "so? I'm just a janitor and got this scrubs for free" she smiles, I say, ok ok I'm at the same hospital right now... she says, "I only ask cause my brother is the same" we chatted about this and that... her friend came over - really pretty girl " and introduced herself... I ignored the first girl and tried to talk to her friend. The first girl jumps in going "where did you go to school?" I go to her friend "wow, is she always like that?" and totally ignore the girl... we chat a bit longer as the first girl is getting a bit annoyed... I get "your food is here and getting cold" I got, ya - better get to it, and get up to walk away... the girls go - "you should really visit us at the hospital..." I guess I will... Now question - which girl should I go for? I worked the first girl as the target - but realized that I would really want the other girl, whom I actually chatted with, but did not see nearly the same response... Any chance to get them both? that would be fun... but almost impossible... too early in my game... Please help!!!

Oh - I also talked to the waiter for a bit... I opened her up talking about the watch she had - some designer brand... She could not stop talking - then told me how she dunk it in the hot tub... I reverted to a made up story about naked girls, me, a hot tub, and waking up on the lawn (typical movie scene) - she bought it... I negged her cause her hot tub story involved her parents and her having beers... my table was like thinking it's really funny - they were all all over me... She was like really friendly and stuff... so I was like "what time you get off" she goes "midnight" I go "well, I'll be asleep by then..." To be honest, wasn't interested in her at all... but now I do it just for the fun of it... it's a game!!!

I don't know if it's real or not... but I've been having fun so far...

Thursday - martini tasting... My friends are there, I play social - talk to the bartender with the drinks to the point that she forgets to ask me for my drink tickets... Open up a Dutch twosome - both HB6 probably - and they tend to be boring. First they ask for weed, next they complain about guys grinding against them at the club. I ask them to come along, they tell me the Prue will be more fun. I agree and rejoin my friends going across the street...

Back to city bar, except this time it's the restaurant next to it. My friends are ordering appetizers, I hang out... The waiter/greeter looks bored up front. I mention that - she says she's waiting for something fun to happen... I do the coin grab game - she's good, I'm bad. She tells me she's a psychology student - I bring up Freud, Nietzsche - ask her if she's really sexual... cause that's what psychoanalysis seems to center on... she giggles, tells me that's not true... we argue... I run the cube on her... she says it's accurate but does not believe it's a real thing... I keep myself entertained. Her friend is really into it, she was just listening so far. My friends are making a riot (mixed party - the vocal ones are mainly the girls) - "are you teaching her how to drive? Do you have to ask her parents first? You may have to move states where 16 is legal..." I apologize and exit - figured it's a hired gun that can come in handy... Plus she was really cute - Hb7?

We decide to change location.. The club down the street is empty - we join the upscale minibar next door. Somehow we get VIP SPAM - it may have been the posh attitude and snobby drink requests that my friends are making. I leave them to talk to this couple at the bar. Darn - they know the game... Mystery and VH1 ruined my entry... I stayed with it - turned it around and ask them what's their favorite pickup line. As funny as it is - the girls think the singing in the shower vs masturbation is the best - they would really think it's funny - but they concur that the delivery is the most crucial thing. The target is really cute and social. But her friend gives me a shit test after shit test... I'm forced to qualify - she gives me shit about my specialty - does not believe me. The target is really entertained by her girlfriend - we chat... It turns out their russian, I speak russian, we share jokes. It turns out we went to a number of same parties, but never met. It's a good 30 minute conversation. Finally, I excuse myself to join my friends but I ask her how do we do that again, does she want me to call her. The target passes my phone to her friend. I smile and go, fine then, I better rejoin my friends. I leave for a minute. After 5-10 minutes I walk back and go - so? Her friend asks me - well, why not be direct - whose phone number do you want? I tell her, "I like you both, but you have been busting my balls all night, so I'm really into the target" The target gives me the standard line "I don't do this - I don't give numbers out"... The friend goes - here, and gives me the target's full name... I go, "what do I do with that?" "You are a smart boy, you got a computer, you will figure it out" I pull the phone and find her fast - they giggle... I'm like - ok? The friend goes - why don't you email her, and I'm sure we'll all see each other again... My friends are pulling me away. I wish them good night.

