Basically I got LJBF and I pretty much told her peace out, but she was a cool chick so I was wondering what the PUA community thinks about is it possible to "just be friends"?

I think its, not every single girl you come across needs to be "gamed". I have many female friends and they really helped open doors to their friends. Don't blow off the girl that LJBF you, just see it as a different opportunity.

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"The bird sets itself on fire… and in the embers is an egg. In order to do great things, you've got to recreate yourself again ,and you can’t do that holding to a glory or a failure from yesterday. "

I think you can be friends, just that theres always going to be attraction.

if you like a girl you can never be her friend.

Or the other way around.

Girls have there little agenda. Dont be apart of that.

I can only be friend nowadays with girlfriends of my friends.

Ive seen too much shit to believe that men and woman can be friends.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

I think, if you don't want to be friends with her and you want to sleep with her, then no, no you can not

but really just because you get the ljbf, does not mean you have to stop hitting on her, it does not mean you have to stop escalating, you can just agree and continue escalating when ever you hang out with her, it ends in two ways,

-she sleeps with you
-she stops talking to you/hanging out with you

either way #2 is just about the same as just being catatonic friends since most girls don't carry social interactions very much and are basically just there to get attention from you (the ones that aren't are fairly rare and awesome to hang out with)

the only way I can see a guy being friends with a girl is if he has low interest in her, you can still find a girl attractive and be her friend, but really you would need other girls or a girl that you find attractive having sex with you to fufill your needs, or you would start to have feelings for her that would only grow stronger until it became full blown oneitis and would not be very healthy for you, as you would be fixated on a girl you could not have and it would be a giant waste of time for you and your emotions will blind you from spending your time dating girls that are actually worth the time and effort

On a fairly shallow, but still pretty true level I feel, I think there are two types of girl - those you're physically attracted to and those you aren't.

If you aren't physically attracted to a girl, then as close as you get, I don't think you're going to fall for her too easily. There needs to be at least some physical attraction (in my opinion), so you can definitely be friends with them.

The girls you are attracted to, I think you're probably never going to be entirely "just friends". You can become great friends with them, but even so, in the back of your mind you know that you'd definitely take your chance if it ever came. There's nothing wrong with that, as long as you don't let yourself end up being played by her. If she's the type of girl that is likely to play upon your attraction to her and run you around, then get rid. But if she's a nice girl who is genuinely interested in maintaining some level of friendship, then I think you can still be friends with her even if it's not "only friends" and you've still got some physical attraction deep down.

I also think it depends on how much you like her. I think if it's purely lustful and physical attraction, you can probably control yourself and become friends, although you will still be attracted to her. If you fell for her emotionally though, it's a lot harder to maintain a friendship, as you're always going to be thinking what if, or wishing you were back with her etc. etc.

Of course you can, mutual respect and no sexual tension and youre there.

It all depends on how desperate you are though. Have you ever seen Madagascar? The lion is best pals with the Zebra until he get hungry and then he tries to eat him even though he doesnt want to. To get rid of that feeling, he learns to eat sushi and to need to eat his friend goes away. So yes, you can even be friends with your food if you arent hungry enough to eat them.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

I stay friends with less attractive girls. There are a lot of advantages to that which have all been covered by other people in this topic. I am also fine with being friends with a girl who is dating one of my male friends. Single and attractive, though? It's hard to be just friends at that point, but still very possible.