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PostPosted: Sun Feb 05, 2012 7:20 pm 
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A bit about me:
I am 22 turning 23 soon. Like many people on this forum I am a massive AFC at the moment. Had my fair share of a OneItis which really got to me and having recovered I have decided I am going to change myself for the better.
My first ever book in this field was by David DeAngelo's "Double your dating" while I did not really get obvious results from it my attitude towards women e.t.c. changed massively and I could feel things improve constantly. I have since been studying the field a lot but have only recently taken this up so seriously. Seeing other people’s field reports (e.g. AFC Daniel) and the feedback that people gave inspired me to make a report of my own endeavours.

Anyway to the field report;


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 Post subject: Day 1
PostPosted: Sun Feb 05, 2012 7:20 pm 
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Went in-field for the first time, for Day game. Managed to open one set.

Set 1 Details:

Description of Interaction
Saw HB7/8. Chased after her (Day game style) and as I approached her I said “Hi, I saw you over there and had to come and say hi”. Once I did this I had no idea what do say so I went into AFC mode telling her I was a student and asking her if she was too. One problem with this was that we were still walking which made the entire interaction very difficult.

What I learnt from it:
- Make sure the girl stops. This is more relaxing and it’s easier to burn the interaction i.e. keep talking until she walks away.


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 Post subject: Day 2
PostPosted: Sun Feb 05, 2012 7:22 pm 
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Went infield for day game. Wanted to open 5 sets or 6 with 1 as a bonus. Managed 5 sets .

Overall learning outcomes:
- Need to change the opening to something like “I was walking that way when I noticed you. I had to come and find out if you had more than just looks.” As I genuinely look for more than appearance in a girl and by saying that I would be more congruent with myself.
- Rejections don’t mean anything and they can even be funny sometimes
- My confidence keeps improving as I approach more and more girls.


Set 1 Details
Description:
So this time I was intent on making sure I stopped the girl when opening. I saw a girl; HB6. I chased her and said “Hi” as I approached. The approach was unfortunately not strong enough. She replied with a “hi” but kept moving on. I did not want to keep walking after her so stopped there.

What I learnt:
- Projecting my voice and approaching from the side rather than behind and side which I think resulted in her continuing to walk.

Set 2 Details
Description of Interaction
Saw HB 7/8. Went in for the opening. Direct approach – Tapped her shoulder. She Stopped and said “Oh you startled me there”. I could tell from the way she said it that she was now ok. Gave friendly smile and apologised. Then went for my opening “Hi, I saw you over there and had to come and say hi”. She seemed very flattered but said she was engaged while pointing to her ring.
I gave her a little pat on her shoulder and said “well have a good day” or something along those lines. She smiled and walked on.

What I learnt from that
- Girls often like getting approached and feel special.
- Despite stopping her right in the middle of the street no one else cared so it was not at all awkward so I should not care about who else is listening


Set 3 Details
Cannot remember details of this set

Set 4 Details
Description:
Approached the girl. Managed to gracefully stop her. Used by usual line of “I saw you from across the road and had to come and say hi”. There was a pose and I said “I was wondering if I could take you for a coffee”. She opened her mouth to say no and I noticed she was wearing braces. This made me think that she might be too young and immediately felt quite silly. She said she had a boyfriend and I was glad and apologised (instinctively) to her but she actually said with a massive smile that it was completely fine.

Learning outcomes
- Girls especially the HB 6-8s are very happy and flattered when approached.
- It seems like having a mindset that you are actually doing the girls a favour by approaching them is a good one as I felt like I genuinely was.
- Really need to stop apologising. Need to work on confidence perhaps.


Set 5 Details
Weak approach; I used my usual approach of “I saw you ....and had to say hi”. She replied by saying “ok” and walked on.

Learning outcome
- Have never had such a funny rejection. The way she said ok made me laugh and I just did not care. Not being outcome dependant is so important in this journey and I was really proud of myself when I caught myself laughing at the rejection.


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Excellent reports. I'm working on day game at the mall and need more feedback like this. From what I'm seeing it's critical to start with a pre-opener like, "Hey!" and then just wait for her attention to turn to you. It should really be:

1. "Hey". Now wait.
2. She responds with eye contact.
3. If she's walking, you say, "Stop for a second." Wait.
4. Now run your real opener.

What I'm learning is that logistics of the game are critical. In a mall, where people are walking and their attention is elsewhere, you need to do things a specific way. In clubs, it's totally different.


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PostPosted: Wed Feb 08, 2012 2:43 pm 
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This entry is based on social circle game and inner game questions.
I met this girl through social circle. HB6 but we have a lot in common. I have invited her to a social I organised and she was ready to come but then flaked out due to our mutual friend (who we met through) flaking out.

