Ive been dating this girl for about a month now. we've been on 5 dates, she seems very keen on me but i havent managed to get more than a kiss from her. she is doing all the chasing and keeps asking to meet up. sposed to be meeting up with her and her friends on saturday for a night out clubbing. i really want to have sex with this girl but whenever i try and bring up sex or try to sexually esculate her with text messages etc she doesnt really give me anything sexual back . maybe she's just really reserved and abit shy when it comes to sex and stuff. she's def a good girl and only had a few sexual partners. we both still live with our parents so havent been able to go back to each others place after a night out.


whats the best approach i should take with this, do i need to be abit more blunt and keep throwing in sexual lines, no doubt il be dancing with her on the dance floor on saturday so maybe i should get abit frisky and grope her a little bit see how she reacts.

You two are probably younger, may be in your early 20s. Besides, why the hell are you trying to escalate sexually with her over texts?

You have a major problem - logistics. Look at everything you've said - you both live with your parents, you are meeting her with her friend, you try to escalate sexually over texts

Take care of the logistics and you both will enjoy a passionate time together.

Your odds are better during the daytime then trying to close this girl at night - go figure.

Think of it from her point of view: she's the one asking you to do things all the time and chasing you, and it doesn't look like you're doing much to build sexual tension in person. Texting isn't the time to do that unless you know exactly what you're doing, which is rare for most people.

Go out with her alone and practice kino, kino, and more kino. It's absolutely insane how fast you can progress with enough touching. You don't necessarily have to take her back to your house to have sex either. There are a million other places to have sex (or, at the very least, to do something more severe than kissing), just be creative and pick one.

I would strongly advise you escalate with her soon. You do not want her to get tired of waiting for you to make a move and lose interest, especially if she has shown no sign in person that she doesn't want you.

What they said is pretty much spot on.

I would just like to add that you shouldn't worry too much about the number of dates as long as you are enjoying yourself and not doing anything stupid like not building kino, dlving yourself, spending a lot of money etc.

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I have very similar situation.. And one question too. What to do, when it`s clear that she likes me, we kissed, but when I asked her to go out with me at night, whether she can`t go bcs we are far apart or she won`t go. So, what to do in this case?

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W/o hijacking this thread, I'd try to be brief - May be she has a genuine reason or may be she is not comfortable yet to be out with you in the night. If I were you, I'd travel to where she lives and pick a place walking distance from her house, that way she doesnt have to commute.

I'd try to pick a time which is kinda late evening but not night yet, not sunset yet. so you can get her out while its still bright and then talk through the date pass sunset.

Cheers for the replys guys, well i went out with her on saturday i was out with my friends and she was out with hers, we were dancing had a kiss and intereacted with each other friends. anyway by the end of the night alot of our friends had gone home and it was just us on the dance floor, so as you said i did abit of kino on her, grabbed her arse and just got really close, she responded and she was putting her hand up my top and being alot more frisky. we were kissing alot. but after a while she want to go home so we got a taxi back to hers but i didnt go in cus her parents were there so i kissed her goodnight and she wants to meet up in the week!!!

now the only thing is about the night is she was talking about her ex bf ALOT! they split up about 4 months ago. she said that he treated her really bad and this time last year to the day was when he pushed her over and she banged her head. she still has pictures of him on her phone. so im kinda thinking she's not over her ex yet, she prob still has feeling for him in some weird way. it was her first serious relationship which lasted 2 years! i dont want to be that nice guy whos gonna be her shoulder to cry on. so if she keeps up this crap about her ex bf im just gonna have to ditch her? i had a few oppurtinites that night to hook up with other girls but obv i had to turn them down cus of the girl im dating so if shes not gonna give me any sex and cry about her ex all the time it could be time to ditch and move on!!