We get a security escort to the club downstairs. It's bumping now... I didn't realize though how hard it is to have game in the club with music blasting... so far I've been trying the routines at bar/pubs - music but also space for conversation. People are dancing, I take my friends for a spin - they girls are all into it, they grind against me. I circle the club, see one hot 18 year old in a group of 10 dancing her head off... Over my shoulder I go "you are the best thing that happened to me tonight" - she looks at me and smiles, no further response. I finally see the set I'm interested in... An HB9 blonde, I open them up - turns out they are low students on vacation this week, study by day, party by night... shortly she asks me what do I do? my mistake - I infer to it too easily (typically I've been building to it which works much better. You tell people I'm a doctor, they call bullshit... You tell people, look, if I tell you, you may see me different... you may fall in love... and I'm not ready for that). She calls bullshit... I tell her the entire group is doctors - she goes really and walks over to talk to one of the old guys in the group... She comes back - I ask her - so? She's more convinced - tells me thought that all the guys in Boston are just full of shit... they all lie and make up stuff... Nevertheless, she's not convinced - I struggle... Her friends comes and grabs her by the hand to go dancing... I hang with my friends for a bit and go find her again. Same thing... I grab my friend who is a neurosurgeon and bring him along - tell him I need a wingman... When we get back the girlfriend found a guy friend and was already busy. I start taking to the target - my friend starts taking with her too. I hang for a bit as they are talking - the other girl in the group comes and grabs me. I figured will work on jealousy. 10 minutes later I see my friend with the target in a corner - I'm tired and a bit frustrated, about to head home. I walk to my friend and go - hey dude, I'm out, gotta get up early morning. He goes - "dude, been talking you up for the last 10 minutes and now you are leaving?" I smile - the girl jumps in going "why are you mad with your friend? he was talking you up, but then you left with the other girl so... " I am too tired to respond - could have come up with something along "are you jealous?" instead I say - "I'm out, cheers girl" Went home quite frustrated... Where do you go from there? I know she ultimately was probably more interested in my friend... Trying to recover would have been quite hard - any advice?

Friday - another night for going out - instead a friend calls me and tells me he's got tickets to a concert... I was grabbing dinner with the girl I picked up at the restaurant the other day - the one at the next table who stole my chair. I debated with myself, the weekends are the only time I have to go out, and even though concerts are great, I am not sure about this band. The venue is appealing and I concede. After dinner, the girl drives with me to the venue, I park, and we walk to the corner to catch her a cab. We make out a bit while waiting. I walk back to the venue and my friend is not there yet. I go to the bar and grab a sprite. Start talking to a guy in the group next to me - the Celtics game is on. The season has been back and forth. They buy shots and offer me a shot. I smell it and pass it back on laughing - tequila is not my drink. Nevertheless, it's fun... This is like my 5th free drink offer over last couple weeks - I can in no way call myself a social butterfly, but working on it. Sometimes though I feel drained, I just want to be in the corner, watching the game, and not talking to anybody. The group left to go in. The couple next to me are having a quick bite at the bar. The guy leaves and I engage the girlfriend. I ask her where's the diamond, but then turn around and start building the guy. No plans to steal her, but figured I'd see how the straw man technique works. It's hard to build up somebody you don't know...

My friend got there and we went in - the band was not bad - Moe. The crowd was really grunge... I turn over my shoulder and see this blonde, HB6-7, cute but not anything I would really be interested in. This guy is try to pick her up and she looks at me helpless, rolls her eyes. I think too long and miss the opportunity. Her friend pulls her out and they disappear in the crowd.

Mystery is right about girls and the proximity alert. I saw this cute couple walking in earlier. They were by the bar, then talking to guys here and there. 15 minutes later, I turn over my shoulder again and see her right behind me. I offer her to move up front as it would be hard to see over my shoulder. She is quite shy but a bit weird. I neg her, we chat, my friend comes into the conversation, I keep making fun of her, she rubs against me. I think it's funny but not that interested - where's the 10s... That's what I've been wanting... I excuse myself and go get a drink. My friend continues the conversation - he gets her number shortly but looses her. He wants to go after her - I tell him no, she'll be back. I was right, shortly she circles back to us. I give them space and work my way to the stage - after finding a spot right up front, I text him - "now, take her by the hand and bring her up front, I got you a spot" 5 minutes later they join me. She smiles, laughs with me - I could totally steal her. For a second I think of a game - we should see who can close on her fastest - but then give up on it.

After the concert we meet our friends at Liberty. The girls are giving me a hard time as I'm not paying attention to them. We walk downstairs and a MILF runs into me - one of our girls tells me - "no, just not her, you are better than that" I smile, 5 minutes later this really cute girl, totally drunk pushes into my friend and spills her drink. I teasingly give her attitude - she looks at me and tells me "kiss me right now" 30 seconds... The girl is really an 8, but the way she was dressed up 10... the center of attention of the whole place... Designer stilettos, a neglige, and long nude legs with a g-string... As I'm making out with her, I pass my drink to my friends, and get physical in the corner. She tells me she's gotta give me her hotel key, then she goes all scared and tells me "she does not want me to get in trouble, she's got some powerful people there" then her sister tries to pull her away, I give her sister a hug and chat with her, she's one pissed off little girl who is below average... sister leaves, I make out some more with the target - she tells me "ask me on a date - tomorrow" I say let's grab breakfast - she tells me she won't be up until noon... I go brunch - she grabs my phone and gives me her number. The bar is closed, the bouncers are pushing us out. She does not want to leave, I drag her by the hand. As we exit - this guy of GQ magazine calls her name - she runs to him... My friends say "dude - make sure you have a wad of cash tomorrow, cause she's one expensive escort". A bit later I text her - "are you safe" She texts back when I'm already home asleep...

