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alright update. I think I may have gone too far.
Me: fair enough. I want a bit more than just casual texting though. YOu free for lunch tomorrow?
HB: I have a daily ritual where I eat lunch with my friends errday... what class do you take at -----?
Me: You're making it very hard for me here.
HB: hahaha... my badness... Perhaps it's just not meant to be
Me: how bout dinner tomorrow in my room. Naked.
HB: As lovely as that proposition sounds... it's not
Me: Did I mention whips and handcuffs?
HB: haha only on tuesdays cool kid (today is monday)
Me: Tomorrow. 9pm. I'm going to ravage you...
HB: Cool. Story. Bro.
Me: Hah. We'll see who's talking after tomorrow.
HB: Buh Byeeee... Have a great life
WTF? I don't understand what I did wrong. Anyone have pointers for me? Literally I feel like my text game sucks. I don't know how to escalate forward in the right way.
You pushed way too hard to sexualize the conversation when she obviously wasn't having it. Even in the first exchange "we have unfinished business" was, in my opinion, too forward and obvious. Girls are wired differently. Research ASD (anti-slut defense).
Girls don't want to take part in their own seduction. They want to think it "
just happened". By saying you have unfinished business, you telegraphed your intentions and raised her ASD.
I don't sexualize over texts unless a sexual relationship is already very well established. I know the direct game guys will disagree, but that's how I do.
By the second failed attempt to turn things sexual, you just looked desperate/horney and borderline creepy.