We talked again yesterday:
- I DHV’d about my career, how out going I was etc.
- Found out her favourite coffee and invited myself along to it (but it turned out to be not possible due to logistics).

- She shit tested me a couple of times. On occasion she questioned why I did not go for a higher paying job (which I could have but did not for personal reasons) on the basis that it would allow me to better support a family. I should have given her shit back especially about the fact that I strongly believe in equality and expect a woman to have good a job too. Could have also turned that into a tease about her hitting on me as a gold digger or something. But instead I went on the defence. (Is shit testing the right word for this?)

- Invited her to a social I was going to but she ignored it (in a very polite way and in the context this was not a rejection more a lack of liking the particular activity).
- Found out her food tastes and decided to do a social (with our mutual friends) in two weeks time.

Learning outcomes:
- Today I found myself thinking she was quite boring. But then I realised that it was mainly because I was so busy DHVing myself I did not get her to qualify herself. Always qualify a girl it makes them more interesting to you and things become easier if you genuinely like them.
- Turn shit tests around either as a mild attack or tease/inside joke.
- I was so keen on time-bridging and setting up another interaction that I kept feeding possible ideas even though she was clearly set on one. A clear case of over selling. In the future I will find out what it is and move down not up from it (i.e. if she wants to go for dinner I should instead go down and say let’s go for a coffee first that way if you turn out to be boring I can just run away :P). This would allow me higher status and the genuine ability to cut an interaction that is going nowhere.

Question for you guys:
- If you meet a girl through social circle and she wants to hang out but only when you are with mutual friends do you ever do it? E.g. the first time in order to allow her to be more comfortable around you or do you simply forget it and move on.

- The problem with this girl is that she only seems to do things when her friend is around and does not seem very adventurous. To me she is another experiment so I am not bothered about gaming her etc. but I am always a bit torn between being an alpha male and not chasing girls who I don’t think are that interesting and chasing girls in order to learn from the experience regardless of what I feel about them. What do you think?


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PostPosted: Wed Feb 08, 2012 5:01 pm 
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Excellent reports. I'm working on day game at the mall and need more feedback like this. From what I'm seeing it's critical to start with a pre-opener like, "Hey!" and then just wait for her attention to turn to you. It should really be:

1. "Hey". Now wait.
2. She responds with eye contact.
3. If she's walking, you say, "Stop for a second." Wait.
4. Now run your real opener.

What I'm learning is that logistics of the game are critical. In a mall, where people are walking and their attention is elsewhere, you need to do things a specific way. In clubs, it's totally different.
Thanks very much Morpheo. Its really good to know my reports are of use and your comments were really encouraging :) .

I also completely agree with night game and day game being totally differnt. I am actually going for some night game tomorrow so will be getting a report out on that too soon :).

Take care.


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 Post subject: 11 Feb 2012
PostPosted: Sat Feb 11, 2012 8:46 pm 
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A lot has happened over the last few days. To start off with I have been working on inner game. I am working on simple things like focussing on what I want and where I see myself in the future both from a pick up perspective and in my studies and career rather than moaning about my present and past. I cannot express how much that has changed my mood, confidence and general love for life.
It’s amazing because being in this state has resulted in people actually giving me IOI’s or in some cases even approaching me e.g. bus drivers asking me if I know him from somewhere, random woman at bus stop starting to talk to me, people, who previously didn’t, saying hello to me.

Positives:
- This girl I was with during a social waited for me when it finished and asked me if she could stay around me with while we waited for our different friends.
- We set next to a random group and started talking to them and had a really good conversation
- Used quite a few tools
o Cold reads
o Genuine curiosity
o Kino
o C &F
- In fact the group was pretty much picked me up ?!?
- Did not give a damn when three outsider guys started talking to the girl I was with
- Started dancing with the girls from the group I had just be-friended
- Some of my friends joined us and I started dancing with all the girls from my friend groups in fact I was having so much fun that at one point the bouncer came down and said we could not dance so recklessly :D
- I was loud, friendly and did not give a shit about anything
- My friend and I then approached a mixed group and I started just talking to them and using C & F and they commented on how funny I was.
- On the way back I lifted my bag so that a girl who had just entered the train could sit down and she thanked me to which I said she looked like she needed one ( in a funny tone). She loved it. Started playfully slap me and lean into my shoulder while I patted her and said was really friendly. She then started talking about how funny I was to her friend but I then politely ignored her as I did not want the girl I was with to feel left out.
- I also had the courage to text I was with and ask her out

Areas of improvement:
- I could have been bolder and gone for a Kiss close with the girl I went to the bar with but I kept giving myself excuses. I need to simply be ballsier with this. Will look up the sticking points section on this and obviously if you know how I can push myself with this then let me know.
- In the future I want to be able to ask a girl in person and not do it so weakly by text. I intend to be more confident and happy with myself and just do everything confidently.
- I am working on my eye contact but seem to forget to maintain it when I am having good conversations.


