''Oh, you're boring?, well I don't really have a thing for boring girls, you seemed interesting, guess if you can't tell me something interesting about yourself, we should stop talking''
''I see, what kind of boring stuff do you do on the regular that makes you so boring?''
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"I could tell"
Subtlety of a neg + playful = vagina tingles
On a side note, I don't think the OP is overanalyzing anything. He's just trying to expose himself to different ideas for retorts/ comebacks to develop more acumen himself. There's nothing wrong with that, before most people learn to open naturally with whatever comes to their mind, they work off of canned routines and set-ups.
But it IS true that you shouldn't be too obsessed with comebacks or retorts. The Alpha Male is active, not REactive.
And yes, it's a compliance shit test. There are no girls that do not "play games." The only time she's being "real" when saying this is if her self-esteem is absolutely knee deep in elephant shit, like DEEP DEEP in African Bull Elephant diarrhea; in which case you shouldn't worry about a comeback, just avoid her.
When you're talking about "playing games," you're using that term in a highly socialized way.
"Stop playing games, just tell her how you feel."
"Stop playing games, just ask your ex to give you another chance."
"Girls don't like guys that play games"
The phrase has become so branded with notions of emasculation that guys are taught to FEEL SHAME for being masculine.
"Stop playing games, just open up to your girlfriend. Man up and face your emotions"
The interpretation has been twisted to get men to rationalize whining about their insecurities and refusing to consciously apply Game when it could help them the most. We need to stay away from them. Any phrase like
"Just be yourself"
"Don't play games"
"Don't be a jerk"
is a label syndicated with the feminine imperative. Guys use it on this forum all the time, not aware of how damaging it can be. When you tell a guy who plays World of Warcraft all day "Just be yourself," do you expect him to stop playing world of warcraft? Just being himself is what got him to this sad pathetic state. When you tell a guy "this girl is real, she doesn't play games" do you expect him to retain his abundance mentality after thinking FOR THE FIRST TIME, HE HAS FINALLY FOUND A GIRL WHO DOESN'T PLAY GAMES? I understand they are used with positive intentions, to stop us from intellectually masturbating, but we should also consider the barrel end of their negative repercussions.
there is a difference between just saying and doing anything and sucking shit, and expressing yourself and your intent congruently without filter,
being needy supplicating and being reactive, has nothing to do with expressing your true intent and ''being yourself'', that is just saying and doing what is most comfortable for you, while not actually acting through your own intentions without a need for approval
these terms are totally sufficent because they are in actuallity the answer, but you can not actually be your true self without first developing confidence and training yourself to not seek external validation and acceptance,
the day you don't need approval, and can act through your own intent, is the day you become a man, being yourself is actually great advice, the problem is, that advice is often totally mis-understood, you have to know who you are and what you want, and be able to confidently express your intent, if you don't know who you are, you can not be yourself, just someone you think others want you to be
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