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PostPosted: Thu Feb 16, 2012 10:37 pm 
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So there is a girl in my college class, and she was in to me a few months ago.
I did ignore her for a while, and she has seen me flirt with other girls (some uglier than her).
I recently started to find her really interesting and tried some text message flirting, but she instantly backed away. Not responding to some of the messages and acting cold when we met in school. It's possible that her attraction towards me is gone, but there must be something left.
I'm afraid that she was interested in me only because I ignored her and flirted with the uglier girl, and now when I clearly indicated interest, she is backing away. But I do make her laugh so there must be something.
I realized that I'm starting to look needy with the text messages, so I stopped them.
Another bad thing is that I have a "player" reputation and she is probably thinking that I'm just trying to add her to my list of conquests.
Since I didn't get a good response from me showing interest in her, I'm planning to leave her alone for a while and see how it develops.
Any ideas/solutions or suggestions ? How do I create the "spark" again ?


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PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 6:52 am 
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 7:29 am 
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I've heard the phrase "the only time you can get a girlfriend is if you have one" and mostly agree with it.
A "player" rep wouln't really do sht to a girl, they all know we're players it's not some secret we hide everyday (to me the only reason a girl thinks her mans cheating is when he Doesn't act like a player)
Sometimes you just need to mark a girl down in your book, learn from it and move on, most of the girls that "jealous" like you arn't good quality (and are usually players themselves). Jealousy is never a good way/reason to start a relationship.

But I forgot not everyone here is looking for LTR's

IF your looking for a 1-nighter though, then jealous girls are a bit easier; they are quicker to get into the "heat of the moment" and easier to kick out afterwords. Just find a wingman (100x better if u can get a wingwoman, but they are a rarity) and work out some way to make her jealous again and 'bam' your good.

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PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 7:36 am 
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I've heard the phrase "the only time you can get a girlfriend is if you have one" and mostly agree with it.
A "player" rep wouln't really do sht to a girl, they all know we're players it's not some secret we hide everyday (to me the only reason a girl thinks her mans cheating is when he Doesn't act like a player)
Sometimes you just need to mark a girl down in your book, learn from it and move on, most of the girls that "jealous" like you arn't good quality (and are usually players themselves). Jealousy is never a good way/reason to start a relationship.

But I forgot not everyone here is looking for LTR's

IF your looking for a 1-nighter though, then jealous girls are a bit easier; they are quicker to get into the "heat of the moment" and easier to kick out afterwords. Just find a wingman (100x better if u can get a wingwoman, but they are a rarity) and work out some way to make her jealous again and 'bam' your good.
So you're saying that she is the jealous type and she only wanted me because I did ignore her ? Then the best thing I could do is start ignoring her again ? I already ceased all phone contact but I will see her on Monday. How to act when I see her again ? The last time I was a bit needy...
I'm thinking of moving the things as they were before I indicated interest, and maybe even further away, like talking even less to her in school. Is it a good idea ?
I'm just shocked by the turn of evens because there were some pretty strong IOI while I was still ignoring her, like her making excuses to touch me and wanting me to touch her, laughing really well on my jokes, wanting to talk on the phone often and inviting me to social events.
It's all gone now, after less than 10 text messages that indicated I might want her...


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PostPosted: Sun Feb 19, 2012 12:57 pm 
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I sent another text with the following:
"There was a girl in my class which liked to text with me, but she disappeared recently. Any idea what to do with her ?"
On which I got no response.
I wanted to check where I am. If she wanted me to leave her alone, she could have written "Leave her alone." or something similar.
Since I didn't get a response, I'm assuming that she must be playing some game on me and avoiding me deliberately, or she really doesn't care about me anymore, which seems highly unlikely due to the recent IOIs (5 days ago) and the fact that she is a polite person and wouldn't cut off someone like this, especially since we share a social circle . I didn't do anything to major to switch her from a short fuse to a long fuse, so it must be a shit test.
I forgot to tell you that the last time we talked she made a slight joke about wanting to see me naked, plus she was still laughing on my jokes (although less than before). All of this was combined with massive IOD so I didn't know what to do.
Am I on the right track thinking that she is playing me and what to do if this is the case ? Or maybe she is angry at me for ignoring her and she making a fool of herself chasing me, and she wants to get back at me. What is the best action I could take ?


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I've heard the phrase "the only time you can get a girlfriend is if you have one" and mostly agree with it.
A "player" rep wouln't really do sht to a girl, they all know we're players it's not some secret we hide everyday (to me the only reason a girl thinks her mans cheating is when he Doesn't act like a player)
Sometimes you just need to mark a girl down in your book, learn from it and move on, most of the girls that "jealous" like you arn't good quality (and are usually players themselves). Jealousy is never a good way/reason to start a relationship.

But I forgot not everyone here is looking for LTR's

IF your looking for a 1-nighter though, then jealous girls are a bit easier; they are quicker to get into the "heat of the moment" and easier to kick out afterwords. Just find a wingman (100x better if u can get a wingwoman, but they are a rarity) and work out some way to make her jealous again and 'bam' your good.
You must be talking about the article I wrote :)

Here it is http://wayoftheplayer.com/the-best-of-w ... irlfriend/

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PostPosted: Sun Feb 19, 2012 4:02 pm 
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+1 for that article, I read it a few days ago and it's definitely something new that I hadn't read before.


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Ok so she calls 5 hours later, saying that she didn't see the text and starts talking about school and stuff like absolutely nothing has happened.
Any ideas on how should I proceed ? Do I flirt when I see her on Monday or just wait to see how she responds to me ?


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