I’ve been going with game for about 4 months and I’m seeing awesome results in all aspects of my life.
However I’m still dependant on getting a good response from girls (or guys). If a text, joke, story, etc doesn’t land well, especially if it happens more than once I lose a lot of confidence and start to doubt myself.
So I’m wondering what I can do to not have to rely on a good reaction, (I understand there is no instant fix, there never is) any info would be great!
Thanks
(if I have posted this in the wrong section, feel free to move it)

Yes there is an instant fix, silly. Read my thread on beliefs.

Basically, you have beliefs that are causing you to depend on good responses. If you leiminate those beliefs, you will instantly be freed from that dependency. I'm dead serious.

I'm guessing that maybe you have some beliefs like these...

"What makes me okay is having people like me"
"What makes me good enough is having people think well of me"
"The way to be accepted is to be liked"
"If people don't like me, I'm not worthy"

Because, seriously, if you really believed you were good enough, complete, whole, normal and completely adequate and okay, JUST THE WAY YOU ARE, even if you didn't get good responses, would getting bad responses cause you to feel bad and lose confidence? No.

That belief is definitley the strongest of the four you've mentioned. How should i go about changing it?
I was thinking about changing it to "the way to be accepted is to be yourself"

What do you think?
thanks for the awesome reply too.

why don't you just go out with intent to fail, no matter what you do, you can only succeed

once you are comfortable with this,

go back to just being yourself and connecting with people for the sake of getting to know them, work on having sex with people that you find a connection with, if it works out awesome, if not cool, you can always go out again tommorow

I'm with Pumpington on this. I open every set with the intent of not only failing the set, but outright exploding it, and with a smile on my face. This has a twofold effect:
First, it conveys confidence, even if you are lacking in it, because the cascading effect is simply you don't care about the results of the set because you are expecting nothing to come of that, and secondly, if you explode the set, as I expect to, 9 times out of 10 I have incredible stories for the next venue I goto.

I've had dance offs with Go Go Dancers, been thrown out of night clubs, had drinks poured on me, and had thumb wars with bouncers to stay in night clubs, with insane, residual effects. I'm noticed on the streets when I go out, and I always have a hilarious story to tell, simply from taking this "devil may care" attitude about approaching. It really is that simple.

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