Hi I went out and had a coffee with a girl from work the other day. It was the first time we had a proper conversation as we get to know each other.
She has added me on facebook and we've been talking for couple of days now, I know this set of conversation is long but I would very much appreciate it if you could read it and give me some feed back on how I am going and how I could escalate it to a more sexual level.


Me:Hey u, how was work? 
Out this weekend?

Her:Hey you!! Same as always bit boring. Yay I'm going to greenhead for the weekend!! How about you?

Me:That sounds awesome !!!
Not too sur about myself yet I think I'm going to a friends housewarming 
Where there are no alcohol........ Hahaha
I can't believe I still have to go to work tomorrow 

Her:Wow you drinking!! That something that I've never heard before . Well at least is friday.

Me:Omg you are making me sound like an alcoholic!!
Hey you never told me what u wanted to do other than nursing, which u love hahah

Her:Haha, well you know that the first step is to accept that you have a problem! Hmmmmm didn't I??

Me:Ok ok haha
Nope you can tell me next Monday after work?

Her:At what time do you finish?

Me:I always finish at 230 
You?

Her:
I think I finish at 1 on monday....... Not sure

Me:Aww 

Her:How about wednesday?

Me:Yep wednesday sounds good =]
So r u going to greenhead on tomorrow or sat?

Her:Tomorrow!! Can't wait!!!!

Me:Haha it does sound like an awesome weekend!!!
R u going with family?

Her:Yeah, and family friends. But I think I might drink  only a bit though


Me:Did I just.... Yep I spotted an alcoholic!!

Her: haha you wish!!!!

Me:Hahaha don't deny it

Her:hah there is nothing to deny!!!!!!!!!
see i'm not like you i drink occasionally 


Me:Ohhhh this girl!!!
Really?? 
And what are MY drinking habits?

Her:haha well from what i hear you like drinking and do so quite often (but then again im not sure if i can trust my sources of info) 

Me:And here I am thinking that this girl has an awesome sense of humor!!

Her:as in a clonw-ish way???? because i hate clowns

Me:Ummm.......??????

Her:clowns are supposed to be funny but they are really scary

Me:Yea clowns aren't my fav type of entertainer either 
But what I meant was, you shouldn't take what i say too seriously some time hahaha

Her:i know i just like to tease you!
its quite entertaining 

Me:Oh god ,Okok u got me ,Well done haha

Her: that doesn't mean that i'll stop though

Me:Love it haha,Ok let's see what u got;)

Her:haha you make it sound as if i was a very mean person

Me:You're* not???

Me:I'm kidding!

End of convo no reply from her

Thanks in advance

Well, you can just tell her it's fine and that she missed out on a great time. That way, she can know for herself that your world doesn't revolve around her and hopefully, makes her a bit more grounded in her behavior.

Also, I would appreciate if you went into a bit more detail about the background, the time involved and such of the situation with this girl. It could provide me with context to tailor the advice more suitably.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

How could you not get her to open up?

It was as simple as looking at her and saying, "Hey (her name), you're being awfully quiet today. Everything okay there?" and couple that with a smile and she'd be replying back to you.

So, there's an Alpha Female there, boo-hoo, she can only talk so much as you will let her to, so stop complaining. Next time, be a little more interested in talking to the shy girl and try to draw her into the conversation. You can even tell the Alpha to keep quiet for a bit because you want to talk to her friend, in a non-rude way of course.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

I see a lot of shits and giggles there to be frank with you, and sure, this is a good conversation for a couple of school going kids to have but not from two professionals.

There were a few points where you could've sexualized the conversation. She called you an alcoholic, you could've said that alcohol makes you a horny bastard and that you become a primal, instinctual animal and you're not sure how you'd act around her cause obviously there's a big pull involved there blah blah blah blah.. you see, taking risks being direct is what it's all about in pick-up. Sexual banter is very much fun for both the sexes simply because it has the capability to lead to somewhere. You can't do that with camping trips and talking about shoes and shit like that.

Be more direct, be brutally honest and NEVER apologise for being sexual. She might act surprised, she'll even feel a bit of a tension but that's the good part, she's just getting to know this new side of you. Keep at it for a while and there's a good chance that you'll be ending in her bed, sooner or later.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Initially, you will be required to do most of the hard work in the conversation, till you have sparked her interest level and have got her attracted to you. Once, you have achieved that, she'll be hooked and will return the favours and start a good lot of conversations with you.Stop worrying so much, now's the part where you have to plough. So, on you plough. Show her that you're interested, hell, tell her that you find her attractive and refreshing and all those nice adjectives.

Heating the iron takes time, but once heated, a single strike will do that job.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Sexual flirting is about timing to a degree. And to be very honest with you, it could begin just after 'Hi', but that takes a good deal of skill to successfully pull it off. I'd suggest you initiate this in the part where you've got her interested in you, after the initial meeting. Once that's done, ramp up the sexual escalation and make her feel all kinds of unholy thoughts and feelings. Do it well, and you'll be sleeping a happy man that night.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, well oh well. She is definitely interested.

Just because you showed depth with that last message of yours.

Revealing facts with a little punchline is a great way to go about it.

I think you can playing the teaser and the joker part a good while, but a girl like this wants to see a serious, smart guy more often than that. I mean sure, you can get success making her laugh, but you can be more efficient and fast, if you do it the James Bond kinda way, and James Bond can be funny too.

Asking a girl to "hang out" and telling her that you'll pick her up this weekend and you both will go out for dinner at so and so time and place are two different things. And she ill be more inclined to go ahead with a plan where you've taken the lead by yourself.

