Here are some rules I want my "secret girl fuck buddy" to live by. INFO; we have been everything a couple can be fuck buddies, in love, cheating.. Now I have a girl friend I am with... And I am back to fucking my old girl.. Because it is just sooo good, she feels the same!!

I want 5 main rules. here is what I was thinking.

No lying ever..
No telling anyone, its our secret.
We can say; I love you and stuff of that nature only when we are fucking.
Only 4 days a month, 2 for her and 2 for me. Try to notify 3 days in advance
If we are around our other lovers. Do not put them on display for a negative emotional reaction.

Well that was my five... I think a couple rules can be better. I am more mature so I have to keep my little girl in check. Anyone got good FB policy? Let me know!

Those of you that know me... I am sure you know the back story here. Ill spare you the air! Just know I am very comfortable with her now...

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Here is the revised list I sent my fuck buddy...

The Rules!
The top 5

1. No lying ever..
2. No telling anyone, ANYONE, its our secret.
3. We can say; I love you only when we are alone or fucking.
4. Only 4 days a month, 2 for you and 2 for me. Try to notify me 3 days in advance.
5. If one of us is around our other lovers, and we see the other. Do not put the person your dating on display for a negative emotional reaction. No drama on purpose.

Other things that go without saying! ha, or so I thought

1. Do not get Naked around my friends.
2. Just be considerate of the other. Aim to please.
3. We will have to get a hotel room and kick it somewhere. IE (biltmore in KB, Peppermil in Reno or harvys in South lake)
4. It all has to be planned out ahead of time. Rule 4!
5. Anything goes in bed. Anything! Just say babe, I will.
6. No doubt were hung up... Lets look at the good and seriously ride out the best things we like in each other as long as we can.
7. Cant stress rule 1 and 2 enough, No lying, no lying and its just our secret. I am done with the Bullshit and so are u. I will take this secret too the grave baby.
8. Oh yeah, try not to cancel plans. If I plan with you, I fully intend to keep the plans. This/we are important, we should respect each other for what we are.
9. No more games!
10. No drama

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Cha, if you want your FB situation to last, then you should really consider following the extensively community-tested FB Rules.

FB Rules Linkie: http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/se ... 9162438322

To all others, it is generally not a good idea to verbalize rules and structure to a FB in such a direct way. A girl isn't going to act any differently because you give her a written set of rules, except that now she has a list of things she can do to shit-test you and cause you drama. Cha has also given her ammunition in the form of an e-mail. Now, the second she gets pissed at Cha all she has to do is forward the e-mail to his girlfriend to really screw him over.

Even so, best of luck, Cha. I hope this works out for you.

EDIT: Also, this is not a sticking point. These types of posts belong in the relationship forum.

EDIT2: Better yet, here is a fantastic post on having multiple long-term relationships: http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/se ... 1871591100

-Wolf

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Wolf based on what you said I would say that I found a sort of sticking point. By the way.. The info you gave me was very informative, just what I needed.

The links you put on here are very valuable. It looks like I am crossing a few of the lines in my relationships. The rules I gave to my FB should not cause much drama. If they do I would be surprised. However, you are right! If this was a chess game of sorts I would have left myself open for attack.

And my girlfriend. I would not say that I was pressured into something with her. But I def am lying to her. That being said, I am doing a AFC thing. I am giving her a false identity to view me. And now I fully understand and feel the guilt.

The other issue I see. I have two girls in my life that i really like. So where is my drive to get a third. I do not have this drive. I am like yeah I am good. However, this will lead to some new problems in my life. Like getting rusty with sargeing or just complacent with my game in general.

Wow Wolf, that list was extensive and packed full of knowledge. I will def read it again several times. I have to brush up on all my acronyms though. Hey thanks bra, Respeckt!!

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