I've been asking myself this question for about a week now and it makes no sense to me. If I accept myself for who I am right now, Then how will I have the same motivation to change and start living my life to the fullest? I haven't even had a genuine conversation with a girl in over 6 months, why would I want to live like that. If I tell myself I'm awesome the way I am and I don't even need to change, Then how am I going to live the life I want to live?

All that self acceptance non sense is bullshit.. Be who you want to be..

One thing you have to realize is the guy you "think" you are is just a character your playing.. Similar to when a good actor takes on a role in a movie.. They become that character. You've just led yourself to believe you are this guy that does xzy when in all reality you weren't born than way.. The beauty of life to be is having the ability to become anything at anytime.. It just makes things a lot more fun.. Once you come to the understanding that you are "nothing" and "everything" at the same time you reign will begin. Your just an actor.. You have to power to mold and create a brand new character. One that fits the things you want in life..

Do some research on this and get started.

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Self-acceptance, to me, refers to the fact that you are completely happy with your life and you love yourself for who you are without needing a woman (or women) in your life. Women should be the icing on the cake - something you can live without, but simply want as an add-on of sorts. At that point, you won't be obsessive toward women and will have the confidence you need to build attraction. The process of self-acceptance doesn't come easy for everyone, but once you earn it, you will be happy you took the time for yourself.

I don't know about you, but to me, pickup is a way of learning to socialize with people and change my way of life.

Basically, never accept who you are unless you are sure you're comfortable with that person.

All this *be yourself* stuff is just to get you to be congruent. However, if being congruent means you are literally incapable of any sort of game, then you have a tough choice to make; either accept who you are and make yourself more congruent and thus more attractive, or change your lifestyle to reflect what you want it to be. you won't start off as being 100% congruent, but if you make the effort, then you'll be guarenteed results, and soon you will be congruent with your new identity.

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Reality is relative. At any given moment one only knows what he can see. To master one's perception of himself he must master other's perceptions of him first.

If there is a large gap between who you are and who you want to be then I would say keep pushing yourself and don't accept who you are now.

BAM! I couldn't have said it better myself! Improve everything in your life that you want to improve and forget about the girls. Women are a byproduct of a fruitful and exciting life.

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And accept that it is a long process. Most people think you change in days, but actually it takes months or a year.

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Good point lmar! Everyone wants a magic bullet to solve their problems but the fact of the matter is that it takes time and effort!

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