I did see her next day - after hours of texting back and forth with her convincing me to come over... I did go... she shared a room at the W hotel with her sister... we spent a couple hours chatting - these girls were the strangest and unintelligible girls I met. The sister tells me how she f*&cked a Bruins player right in that bed... the she tells me she just posted bail for her drug lord boyfriend... the complains how the boyfriend tried to make out with the target (her sister). I try the cube - both of them are familiar with it. I try other techniques - they are not focused enough to follow. I wonder if they want to go out and explore the city - both of them had horrible hangovers and would not get out of bed. I cuddle but exit as my friends keep texting me... In retrospect, I needed to have balls and make out right off the bat with the target and then rope the sister into it... Why else would they want me there... They were bewildered when I teasingly told them they are boring, and decided to leave...

Called the Dinner girl and told her I'm picking her up in 10 minutes. She was like "what?" give me another 5 minutes to get ready - I say "ain't got time" Pick her up and head to the Harpoon brew fest - I regretted bringing her along... never saw so many beautiful Irish girls in the same place... how do you pick them up when you have a girl with you?

Back to the scene - cold night... I was reading an article today form 60 years of challenge and a point was brought up - the first 30 minutes of the night can be crucial... The define the mood and provide the motivation for the inner game. Part true part not... Mon nights can be rough that way. Zander Dot was driving down to meet at a small pub/concert venue in Cambridge. I got there first - the place has about the different small venues. The guy asks me for $10 dollars at the door - I'm like it's Mon night, give him my drivers licence and tell him I'll be right back. Walk in - about 10-15 people jamming to the band - only one two person set available and they were a 5-6. I think to open them, but chickened under the circumstances and walked out. Next I try the next door - the concert just finished, it was like an 18 or under 18 event, a lot of kids walking out, some cute girls, but this Cambridge Police officer was supervising the crowd from the stairs and really was checking me out (imagine a guy in a suit and black striped shirt mingling with the hipster 16 year old crowd, red or green jeans, black nails, mohawks). I waked up to this girl who was probably 18-19 and asked her about the event. She tells me it was some "hard core concert". I ask her what do you mean, but exit shortly... Felt so uncomfortable - she's a kid... and even though it would be kind of fun, I felt inappropriate (I'm 29).

At that point start walking down the street towards the next venue, walk in and it still looks really quiet... Maybe 2-3 sets available but difficult, one was a mixed set, one couple was having dinner at the bar, and one was at a table talking. Met Zander and we decided to check out Harvard Square. There we find a half decent club with a salsa/merenga night, Rio carnival dancers shaking their naked behinds, and a mixed crowd. The few girls available were dancing with male partners. I guess it's hard to pick up girls in the middle of a salsa party if you are late. Early on you could find the single girl out there looking for a partner. Once the dance is going, most people are situated. A trio walks in - 2 beautiful blondes, probably Hb 8-9 and an indian older guy with them - strange combination. Zander approaches and after 5 minutes call me in. I say hi and detecting an accent ask about it - they tell me Germany. I switch to how do you all know each other - the are neuroscientists visiting for the day - leave tomorrow... Darn... The indian guy eyes us - I engage him - they met a conference in Germany. The girl turns out is just coming from Philadelphia - awesome, I ask about Philadelphia since I went to school there. Try to bring common spots, she seems to not know much about the night scene in Philly. I make fun of her "all work, no play", and bring up Germany and the rave parties. She tells me there's no such thing here... I tell about Shampoo and Egypt which have house/trance floors, and we chat a bit about house trance. Chat about traveling. At which point the indian guy and the other girl return from coat check and drag the girl to the bar to get drinks. I thought about it, and after conferring with Zander, decided to move venues.

