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@SA911 & phangan
But I have another question, if you are escalating hard and fast how long should you wait before asking her to come home with you? Are there times where you shouldn't ask or should you always try and reach that point of asking whether it works or not? e.g. she says she has work early in the morning.
There is no specific time to ask, you must go with the flow, but suggesting as soon as comfort is set, is probably your best bet. You don't have to come right out and say it, but you can put out feelers and react based on her reactions.
The less time you can spend on a woman that will not go home with you that night the more time you have to work on others.
FEELERS: What would you like me to make you for breakfast? ( smile)
Do you like to cuddle when you are falling asleep? I am a great cuddler
I have a comfy bed, You'll see when you come over tonight.
I have a cute shirt or pj's you can sleep in tonight.
I give great massages, I can put you to sleep tonight in minutes.
etc etc. etc. Follow up on her reactions. If she say's oh really? with a smile and maybe say's what makes you think I am going home with you tonight. Simply say, well I am not assuming anything, but it would be in your best interest to come with me. etc etc. What you are looking for is positive responses. if she flat out tells you she is not going home with you that night. Then it's time to get the digits, and start to show more interest in her and seeing her again, rather then getting her home that night.
Note: Don't ask her to come home with you, beat around the bush and follow her lead. Unless you have already spent a good effort on sexual escalation. Kissing, heavy petting. etc etc. If there is already a lot of sexual interest, then you can come right out and say you're coming home with me, or lets get out of here.
Never ask, you will be giving her the power, and the opportunity to flake. If she is on the fence and not sure if she wants to leave with you, by giving her the option to say no, there is a good chance she will. But if she is on the fence and you take control, there is a good chance she will come home with you.
Always build comfort first, this will allow you to operate freely be it sexually, cocky, confident and animalisticly. If she thinks you're a decent guy, you can act these ways without her getting creeped out.
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e.g. she says she has work early in the morning.
Response: well then we should get out of here now, don't worry I have a great never fail alarm clock. What do you want for breakfast?
If she say's she cant or doesn't want to, you say, thats ok, you can come check out my place when we hang out again.
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Secondly if she does not comply will this affect your chances of getting a day 2?
Not is you have built comfort and have mutual interest. The key here is to not be pushy, if she turns down the SNL, keep showing interest in her but drop the take home, once you know the ONS is not gonna happen, start to show more interest in her, show that you want to spend more time with her, on another day, start to paint the picture of your next encounter. The more intriguing you can make it the better. Also it is important to stay in contact, you must keep the fire hot. A lot of guys fuck up by waiting for a few days to text or call the girl, this is a NO NO. Text her that night or the next morning. Stay within her thought process. Stay flirtatious, but exhibit interest in her. Set up the next encounter ASAP.
Having day two's ( in my experience) Is more fun. It takes out the pure sexuality and alcohol and makes it a much more pure seduction. Often SNL's are alcohol influenced. And not a true seduction.
I tend to not focus on SNL's from bars. I like to seduce a womans mind/body/soul. I am addicted to the chase, if a women gives it up to easily ( for me) It defeats the purpose.
I'll still take it if it's there, and it's fun to pull a woman out of a club, but it's more fun to pull a woman that is showing a bit of a challenge.
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