I have read a few things on PUA stuff, but don't really have field experience and thought you guys could lend me a hand. I'm a 21 year old college student and my friend's girl is going to introduce me to her friend who is apparently a smoking 10. I have read a bunch of things on cold approach and different ways to open, but how about in this situation of getting introduced? We will be going to college bars with plenty of competition, so I want some sort of strategy going in. Do I neg? dhv spike? Maker her jealous? I'm pretty much looking for a general guide on what to do and/or some tips...help a newbie out! Thanks guys

A beginner already going for the 10's, Respect for that ma mayn!

I'll try to give You my best advice on what I think is best to do.

Ask Your friend about how she is and so on, and try to create a small picture of her personality.

If she's energetic, make sure your energie level is good aswell, if she likes to party hard, then do so aswell. Just make sure you're at the same level.

You can also use this information to see what the girl is into, If she likes diving You could make up a story of how you went to the caribean for a dive, had a lifethreatening situation with sharks and whatever You feel like adding.

Confidence, show her alot of confidence, take initiative, do not sit there for 2 minutes to say something, this is so key if You wanna even impress her the least.

After proper introduction You can start off with giving her a small compliment mixed up with a neg like, I like Your blonde hair, where did you get them dyed?''

Focus on the entire group, just make her feel like everyone else and slowly take it to just her later in the evening. It's always good to be playsome with your other ''girl friend'' so she might get a bit jealous that she's taking your attention.


And last, prepare yourself. Not talking about pre-programmed crap, but from the moment You wake up, untill you are going out, think positively and do something to get your engine started, go out, talk to a shop-keeper or w/e, get that boost up, it'll be very crucial.

Well this is just about the complete opposite of what I'd recommend. Literally the exact opposite of what I'd recommend.

You have all these concepts in your brain, that are abstract, with no connection to a real life experience. You have decided to apply these unpracticed ideas, but you've set yourself up to fail. You've already decided she's a 10, so you're going to be nervous. You're going to have no idea what to do, you're going to keep thinking about what we told you to do on this site, and you're going to overthink every single thing you do.

Here's my advice. Look up Vin DiCarlo's Escalation Ladder. Memorize it.

Get as much field experience as you can before this meeting. That means going out to talk to girls, during day or night, literally every day until you meet her.

And lastly, stop reading. Write down each approach you do, what worked and what didn't, then try again. It's much more important to write than it is to read.

You'll rather learn things by trying stuff out then by reading

I came across with this job offer and they asked for "HANDS ON EXPERIENCE". That was the first time I saw that term and reminded me of game. There is nothing like HANDS ON EXPERIENCE. lol

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Seriously appreciate the responses guys. I agree 105% experience > reading material, but I can't lie...I'm definitely nervous to try this stuff out because I'm in college and see a lot of the same people frequently, so if I make mistakes (and I will), it will stick...definitely do not wanna get labeled as THAT lame guy who tries really hard to pick up chicks haha. Any advice on this issue?

I know it takes practice and I'm not going to get this by memorizing bunch of stuff and I promise to get out there and get some real experience soon, but I'm meeting this girl this weekend and I just have no idea what to do to make her attracted to me. I saw a picture of this girl and wow, I do not wanna blow this...Thanks again guys.

It's ok to be nervous. It's ok to be afraid. On my first cold approach 3 years ago I literally lost my voice how nervous I was. That is maybe the proudest moment of my life.
This is a legit question. At first, lets say for a few months try to practice this at some new places. Change yourself first, change yourself in a different environment and then introduce your new self to your old environment.

I said this an hour ago to some other dude. This is a mindset that is killing our game. I DON'T WANT TO FUCK THIS UP. Guy who is great with women doesn't think this way. Guy like that has a life. And seeing some girl is just one of the cool things he's gonna be doing this weekend. And for him it's not "cool", it's normal. He doesn't think I don't want to fuck this up. HE KNOWS HE CAN'T FUCK THIS UP. He may do something that the girl will reject him for. That's ok. He might even fuck it up on purpose , he might try something new. This is a little selfish, but he knows why he's doing it. BLA BLA. He is living in his reality. A girl has to meet his standards, not the other way around. You get the idea what I am saying.

If you want to read good material, read Neil Stauss, read 60, read diCarlo. And then stop reading. Go live your life.

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you care about opinions too much man fuck what they think its your situation.
and just try not make it feel like a date or set up be casual aim for the number if your a beginner.
picking up girls is more about not fucking up than actually being successful

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I think that every successful man should have 3 women at his funeral. One that's crying, one that's smiling and one that's buying things on her laptop with his will.

More practical things you can do:
-Stop masturbating entirely.
-Work out consistently.
-Say "Hi, how are you?" to every girl you can (no one will think you're trying to pick them up, but you may have some good conversations just based on that small effort)
-Go out to bars or parties as often as you can. Go walk around with the intention of talking to girls as often as you can. Just being in the field will help you.

Great stuff guys, thanks for pointing me in the right direction. If I really think about it...I do care too much and rationally, it doesn't make much sense. I can read about swimming as much as I want, but until I'm in the water, I can't swim.

Awesome tips I learned a lot already