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Im more interested in the social aspect of pickup and want to see if it can be applied to human beings in general and not just male-female courtship. But I feel that there must be certain, specific tactics that can get people to like you, simply for the fact that human beings do indeed become attracted to others under specific conditions. In other words its not just random attraction
Obviously it's not random. The fact that this forum exists has proved that.
And yes, there are certain tactics. But realize that there is an infinite number of them. Every person has a unique way of relating to people, of making people value them. Trying to apply a cookie cutter model is foolish, many of my strategies are unconscious and indefinable. And if they could be replicated by another person, they would not be as well adapted for who he is as a person, and they wouldn't be as successful.
You are searching for concreteness but there is very little concreteness to be found here.
well, that is a very realistic answer and maybe it is just because i am so new to this type of psychology that i want to experiment with it and prove its real, but i think that you can apply it to people in a type of cookie-cutter model because if you think about it attraction is a hardwired emotion people feel. it has certain triggers that yes, are determined by nurture in some people (perhaps someone grew up without a mother and is therefore attracted more to feminine men than masculine men to compensate for the loss she felt growing up) as well as some characteristics that will not fit well with the person actually doing the attracting (perhaps someone grew up without an abusive father and therefore found it harder to attract dominant females as opposed to feminine females). but there is also hardwired characteristics and triggers of attraction that are found in every human being regardless of how they were raised, for example, I keep hearing about (and experiencing in my life personally) the phenomena of how people become more attracted to something because it is harder to have, regardless of their personality.
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the first link was really kool, i totally see how it relates to pick up. I think that this type of psychology is very new though, isnt it? I mean, ten years from now, psychologists will probably be looking back on us and laugh at how crazy and controversial all this attraction stuff was. Im going to try really hard to think about a test where I could prove a correlation between womens attraction and pick up artist material, but I will have to start by giving those two variables objectable definitions which will be VERY hard...