Hi guys im new to the forums, i met this 39yr girl we met twice we kissed on the second date we went to live jazz resteraunt.
we and been talking and texting, but when i ask her if she is intrested in other ways she says i dont know what i want but if it is there then i am intrested, when i play little games with her, she said yes i am cute in her eyes i mostly pay attention to personality to its important to me as much,and when she is liking someone she is really into them then she says lets go with the flow then 2 minutes later its like i dont know what i want, i am like what the fuck, she blew me off lastnight and it is like okay

do i just text her or ignore her im like wow she talks about her ex and this and that but always looks at me and smiles its like okay where do i go

Isn't "I don't know what I want" just a bullshit phrase women use as an ASD, so they can pretend (to others/themselves) that sex wasn't their idea and it "just happned"?

k thanks so how would you handle this type of ckick?

Next time try and correct the grammar was a bit dificult understading.

If they are always talking about her ex that isnt good. Woman are creature of indecision so talking about her actions or behaviors you will never get a straight answer.

If she blew you off, I wouldnt reciprocate interested. Would mirror her actions.

Would reward her.

BUt I think she loving the attention, instead of you...

She is looking for ohter potencial suitor.

But im not sure your post are not very clear.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Yes sorry about the grammer,

okay so i met this lady, that picked me up so we went for coffee,
and talked she was always smiling looking at me eye to eye,
she would talk about how she is unsure of what she is looking for since she had alot of bad relationships and she found me cute and well rounded great personality
as well i could hold a good convo

she would say things like the guy i was talking to felt as if i was looking at my brother and kissing my brother
i said well you do not have to worry about, that,
then she would talk about how her ex would play wow instead of give her attention or fuck her,

so we made plans for second date, i had planned a jazz restaurant
she had no idea she liked the fact that i took charge,
so to end the night we talked about going to smoke some weed but as soon as we arrived at her house it felt as if she was in a rush, we huged then i went for the kiss oh we kissed i made sure it really hit the spot, then she pulled away so i tried again u could tell she was getting wet, so she goes i dont kiss on the first date,
it felt as if she did not want to seem easy, so we talked texted

i said so you want to go out again she was like sure, but last minute she cancels
twice she did that, so she keeps texted and seeing how i am doing
asking me if i ate or how was my day or ill cook for you,
then she would say that i do not know what i am looking for but if i see it then i will be very interested and want more, i said well dont take to long or ill be gone,
i told her that i have no interest in rushing into anything, and she says the same,
so it is like she is for sure waying her options

at the same time she makes a comment yes you are cute in my eyes but i also mostly pay attention to personnality too. its important to me as much, i enjoy talking to a geek,

i mean she is my type for sure but the fact she is 39 and still acts all hard to get really pisses me off, so i am trying to get her hooked

how would i hook this chick she is the only one to give hard game not even my super model ex was this hard,

what would be some good pointers i dont chase or call or text to every responce that she gives, at times she would not answer my call she would return my call with a text, i dont know its like she is and is not interested..

pointers would be great

I feel if i just leave her alone that might work but i am not sure,
but i feel i will do this