so i decide to write journal coz i am ready for some hardwork imrpovement.wel i have been learning this shit for a pretty long time but recently i decide to take it serious coz something happen today and that just make me realise that i am the biggest pussy ass bitch boy and i dont like being pussy ass bitch boy and thats why i want to change it.i have read lots of books and stuff. but now is the time to take things seriously.for that i want you guys as a support and motivation.here is my little personal infromation.i live in belgium and the speak here french and dutch but i speak only english and dutch.3 number close 2 lay2 make out until now never did any direct appraoch ( coz i am pussy but its about to change)
what i want from you guys
support
advice
my mistake
Day 1
Just arrived home from outside . so here it is
Right after i finish my school i rush to my home . fuck its fucking cold man, its -3 degree, damn so cold that i went to paki shop to buy some glove with five euro, but that shit didn,t stop me from going out. coz my will power push me, like they say no pain no gain.
but i still push myself and i went out with my friend.
its too cold their is no much girl but who care i just want to be social for today.
first appraoch
At shopping mall their is no much people so i just saw one girl who is probally like 5 or 6 years older than me so i thought about appraoching her but all the fucked up excuse start coming like, she is too nice or too old and bla bla ..... i keep walking behind her and my friend is like " hey unless you run you never catch up to her" so i run up to her.
me: hey do you speak english ?
she: yeah
me; i think i saw you somewhere in movie
she : yeah?
me: yeah some series i watch in HBO
then bla bla bla ....
its not really any great appraoch but i feel better becoz i appraoch.
then my friends want to go home coz its fucking cold and i feel little dissapointed i did only one appraoch.
we went to metro and even in the metro their is not much people coz its fucking cold.
their i saw one old women
like always i asked if she speak english, she was like yeah but she dont really understand me so i ask may be if she speak dutch.
and she do speak dutch so we talk in and i discuss stuff like meaning behind the name and all those stuff. nothing speacial
and yeah when i was like almost station i saw one dude with nice jacket and i went to ask him and about the jacked but i didnt i though its gonna be wierd but then again i said fuck this weird shit, and i go and ask him about the jacked he told me he bought it from some shop.

thats for today may be its not much and yeah this journal i dont really want to write it but i still did coz i dont want to be a quitter .
for those pro or master pick up or ..... out their here what i did may mean nothing to you but i am just a newbie who is working his way to became a better man.

what i learn today

i should go out earlier so their is more people outside.
the only way to get through appraoch anxiety is to approach
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I have to congratulate you to your decision of making your life better. It's good that you approach strangers and ask them things and that you can have a conversation with them. You could have approached that guy with the jacket if you wanted. It wouldn't have been awkward, if you could have acted naturally.

There's one way to improve your social skills: Go outside and talk. Talk with all people around you: your bosses, your friends, your secretary, your family, the cashier in the supermarket, ...

Try to meditate and have a strong inner self-confidence. You have to have a strong identity. How is your outer stuff (your routines, your skills) gonna be congruent with your inner self if you don't have enough confidence.

Read books about that. Meditate. Think about life, and yourself. Relax. Look up for some "alpha healing sound" on youtube, as I find it to be very relaxing.

Trust me. I don't have a very strong self confidence. (Mine was destroyed from outside factors) When I started PU, I couldn't stand up and tell a stranger my opinion. That is very important!

Good luck bro

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I believe that I am a man that died 20yrs ago. I live like a man that's dead already. I HAVE NO FEAR whatsoever of anyone or anything - Malcolm X

its pitty people still exist in today's words who use racist words... i even didnt bothered to read your thread after this word... sorry mate but you lost respect here...

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Shine

hey sorry that i offend you
but i live in paki for 9 years
i have my own reason for using that words

RESPECT MATE

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Shine