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 Post subject: Goals for next week
PostPosted: Sun Feb 12, 2012 5:57 pm 
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Decided to focus on other goals today but have set some PUA related goals for the up coming week.

I seem to have made a lot of progress this week and so I want to continue to build on this next week. I intend to do the following simple things;

- Stay focussed on were I see myself in the long run and who I am striving to be
- Smile (but not in a fake way)
- Maintain eye contact for as long as I can but with smiling eyes
- When talking to people find things we agree on
- Keep enthusiastic no matter that the outcome of all my endeavours!!!


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 Post subject: More progress :D
PostPosted: Mon Feb 13, 2012 10:29 pm 
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13 Feb 2012

The following was not a pick up but I believe being a good alpha male/pua includes being able to talk to anyone!!!

I Was commuting;

Opening:
- Smiled at woman as she exclaimed her annoyance towards the departed train that we both just missed.
- When she turned around I said “atleast they are working now” (in reference to the fact that there were major problems with the transport system earlier that day).

Conversation/Transition
- We then talked a bit about the train and the weather or something fairly generic but I remember keeping it quite interesting.
- She then asked me what I was doing in the city to which I explained my present career etc in detail. She was impressed: D.
- We then talked about many things including her daughter etc.
- The entire interaction lasted about 30 mins but I left feeling quite good about my social skills as I was the one who had to excuse myself when I reached my stop.

Progress with goals (Mainly inner game related);

Being enthusiastic and keeping a smile (not goofy):
The day started off a bit rough due to the transport system failing. I did not let that get to me but found it quite hard to feel truly enthusiastic and upbeat today.

Eye contact:
Good progress; I noticed myself reminding myself to maintain good eye contact when talking to others and while I did not manage to do it all the time there was clearly a lot of progress in this area.


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 Post subject: Bar
PostPosted: Sun Feb 19, 2012 11:58 pm 
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I was at a bar. 2 Approaches, 4 dances. Should have taken the interaction further.

Approach 1

Opening:
Went up to a two set and said "Hello girls". As soon as I had said that I thought it was a very weak approach but went through with it anyway.

One of them turned and said "Its too early in the evening. Come back after I have had a few more beers".
I replied "I am only making friendly conversation" but I think by this point my mind was already racing too fast and so I sort of said "cool I will be back after two beers".

In retrospect I could have used a Neg at this point and asked if she was not able to have a friendly conversation without drinking.

I went back to my friends and told them what happened and laughed out loud about how polite she was and also it meant that in theory she did not mind me going back after a few beers.

Approach 2
Indirect approach;
Opening:
I asked when the dancing usually started at the bar and the woman said it should be around about now. I then went on to ask her if she was a regular to which she replied "yeh once a month".

"Tried a cold read of are you Latin American" but she said no. Then one of her friends interrupted her with something and I sort of lost the conversation.

Approach 3
This was quite a cool approach. I had a friend who was quite shy with me. I was telling him he should just go up to girls and ask them for a dance. I took him across the floor and approached 2 sets.

2 Set Opening:
Are you waiting to dance?

The first two said no

2 Set Opening:
Are you waiting to dance?

Girl: I don't know how to.
Me: No problem. I will show you (I actually am decent at dancing)

Because I wanted my friend to dance I grabbed her hand and gave her to him. I then simply grabbed her friends arm and we both danced with them. When I think back to it I reckon at least one of them was wanting to get picked up but I did not realise this at the time as it was getting late and the public transport system was shutting down.

My friend though was very grateful forced him to approach and it made me realise how much pick up had done for my confidence :D.


Finally:
There was also a 5 set with about 4 girls. I wanted to open it but at the time I could not think of what to say. Now that I think about it though I recall they were all quite young so I could have tried a call read about them being students or something.


Learning outcomes:
1 ) Don't be put of by a few rejections; When the first woman asked me to come back after a few beers it put me down a bit but I should have constantly tried to approach regardless.

2) Once again; found that people are very friendly. They are polite even when trying to get rid of you.

Over and out :D


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 Post subject: Day game 24 Feb 2012
PostPosted: Mon Feb 27, 2012 7:36 pm 
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Had the privilege of going sarging with an MPUA :D

I went for Day Game on Oxford Street in London. For a while I could not open. I had thoughts of how there was no point and kept waiting for the perfect moment and the perfect girl.

