Sometimes when I'm having a good day I'll be in the mood and really social. I also have killer jokes, but how can I do this all the time. On regular days when I talk to girls I don't have the most original things to say, and because of my introverted nature I don't always have the courage to talk to the girls i like. It seems on these great days I'm funny and fully confident, I know we all have them to. So how can I be like this on normal days?

I'm an introverted guy also. I can have bursts of socialness but I accept the fact that I can't do this all the time. For my own well being I need days where I just chill by myself.

Just keep at it, follow your urges to talk to girls, and eventually over time it will be easier to find the courage. Don't go forcing yourself to talk on days when you know damn well you aren't feeling it. Your inner turmoil will be reflected in your body language and everything about you, and you won't get the results you want.

If anything, recognize that the ability to keep yourself company is a very good skill. You're less likely to come across as desperate and needy because you know you don't really need the girl or friends you're talking to, to be happy.

I suggest getting some hobbies. Basically summoning energy from within will give you the 'game' you will need. The energy from within is the best energy because it makes you feel awesome; you don't need anyone else for that.


I do know what you are talking about, though. I have felt that the same buzz kill last few weeks. I just got the right balance in my life from school,work,sleep, and the friends I want to hang out with. Then bam, burst of little energy were coming out. Like I said you need to gather little things that boosts your confidence from your inner self. People are greedy and they won't be able to contribute to giving you social energy. You make their lives better and it's not the other way around.

Maybe I am talking out of my ass but this is what I have come to a conclusion of.

Edit: Also as Purple said there should be a few days to yourself. Usually on these days it should be all about you. Either relaxing or improving yourself in some way or moving your life forward etc.

best thing you can do is not only talk to girls or girls you're trying to sarge.

i talk to damn near everybody; from the janitor, to the cashier to the manager. small talk, hows the business how are you etc.... conversation is a skill you learn to hone and eventually you'll be able to talk to anyone about anything

read the news and if you hang out with that sort of people read about the celebrity gossip and also keep up to date with sports. all three combined you can talk to anyone about anything.