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good stuff!
you mentioned not being able to find a structured guide to kinoing, here's my take. (also can find some of these pointers on the web, just gotta look deep enough)
basically, kino can be broken down into three bits. These are guidelines, not rules.
firstly, there's the unconcious touching, e.g. brush of shoulder, accidental touches, etc.
and also more concious touching, such as a tap on the shoulder, etc. basically everything that's socially acceptible without causing awkwardness.As a general rule of thumb, these acts should be performed within ~ a minute of meeting an HB. to register on an unconscious level that you are not afraid of touching, etc.
Again, there are exceptions, such as a really conservative girl, or a girl who is very open about touching, i.e. she initiates.
Then after that, you move upwards to the next level of kinoing, basically anything that friends do to each other; playful punching, head bumps, hi-fives, etc.
These register on a conscious level, and are used once she's used to you on the unconscious level. A good indicator to see whether or not you're moving from this area over to a sexual area is the "gay test". at any point during the interaction, say to yourself: would i do this to another guy? If yes, then you're fine. if no, then you have moved into the next and final stage of kino
Last stage is basically intimate and sexual touching, kissing, all the good stuff. (I dont believe i need to give many pointers in this area, as you're better off letting each other's bodies find what to do. However, a good thing to do is to find her sensitive points (inside of legs, nape of the neck), and work off those.)
The key to escalating smoothly with kino is to either work it into the conversation, i.e. if i say a girl's short, I'd touch her head, or if she's short enough, turn her around and rest my head on top of hers.
Or just not draw attention to it, e.g. casually put ur arm around her, but still be talking about what you were before. If done right, she won't pay attention to it either.
However, kino, like all else in PUA, is not an exact science, and odds are, sometime you'll come across a girl who does point out your kinoing in a very rude way, e.g. what the fuck do you think ur doing?
Not going into causes (bitch shield, ASD, artist read the signs wrong, etc.), but the goto answer is to just blur it over, i.e. touch her clevage, she asks what you're doing, basically act like it's meant to happen, and pretend you don't know what she's talking about. Never under any circumstances apologise.
During kino escalation, although you've moved up a level, always keep the touching a level below going, i.e. although you have made out, still be holding hands whenever possible, unless an opportunity presents itself for you to do something more intimate. The reason for this is; it helps build constant rapport (think water trickling into a basin), but also, in the event she rejects kino of a higher level, you shut it off. completely. no more touching of ANY sort, so she feels that loss. Then you reinitiate back to the level you were at.
That help? feel free to + me if it did. otherwise comment on where you thought I missed.
This is very off topic and you obviously haven't read the thread, I have recommended Vin Dicarlo's "escalation ladder" to the guys who need help with kino escalation as it is helpful, organized and very simple.
You are just confusing people, this thread is about teaching guys how simple it is to pick up and lay women, not giving them more shit to memorize.
I always say that pick up is easy and you don't have to memorize 100 books, routines and methods.
Please guys, disregard this post keep things simple, the simpler it is, the smaller the chance of fucking things up, in other words, simple tactics = success with women!
CHAT
Ah well at least its not emo.