Luckily I had an MPUA with me (who contacted me through this forum). He pushed me a lot and made me open 3 girls

Girl 1
Opening
Weak approach. I went after her and said excuse me. She looked at me and then moved on.
My wing explained that I should not be afraid to touch her lightly on the shoulder etc. as then it would cause them to stop.

Girl 2
Opening
Kino on shoulder. "Excuse me I saw you over there and because this is London I will probably never see you again. So I had to come and find out if you had more to you then good looks".
The Kino worked she stopped and faced me :D.

She looked impressed but said I am really sorry I have a boy friend and started to walk. I gave her a big smile and said at least I made you smile and walked in the opposite direction.

Girl 3
Opened with Kino and same opener. To which she replied "no". I did not know what to say to that. But in hind site I should have said "don't be so harsh on yourself, I am sure you have something" or something to that extent. Anyway I still asked her a few things about her and exchanged information about me but her saying no at the start had thrown me off a bit so I did not manage to keep calm and keep going :).

Will be going for Day game again later this week so will keep you updated :)


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Look as though you've been making some good progress. You really should start practicing your sexual state projection, though. Don't give up now; your journal was already on page 2!


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PostPosted: Wed Mar 14, 2012 11:15 pm 
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So recently the full benefits of the many women belief etc. have really kicked in.

- My female friends suddenly all seem to want to see me more regularly (before it was the other way round).

- My life is increasingly becoming very exciting and I feel like I am enjoying it to the fullest and am very motivated to do my work etc.

Anyway to the reporting; (From last weeks day game (forgot the date sorry))

To start with there was some AA. I don't understand why I still get AA at the beginning of day game when I know that the outcomes is almost always neutral if not pleasant. I have never had any woman being rude and yet I get AA at the start :S

Set 1
Usual opener : "Excuse me I saw you over there and I had to come and find out if there was more to you then good looks"
She: "Oh"
Me: "hi my name is X".
She: "Hi X, that is really sweet of you but I have a boyfriend an so I don't want to take up your time".
Me: No worries. Thanks for the honesty. (Kino on arm).

Set 2
Usual opener;......
She: Sorry what did you say?
Me: (A bit annoyed at my poor projection) "Never mind" and walked away :(.

My wing here was listening in from slightly far and gave me the following feedback.
Don't bother saying excuse me. Try using "Hey" or "Hi" it has a cooler vibe.

Set 3
Usual opener but with Hey instead
Her: No.... walks on
Me: (laughing at myself for the really bad projection)

My wing here said I needed to slow down the opening a lot more. Using slower gestures. Pauses Pauses Pauses.

End of Day :D

Thanks for reading :D






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 Post subject: Away from the streets
PostPosted: Thu Mar 15, 2012 10:29 am 
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So I think here is where Chief's recommendation on SSP comes in. But let me know what you guys think.

So away from the field I managed to number close a girl I was dancing with. (She really liked dancing). So I told her she could join me and my friends when we went out dancing again.

She came when I invited her. We had a really good time and I am certain there was some tension as some of our dances were very close up. However I did not kiss close.

I then tried to organize a dinner with her but she said she was busy that day and I said I would be free on Friday instead (last week) but she did not reply to the text so I let it be.

Anyway I organised another dancing session with her. Here I tried to change venue by telling her I wanted her to get her heels from her office (close to where we were) so we walked there and the whole time we had a really interesting conversation.

We had fun that evening dancing but then she left with one of her friends and did not really say bye.

Next day Starbucks was doing free coffee. I texted her about it and she asked which one to which I said "I am in starbucks X" come now. Just as I was giving up on her appearing she appeared and we talked while she placed her order but then we had to part ways as we had things to do that day.

I am getting worried I will fall into the friends zone at this rate. I think Chief's comments on SSP could have been more timely as that is probably the thing I need to do i.e. push both of us into a sexual state. The other thing is I have never kissed a girl romantically (there I have said it :) ) so I think I am making the K-close a very big deal for myself.

Next step:
I will invite the girl to join me out tonight. I will not go dancing with her because that is what she likes. I will do something I like. If she turns up I will take that to mean she wants me and will use it as an excuse to physically escalate.

If she does not reply to my text then I will not take it personally and will be proud of myself for not being outcome dependent and going through with the process.

Thanks for reading

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I am getting worried I will fall into the friends zone at this rate. I think Chief's comments on SSP could have been more timely as that is probably the thing I need to do i.e. push both of us into a sexual state. The other thing is I have never kissed a girl romantically (there I have said it :) ) so I think I am making the K-close a very big deal for myself.
It really isn't a big deal, and it would help if you made sure to keep in mind that kissing shouldn't be a big leap forward, but rather just one point on a smooth compliance/escalation ladder.


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