Okay so there's a "good girl" that I used to chat with a lot. Eventually I met someone else though. Now a few months later I'm single so two days ago I start chatting with her again. She was very responsive and sent long messages. We scheduled a date on Monday (cafe at my place).

Yesterday however I invited her to a friends place, pretty late. At like 23:00. She came and we talked for an hour. There was like 9 of my friends and her:P. During this time I got a bit drunk so perhaps I seemed needy in convo. The thing is that when I went out to meet her at my friends I got to liking her at first sight. And I can't game women I like (I'm just good at picking up strangers). So now I'm all insecure and needy, hence this post.

She had to go pretty early because of her parents or something. She warned me of this before. Actually, she stayed longer than I thought she would

Anyway I believe we had strong conversation. But when I walked her home (I did'nt go with her all the way to her place though because of leg injury) and said goodbye: SHE GAVE ME A HANDSHAKE. I slapped her hand and told her to give me a hug instead. It was a pretty good hug. Then she said see you on Monday and I said "yeah".

Here comes the problem though:
Today I text her:13:01 "Glad you could make it:) sorry about the party not being that great"
her15:04: Yesyes its chill! It was fun that I could come, thank the host"
me: 16:27"he says glad you could come. Did it you get home in one piece by the way?"
her instant reply: Yea, went perfectly alright! how about you?"
me: instant reply"good, but had to run to the train... that did not fit my limping x)"
her: instant reply "ouch yeaah!! haha"

I just feel that the vibe was lost in these texts. Does anyone has any advice on what to do now? This girl goes to my school, isn't a part of my social circles though

It sounds like things haven't gotten beyond the polite with this girl. She's being nice to you, but there doesn't thing seem to be anything sexual going on.

I would look for other women to game. Let go of this one for a while.

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Do not listen to the above post....

Your analyzing that text and being way to insecure. I don't know how the swedish girls work, but if a girl comes alone to hangout with you at 2300 after not seeing you for a couple of months than she is down.

Calm down about the hold handshake, that what girls who don't know how to lead do. They give handshakes. Why? Because they want to be lead by a man who will slap their hand away and sweep them off there feet with a kiss.

Your fine, if I were you, I would stop texting her because I am guessing you feel you need to be validated. Just enjoy the cafe date at your place and make sure she's comfortable. You do that, and you'll be getting laid,

your boy,

samex

stop texting her so much, stop worrying, invite her out, and get working on trying to make out with her, and add some flirtation to this boring a-sexual interaction, keep hitting her up until she either rejects you or starts flaking (comming up with excuses to not meet up with you)

GOOD LUCK

Thanks for advice guys. I´ll call her on Monday and set up the times. Since I did kino and hold good eye contact, I'd say I can make it all alright. Also I did the sexual texting when we chatted months ago so she knows what I'm about.

Sweden out

Edit:

Okay here's what happened since last update:

she texted me late at night asking for when we were meeting (sunday). She wanted to get a cofe in the city. I said no coffe at my place. She said no "I'm not that kind of girl". I was pretty baffled here. Anyway yaydayada.
me: haha you're really something extra. Got to sleep now, I´ll call you tomorrow about the times"
her: I´ll take that as a compliment! you're not so average yourself. Sleep well, cya "

Then I meet her at the trainstation on monday. I have a warm cop of tea for her when she gets off the train. We walk for like 4 kilometers or something. With my leg injury it took quite the while. She laughed a lot during the walk and I enjoyed her company. No kiss at the end of date but we said we would see each other after our respective vacations (next week then probably).

I'm able to play it cool now. I've been with this type of girl before. I know her type and what to do. Don't really regret not kissing her even, would prefer a more romantic setting.

Sweden out

I´ll update in some weeks perhaps if anyone is interested