So my main problem is confidence, im fairly happy taking to girls and keeping a conversaion going but the girl has to have approched me first. I find it hard to make the initial approach, that is until ive had a few drinks by which time im no longer thinking as quickly as i would sober and have more of a tendancy to say the wrong things. So, my question is, how can i go about buiding enough confidence to make a decent first approach??

Many thanks.

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Epip you ask a good question. Confidence is probably the single most factor that prevents guys from getting the sex life they would like. Imagine being a guy as confident as Brad Pitt, you would have no problems approaching any girl. Now how do you get to this level. I know this very good because I used to be in exactly the same situation as you. I used to be very good at conversation building sexual tension flirting etc..bat very bad at opening. What you have to do is be prepared to fail. The reason you have a problem approaching is you want to approach in a way that you 100% will not be rejected and you over think and think "oh I can't approach now " "oh she's not hot enough" " I am tired now " etc... In order to gain confidence you have to understand that it's ok to fail and you have to be ready to fail. That is the single most powerful way of building confidence. If you are ready to fail you wont care if this girl rejects you or not. You don't care what will happen because it's not the end of the world. This goes for anything not only girls. In business if your not ready to fail you'll always be stuck over calculating the risks and getting nowhere. When your ready to fail you have nothing to lose. Also you have to approach fast as soon as you see the girl because the more time you take approaching a girl the harder it gets. Good luck.

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Assume attraction. Books and movies can be entertaining, and hell they may inspire you for a week or two, but at some point you have to fundamentally change the way you are thinking. In this case, the easiest thing you can do is change the assumption. Right now, you assume women aren't interested if they dont' walk up to you and start a conversation. But what if you assumed they ARE interested, ALWAYS, and are just waiting because they prefer men with the spine to make the approach.

Better yet, to rip off 60yoc stuff, what if you knew for a fact that for every 20 women you opened, 1 would be incredibly into you. How fast would you try to open 20? How little bs would you put up with? Exactly.

Thanks guys, both of your comments made good points and suggestions, i'll definately be taking them on board and hopefully upping my game.

Thanks again.

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