After walking into a diner and asking this random girl couple about a place to party, it seems there's not much going on in Cambridge. We drive to Boston and find a pub that's open. As I walk in, I see a party to the side in a private room. I stick my head in, smile, and go, so this is where the party is. This girl smiles back and says yes. I turn to a guy and ask what's on - it turns out one of the waiters from the restaurant next door is transferring to a different venue, so they threw a party. I think about it and go back to the bar to buy a couple drinks and a shot for the guy leaving. I figured I would use that as our entry to take over the party. One of the girls walks out, I open her with you look cute and leaving the party... Let me guess - as I tell her the location. She smiles - yes... I tell her I'm psychic, and do the number guessing game - 3 and 7. She is entertained, chatted another minute at which point I tried to move her to a bar chair. She tells me she's got to say hi to her friends but will be right back.

I start moving towards the party and we see this group coming in - I do a situational opener, everybody is from all over the place. Phoenix, Chicago, Florida, Long Island, and Nashville (some big country singer who just left from a concert). I make a joke that it's the UN of America. The guy tells me he's from Phoenix - I go where's that with a completely serous face (remember, I have a bit of an accent). He tells me arizona - I tell him "where's that?" He looks baffled, not knowing what to say - I say "Is that in Hawaii, like the battleship Arizona?" He really looks baffled, not knowing what to say "Na, no".... I explode "I'm fucking with you" He tries to talk to this Blonde girl in the group who's like a 5-6. I join that conversation - she's from Long Island visiting Boston for the day... leaving tomorrow again... As she told me New York beforehand, I give her shit for that... We talk about traveling, she tells me they are driving North - I give them pointers, bring up my phone and show them pictures from Main in the fall with all the colors. She tells me she's originally from Norway (her mom), we talk about Europe - she insists that Norway is better then England. No way - London is like the party city, the New York equivalent of nightlife. She acts offended. I tell her I feel like she's "quite sensual and I have a connection with her". Run the number guessing game - 3 and 7 again... She is bewildered, keeps pressuring me how I knew... I tell her I can just feel her energy.. She doesn't believe me - I tell her we can run it on her friend (friend chooses 4 and I on purpose screw up the top tier by asking now give me a number between 1 and 7, but that was later)... I run the cube on her, she really falls over that. She talks about her support system and her dad. Tells me that they think so alike and she has not met any other people like that. I tell her that I feel like I think like her. She is really taken - tells me that that's true and she's never met people like me (I was like wow... I mean she's a 5-6, but I never had anybody complimenting and building me up all night... At that point I was invincible). Zander started working the country singer, a 8-9, but really a 10 when you consider her celebrity status and cool personality. I joke with her. Keep negging her. Then she gets excited - where are you from? I'm talking to the blonde and ignore her. She keeps calling my name. I tell her friends - wow she's really needy, how do you work with that. She even gets up and grabs me by the hand and goes - "listen" I am totally rude "I'm talking right now". She goes "where are you from - I really want to know". I tell her, "sit down little girl, will get to you in time, let me finish my conversation". Zander continues working her. I spin my blonde, we are making out in minutes, I take her to a different side of the bar - her friends is eyes us but does not interfere. The blonde is laughing really loud, everything I say is funny, everything I do is over the top. I feel her up - she pushes back a little bit, I go "this is too fast for me, I can't do that" and pull back, she comes in for another kiss.

My wing goes in for a kiss, the singer pulls away and goes - "I just met you". I should have stayed away - but then did the stupid shit and intervened, which may have ruined Zander's game - I'm sorry buddy... I tried to bring the 5 question game with my wing getting a kiss... Next time I should have just told it for him to run, do not intervene, let him recover... I continued making out with the Blonde - she asks where do we go from here? I tell her she's the boss... I say we can continue partying - do they all want to come over to my place. She says "it's too soon - she can't do that". I then say we should go to their hotel - she says "I want to see you in the morning". We keep having fun - we get kicked out as the place is closing. They do not take first, second, third cab... She tells me she has to go back tomorrow but if I want she'll stay another night. I say fine, what are you guys doing tomorrow? She goes - "will you call me?" I tell her - look little girl - run away, I'm trouble for you. She insists - "don't you need my number?"

Too bad I didn't drive cause could have done my typical routine - let me take you home, then a long make out session in the car with buttons coming off, things undone, after which tension builds up so much that the girl can't resist... As Zander took me back the Blonde texts me back - she tells me they forgot the card at the place and may have to go back - I tell them I can drive... I call the bar - they would not just give me the card and they don't open till 4PM next day. I call the blonde back - we flirt a bit, she tells me that now I'm stuck seeing her... as since they have to get the card back they just booked another night... we start somehow talking about Victoria Secret... she likes black, I like that but have to go with red... She tells me she wears red when feeling spicy... I go how you feel now - she gives me the line "black............ pause.... I just don't know you well enough... but I really really want to see you in the morning" I go, "not sure about that, you call me when you got the red victoria secret" she giggles "call me tomorrow"

Thanks Zander!!!