This girl seems like the intelligent, smart type and they're a load of fun, cause they don't buy into the usual laughs of the PUA, so you need to be smart, you need to be classy and you need to be able to dish it back as good as you get it. She's looking for a challenge, show her exactly how big of one you are.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

I want you to read your message again and feel the one-it-is vibes coming off of it. You've not even got her number yet and you're already marrying her in your head. That's never gonna end up well for anyone. I would suggest you to start becoming a bit more objective about this girl and the situation. Firstly, you didn't even ask for her number, which is one of the bottom rungs on the ladder. Once, you get her number you can have a chance at prolonging the contact phase between you both, build comfort, getting her attraction to you and all that. But, you didn't.

And the worst part is that you're thinking about what she would think. Why don't you leave that part of the thinking process to her, yeah? She can think for herself, and she can figure out for herself how she's coming across. Just be concerned with your life and your thoughts, this is invaluable advice I can give to you. The more you start thinking for things and situations and people other than yourself, the greater the chances of your screwing up become.

In the meantime, she's NOT the only girl in the world. I'd suggest you go around and find other women too, just to keep your options open. Cross out 'suggest' and replace that by 'recommend'.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Wow, you sure are full of energy. Even though she put up a red flag there of 'I hate men right now Tony lol' you just ploughed through with it. That was a tad funny. Anyway, you could've asked her about her instantaneous hate of men there. Could've made for an interesting part of a conversation.

But, you need to really tone down some of the energy in the conversation. You come off as a ten year old,high on sugar, bouncing off the walls. Sure, that's all cute and fun initially but women aren't looking for ten year olds(not most of them anyway) and at some point you need to show her that you're a smart, mature and intelligent guy and I'd suggest you go about that.

Act your age. You'll get more women who will give you their numbers and not ask you to 'find them on facebook'.

As for what to reply, it could be something along the lines of 'Oh, I am a lot more than that.. ' or something like that.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Screw all that questions and PAY ATTENTION TO THE HiGHLIGHTS.

I cannot believe you slow of an instrument you are. She basically threw major hints at you to go over to her place and make sweet, sweet love to her. And you just ignored them and the worst bit is that you ended the conversation at the time when she was feeling hot and everything. Be like pouring a bucket of freezing water on her, instead of "giving her space to work" or whatever crappy explanation you had fabricated in your head.

If I was in your place, all I'd be saying is, "Hey (her name), I have an idea. Let me grab a bottle of wine, you can get the movie and let's forget about our work for a while. Since, your apartment is empty, no one would disturb us too. Sounds good? " and she'd probably be jumping over you, the minute you crossed her threshold.

And then, I laugh when women say men don't read the signals. Maybe, they're right.

Screw the whole C&F shit, and instead of prolonging this crap, act quickly at such opportunities. Can't believe you wasted such a glorious chance,man. You've only yourself to blame if this opportunity goes dead in the water.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

hey Don met a stunnin irish girl on friday night and she asked me out on saturday night unfortunatly I was at a restaurant with my parents so couldnt meet up so I flirted with text game that night then done sunday and today I went for organising a date:
me: hey hows university going? had to be up at 6am for gym this morning felt like death! xxxx
hb:hey uni is okay....what you doing today ? ah gutted! am going to the gym after uni today xoxo
me:oh yeah what gym are you at? I've been helping my freind train for a marathon hate the early mornings Xxxx
hb: I go to the uni 1 oh gutted good luck! xo
me:decent I heard they have a great swimming pool. I go to the rubbish gym cause its cheap haha you coming out with me on wednsday or thursday night? I got invited to speed dating and need a way out lol Xxx

she hasnt replied in 2 n a half hours I'm not stressing just point out where I've went wrong.
Thanks

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I think that every successful man should have 3 women at his funeral. One that's crying, one that's smiling and one that's buying things on her laptop with his will.

I don't know what I was thinking...

If this goes dead I will have to laught at myself so hard....

don buddy how ya been ?? & whys the chat disabled, i miss having someone talk CL with (APOEL FTW!!! lol )

anyways, i have a question for you friend so i met this (aspiring) actress girl through a friend. We hung out a few times at school, and we eventually exchanged #'s.. I started txting her, but its been pretty dry, and i need your advice as to how i can turn situations like this into a hook. heres the excerpt

Me: thx for the flowers "secret admirer"
Her: ahahahaha you wish
Me: No? Dang.. Either way u can keep my gift under 200$
Her: Keep mine over 200
Me: Dont try to one up me
Her: Kay over 199.99
Me: Youre just asking for trouble pumkin head
Her: K i will take two chanel perfumes

at this point, i didnt feel that banter would get me anywhere so i left it at this.. i thought about disqualifying too, but i wasnt sure if that would be the right way to go either (something about chanel not being classy blabla).. that said, Don, whats the right thing to do? When we're together, theres plenty of ioi's, & thats why this makes me think that rather than her being aloof, shes playing hard to get.

as always, many thx playa

Hi, I've talked to someone for a long time, we don't really meet and I'm really busy. I mean really busy, I find there's no other way to talk to her but on the MSN and even then it deprives me of sleep. I've never started a conversation with her and she always starts them and we used to talk A LOT, not anymore though. I know that she liked me at a point when I didn't like her, but now that I don't talk to her I realized how good she is. How should I start a conversation(which I probably shouldn't do because it's not really like me) and how should I talk to her and keep the conversation interesting in the future, maybe make it so that she wants me again, I feel it's my fault for the distance too... Should I just stop all this nonsense? I'm generally an asshole to most people, and I text relatively well, but she does it a lot better than me. How and when do I tell her how I feel, thanks in advance.

Oh and even though this doesn't seem much like pickup, the only reason I'm trying to do this is because of this person.