So i was dating this girl for about 6 months, she was an 7.5 we broke up she kinda ended things, she was a right bitch and didnt treat me as good as i did her blah blah. but just before we ended things she said to me " i still think youre HOT and commented on how good i looked etc.

this was about 3 months ago and i havent spoke to her since new years, ive been freezing her out, dating other girls etc. but because the sex was so good wouldnt mind hooking up with her just for sex, i know she would probably want it aswell but how and when do i ask her.

its her birthday on the 28th so i thought that would be a good time to initiate contact, just drop her a text saying " happy birthday x " and see if she replies then go from there? or should i just wait until she contacts me first? and if she doesnt then just move on!!!

This is a good question, i hope more ppl reply. I had one girl i ended things with say that she wanted to hook up still, but i texted her one night to hook up and it never went anywhere. If i was in your situation, i would put it all out on the line on her bday nite, hope that she is alone and just call late at night, tell her u wanna come over. Your intentions are clear, either shes in or out.

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Worse idea ever. She is an ex for a reason. Hooking up with her can only lead to bad things.

Why? Theres nothing wrong with hooking up with an ex, especially if its explicitly stated theres nothing more.

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Yea I turned an ex into a fuck-buddy, was awesome we just fucked at parties and hooked up randomly just to get off, was great only reason we stopped is she got a new boyfriend

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It came to me in a drreeeaaammmm

if u can keep these purely physical, go for it


if u have residual feelings for her, then forget it and find a new fuck buddy

Like?

i had an ex that i turned into a friends with benefits. feelings were hurt blah blah blah she now hates and badmouths me regularly. there are plenty of fish.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

Not saying there is anything wrong with it morally at least. Its more that one she is an ex, she is an ex for a reason. Hooking up with her may lead for her to believe she has a second chance with you. Which leads me to the emotional part. You where with her for 6 months, in that time at least some emotion was there, and hooking up with her can very well bring those emotions back and pretty soon either one of you want a relationship with the other.

Ummm she ended things.

If you want to do it do it. That would be a good opener too, BTW. Non needy. You will need to keep a strong frame to make it work.

I've been fucking my ex-Wife for 2 years. Even while we both have/have had relationships with others.

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Go for it

This is true, but ppl have to look out for themselves and make their own decisions. U cant worry about how her actions will affect her emotionally. If she decides to hook up with u thats on her. If she gets emotionally attached and wants more even though u said there was nothing more than thats her fault. So just be honest with her.

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Well i dont think she would get attached emotionally shes not that type of girl, she very cold and non needy. plus she was the one who ended things. think i will just message her on her birthday and see what her reply is, if she just says thank you without a question like how i am etc then i wont bother asking her for sex or anything cus i will come across too needy and she obv wouldnt be interested.

but if she asks me questions and want to carry the convo on more i will def ask but how blunt shall i be? as you say i dont want to come across as to needy or desperate!!

And?

Just get to the point. Why beat this around the bush? She said that she found you physically appealing and that the sex was great.