| don't overthink this shit, if you are cool, and you know it, and you are being the person setting the frame, creating the value in the convo, building the rapport, breaking the rapport, starting new threads, bringing the emotional stimulation, being the person that others are reacting to instead of reacting to others, no matter what, you will be cool, it is that simple,
cool people are cool, losers are losers,
be someone that is fun and interesting to hang out with, don't overthink value to much or you will lower your value (paradox I know)
avoid being an asskisser who never has anything to say except commenting on things other people say, afraid to talk out of fear of what the people around you might think of you, make your own topics and stories and be observant about your surroundings and the people you are talking to (avoid talking about yourself directly as bragging), get to know them and have fun
be positive too, avoid being a hardcore asshole who is rude to everyone and randomly says weird insulting shit, you can tease people for fun, but don't just outright insult people,
have fun and don't think to hard about value, the more you lead yourself to fun, the more likely others are to have fun with you
and lastly, don't forget to show intent (hit on your targets, in one way or another), they should know either directly or indirectly that you are interested in them as more then just friends, you have to display sexuality in one way or another how you do that is dependant on you, but don't be pleutonic/a-sexual or you will find yourself in the friend zone very often, always be trying to move things forward and further test a girls level of compliance with you
if people remember you, they remember you, if they don't, they don't,
peoples opinion of what you are like is likely to stay the same, but if you do something they hate, you can fuck up how they see you (especially when they are not very invested in you), same with if you started with a bad impression, over time you can make a good impression,
but first impressions are really important
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