And today she seem to be avoiding me when we bumped into the hallway. She made a big u-turn when she saw me approaching. Seriously is she crazy or what? I heard from my coworkers she has very big mood swings but what's with her werid behavior?


It seems she want a response of any kind from me since I've been ignoring/avoiding her for these past 2months. I don't know. I'm wondering if is this normal human behavior? Have anyone encountered such a werid lady?

Yes I do want 1 more shot with her but Im not sure how to proceed.

Need advice

Anyone?

Anyone there experienced a similar situation?

She is 40, you are 29. Why dont you just act like the prize?? She should be so happy that a 29 year old is interested in her.

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Yeah. You are right. Anyway I texted her for the first time in 2 months today. Asked her how she is and stuff. Told me her life is great and a lengthy text explaining something is wrong with her hp that's why she responded late. I was like hey u don't have to explain stuff to me.

Anyway it's all good. Ever since I iniated contact she's in all smiles again without the werid behavior she had been displaying. Seems like she was waiting for me to respond after all the annoying behavior and the confrontation in the office that happened last week. At least now I can work in peace but I really wanna bed her so badly. She's really hot for her age

Guys just a brief note.
Be aware that this is DRAMA.
The last girl i had some serious drama with.
Became my last and only girlfriend.

Are you however aware of this:
You weren't interested in her until she ignored you.
So do you really like her or is it just fear of desocialisation.

What i dit in my AFC (still just an intermediate pua) was DRAMA BACK.

Yeah I do like her otherwise I wouldn't be still thinking of her while I'm dating hotter and younger girls. I can't help myself /sigh

What you mean by the last girl who gave you serious drama became your last & only girlfriend? Do you mean that you just bed girls nowadays with no string attached? Or are you still with her?

We were exchanging a couple of text today and I made a big mistake of telling her I still care for her but prefer to leave it as it is.


She replied Thanks Gideon and that's it. I guess that's a sure sign she's totally over me. Kinda sucks still having deep feelings for this lady. I think the only way for me to totally move on from her is getting a new job.

Any bros got any advice cos I'm really feeling like crap

Sigh, another one who said the ''poisonous words of doom'', never ever tell a girl you like her in a direct way, if your uncertain of her situation.

I've done the same, with a girl who had a boyfriend, but thank god I did it indirectly, and made a huge comeback from that.
We now text even more intense, and I am meeting her for day 2 today at a party, Decided to play it cool, have some fun with her, flirt a bit, kino and see what happends.

I think your only way out is this:

1) Forget about her
2) Be a goddamn man, focus on other girls now, and see what happends from her point-of-view, if she is totally over you, then she'll ignore you, and trying to ''recover'' from your side, is sinking even deeper.

Hi Pbblade,

Thx for your advice. Actually she seems to ok with what I said and the next day at work she was actually smiling at me and my coworkers said she was looking at me during lunch.

However I did another stupid thing which is ignoring her when she asked for help regarding work stuff & and I asked another coworker to tend to her instead.

I texted her a couple of times after work but she didn't reply. I then told her i miss chatting with her and hope we are still friends. She replied saying I seem to be hostile towards her as a coworker although its not an issue and enjoy my weekend. I replied " Hey I apologize if I made u think i'm hostile. I actually feel really nervous when I see u around. I really don't know why.

It seems that she might have some lingering feelings for me, otherwise why the hell would she bother to get mad on all these incidents that happened. If I never liked her, I wouldn't give a F to her either and will take her as a crazy @#$!.

I think I'll slowly reveal myself to her and smile to her more often. And perhaps slowly building rapport. I think I can get her but I just have to be careful and patient.

You are still behaving negatively toward her when it's unjustified. A pretty typical symptom of too much "classic" PUA dogma.

Why ignoring her when she asked for help? Why acting distant when you have feelings for her? You don't have to tell her you have feelings for her but your actions can show some interest.

All you're doing is behaving opposite to how you feel which is always going to shoot yourself in the foot.

Sorry gideon2006, but from reading all of your emails, you haven't demonstrated that you've become any less AFC even though you've been seeing all of these "hotter" girls.

The very fact that you are STILL awkward around her and don't know how to "act right" shows you are not ready for any kind of relationship with her.

You also seem to be under the illusion that by her smiling at you and you smiling at her is a sure thing. Women smile all the time, it doesn't mean they want to f*ck you.

Move on and don't look back.

Zan

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Hi All,

Thanks for your replies. I texted her yesterday.

Me: I sometimes really do wonder why do u resent me so much. I think u are getting the wrong idea.

Me: Anyway advance happy bdae and peace.

Her: Yeah peace and thx for the birthday wishes

And today we accidentally sat on the same table for lunch. One of the female coworker started to chat with me, she joined in. We smile and had a decent convo as a group.

After I left the table.... I realized she unblocked me from IM immediately after lunch (She blocked me in IM a week ago cos I told her stupid stuff about the past and how sorry I was lol) which was quite surprising and smiling to her when I bumped into her in the hallway seemed natural this time without feeling awkward.

I can only guess that she probably found someone else and that having me confess to her in person pushed her away or maybe she wants me to prove it to her rather than just talking with no actions. (I'm not sure I'm just guessing.)
Anyway I've decided to make a handmade birthday card (she loves handmade stuff) and pass it to her this coming Wednesday. There won't be anything abt us in the content but just purely wishing her happy birthday.

I guess I proceed slowly and see how it goes. Below is the link to my facebook acct. The chick in my photo album is the new girl whom I've been hanging around often. Pretty sweet looking aye? If u guys were to see how the 40yr old lady looks like, I think u guys will be kicking my butt for being blind haha. However I still like the old one /sigh


http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=677745928

I made a handmade card for her. I took quite a bit of effort designing and creating the card and passed it to her this morning. Shortly she texted.

Her: Thx for the card, very nicely done n I like it. Thx

Me: np... Cheers

I didn't put anything about us on the card. Just wishing her happy bdae and her personality and blessings in serveral paper cutted stars. Like " pretty girl, princess always, werid in a good way etc."

She seemed to like them a lot and seeing her smile again sure makes me feel good. I guess all along all I thought was just about myself and only thought of my own feelings and been impatient and selfish like sending the awful text before.

This time I will consider about my partner feelings more instead whether if it's her or future partners. Werid thing is my intense feelings for her has subsided. I do like her still but not to the point of obsession anymore. My doors are open now and whether she wants to be with me a not doesn't matter much anymore. I'll let nature take its course.