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What up y'all
This is my first time on here, but I figured no better place to go, eh?
I have an issue with this chica and I need some aid from the pros, so here goes:
This chick had been into me and dropped her number to me on fb. She gave it to me, so I took the initiative and texted her about 30 min after I got it. Thank God I did too because she invited me out to the bar that night.
Night went smoothly, played a great game; lots of negging and I finally got her away from her friends. Good thing too cuz it was her friend's 21st. I told her we should get out of there and go to another bar where we could actually hear each other and have a drink, she agreed.
We bounced and eventually ended up back at my place (only told her she could stay for 20 min or so mind you
) To make this story short now, we ended up making out and she stayed the night.
I know it could've escalated further sexually, but I didn't wanna push it as I'm really into this girl. We hung out again a couple nights later, but she had to bounce early and I wasn't about to try to push it there either...but now I'm thinking maybe I should have.
Past couple of days, I couldn't get her to text me back really. I know she's in to me and everything and I have a couple of theories as to what's going through her head, but I need some advice on how to capitalize here and turn this around in my favor. Anyone have any thoughts on what I should do?
My initial thought was a freezeout and to cut all contact with her til she's fighting for my attention again, but I wanted to solicit other opinions as well
the bolded is the wrong idea, and shows the wrong intent to her, if you really like her you would want to give her some sex, as that is what she wanted or she would not have come to your house and invited you out, not escalating ruins things and she doesn't get what she wants and eventually loses interest
she wants to get laid and have it ''just happen'', but resist along the way and play hard to get so it is more stimulating for her, expect lmr, but don't reject a girl from having sex with you, when that is clearly what she wants, you will only regret not taking the opportunity when the window was open, especially once the window closes,
the more invested in you, you can get a girl the sooner, the better
it is more likely if there is a connection that she will backwards rationalize that you are special to her if she sleeps with you, rather then you are special because you won't
you have to wait for her to come around and not be too pushy or clingy, or super over eager to get her out, you should move on to other things in the mean time to keep you busy and the next time you get an opportunity, take it, don't ''not risk it cause you really like it'', take the risk, you have to be willing to lose the girl to get her, just keep in mind and remember she wants to fuck you, but all girls have anxiety about having sex the first time with someone just like you get approach anxiety (you can push through it and make it a non-issue but the feeling still exists), don't feel like you have to do some amazing special tricks or trick a girl into getting her to want to sleep with you, chances are she wanted to from the get go and the longer you wait the more impatient she gets and loses intrest as there are other guys out there that will gladly sleep with her
CHAT
