| I've never had good game, but today it just stuck me that before my relationship I was getting much better. What I was doing was using those little thoughts about stuff that I had throughout there day as openers. You know the kind of thoughts like "thats a colorful jacket" when a girl is walking towards you, or "you she must be bored, shes doodling all over her work", or "I'm so tired why are there so many stairs on this building" or "why can't it be summer already, I hate the cold" etc.
It doesn't seem good enough to say aloud because its not exactly the most interesting thing you could say and I think that why a lot of guys don't consider saying it. They're worried that girls will think "why is he saying that to me, he doesn't know me, thats so weird." Or they just think it for a split second and don't even consider using it. But because its not really interesting, I think it actually works to your advantage because it seems more genuine, it makes you seem confident for just saying what's on your mind, it make you seem friendly and it seems natural and spontaneous because, well, it was. In other words you give off a good vibe, and because of this girls seem to be quite friendly in return. And because it is natural and spontaneous and its essentially a situational opener, I think it will seem less weird than a lot of things you might try and think of to say.
And often those kind of thoughts are quite funny and will make them laugh even though your not trying to be funny and are you saying what's on your mind.
Its actually a hard enough job to recognize when you have such a thought because often you think them for a split second and youre so used to just kind of ignoring them. And then you think that you can't think of anything to say as an opener but you've actually thought of loads of things to say but have dismissed them all because you think they're not good enough.
I started doing this last year and completely forgot about it. It made me much more confident with 'opening' because it doesnt feel like opening, it just felt like I was being friendly and sharing my thoughts about something.
What do you guys think of this?
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