hi guys
I know this topic has been discussed probably as long as humanity has existed.
but here it is again.
I have nothing to say.
you guys say ask her questions about herself. but then you say dont ask questions because it's not a job interview.
so I am confused. I need to know what to say right after "Hi, you look interesting, I wanted to come talk to you" how do I continue?
do I say let's get a hotel room and let's get it on?
do I ask her favorite singer?
do I say something about the weather?

If you say she looks interesting... maybe point out what's interesting. You know how to converse with people right? If so just talk to her like you would anyone... be calm casual. Don't over think it, that's when you end up nervous and make a fool of yourself.

To open the conversation you make an observation, then LISTEN to how she responds. If you open with something remotely open-ended, she will respond with something that you can latch on to. Look for keywords in her response and follow up with more open-ended questions. Example:

You: "How are you doing?"
She: "Good"
You: "Awe, come on, don't give me that canned response. Everyone says that. I thought you were interesting. How would you rate your day on a scale of 1 to 10?"
She: "Oh, I'd say 6."
You: "6? Why 6?"
She: "Because it was a typical day, nothing too exciting."
You: "What does an exciting day entail for you? Tell me about the last 10-day you remember"
She: "Let me see... Oh! Last week I went to a party. It was great."
You: "That sounds fun. What kinda party was it?"
She: "It was my best friend's birthday."
You: "How long have you known your best friend? What's special about her?"
etc.

This can continue to infinity. Just keep drilling in on what she's telling you. And don't ask simple, Yes/No questions. Ask questions that require explanation on her part.

BTW, this isn't an interrogation because you're following up with RELEVANT, PROBING questions. What you don't want to do is ask her unrelated questions each time. Here's an example of what NOT to do:

You: "Where did you grow up?"
She: "California"
You: "Did you go to college?"
She: "Yes"
You: "Are you a cat or dog person?"
She: "Cat"
You: "What kind of music do you like?"
She: "Jazz"
You: "What kind of movies do you like?"
She: "Comedies"
etc.

You see how the above is lame? It's like you don't care about what her answer is. You gotta LISTEN to the freaking answer and ask follow up questions! If you do this long enough, you will get to the core of who she is and what makes her tick. This will build amazing rapport. Then she'll let you screw her!

I usually stick with one question for about 10-15 mins... Just find a topic to talk about and keep talking about it.. Conversations don't need constant questions..

My convos usually go

"introduction....Some emotionally charged question....Back and forth banter and conversation about the questions(10 mins-15) ... A story from my life to reflect the question... A story from her life to reflect my story.. Some emotional charged question about someone or something in her story....back and forth banter and conversation about the new question...a story to reflect her answer or my response to her answer/story... she askes me some emotional charged question about my response or my story.. And so on and so on...

I can have a conversation for hours with anyone.

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