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Very inspirational. Could you post more about how you're actually opening the set and transitioning into a full-blown conversation... that would be super helpful. Are you being completely direct? That is, telling the girl you like her? How long are you waiting to get a number?
Right now I'm toying with the idea of just coming up to girls in the mall and saying, "Hey, I just saw you and thought you were cute. Let's grab a coffee sometime." But maybe that's too direct? I like the idea of building some rapport first, but how?
Morph, thanks for the questions.
Usually, I just go in and say what comes to mind. But my first goal is to get the girls attention by stopping her and making some eye contact. If i see a girl walk by me, I turn back, and walk fast ahead of her( but cooley, so she does not notice) and then i cut across and stop in-front of her, pretty much stopping her from walking. I use some good body language and hand gestures. This usually get them stop. In the process's of doing that I open( like when they first notice me and I am in their "WINDOW".
I use both direct and in-direct. This is pretty much COLD APPROACH.
Somethings that I find work well, and I have used.
" hey, I saw you walk by from over there, and I just had to come over and see what you are all about. Who are you?"
(ask opinion, or question), then say " You know I really only asked that, because I wanted to come over here and see what you are all about". When I say that I usually alaugh and tap on shoulder(KINO)
BUT here is the thing. The first week I was doing this full force, the girls would not stop and just keep walking, or they would not respond and walk away.
What I realized that its all about how comfortable you are around them and how you project what you say. It really does not matter what you say. If you have the Inner game and are able to vibrate it to whom ever you are talking to, you are in.
I personally hate lines, and just want enjoy talking to women. and ITs FUN
Go out and do it, You have nothing to lose. You will get blown out, but it doesn't change any thing. IN fact when you do get blown out, you will learn ALOT from it.