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PostPosted: Sat Feb 04, 2012 11:13 pm 
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I want to try to keep this short, but I've got an LJBF who sent me a long mean email to defriend me 2 years ago on Myspace. This came after a 2 week camping trip with her where we didn't really get along to well because long camping trips arn't my thing. After this, on myspace during one of our conversations she bashed me for not working 40 hours a week so my comeback was "At least I'm getting progressively richer and not more and more in debt like you." That was when she sent me a long email bashing every aspect about my life then deleted me.

How do I fix something like this? It's her birthday so even though she doesn't have a myspace anymore I was thinking of sending her a facebook message saying something like.

"Even though I've been a bad friend, I thought it couldn't hurt to wish you a happy birthday and ask how you've been doing?"

Is this a good idea? If you need to know more details about this just let me know. I didn't want to bore anyone with a whole life story.


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If you respect her and want to salvage the friendship, take the earnest approach. This isn't about manipulation tactics, but rather to right a wrong. You know the situation better than anyone here could ever, so go with your gut on this one.

What I'd do is draft up something, let it sit for a few days and revisit it to see if it's something you feel honest about (often when writing it can drudge up a lot of emotion, so sometimes its best to leave it for a day or so and come back to it with a fresh eye before sending it off).


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Fuck apology letters.


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Two fucking years ago, get a life. Seriously, life can rule without one chick.


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Two fucking years ago, get a life. Seriously, life can rule without one chick.
He didn't say he wanted to get with her, calm down champ.


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Fuck apology letters.
What should I say then?


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Thanks papichulo818


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I want to try to keep this short, but I've got an LJBF who sent me a long mean email to defriend me 2 years ago on Myspace. This came after a 2 week camping trip with her where we didn't really get along to well because long camping trips arn't my thing. After this, on myspace during one of our conversations she bashed me for not working 40 hours a week so my comeback was "At least I'm getting progressively richer and not more and more in debt like you." That was when she sent me a long email bashing every aspect about my life then deleted me.

How do I fix something like this? It's her birthday so even though she doesn't have a myspace anymore I was thinking of sending her a facebook message saying something like.

"Even though I've been a bad friend, I thought it couldn't hurt to wish you a happy birthday and ask how you've been doing?"

Is this a good idea? If you need to know more details about this just let me know. I didn't want to bore anyone with a whole life story.
How the fuck have you been a bad friend? ... Are you trying to make her feel sorry for you? Because in no way were you a bad friend.

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I want to try to keep this short, but I've got an LJBF who sent me a long mean email to defriend me 2 years ago on Myspace. This came after a 2 week camping trip with her where we didn't really get along to well because long camping trips arn't my thing. After this, on myspace during one of our conversations she bashed me for not working 40 hours a week so my comeback was "At least I'm getting progressively richer and not more and more in debt like you." That was when she sent me a long email bashing every aspect about my life then deleted me.

How do I fix something like this? It's her birthday so even though she doesn't have a myspace anymore I was thinking of sending her a facebook message saying something like.

"Even though I've been a bad friend, I thought it couldn't hurt to wish you a happy birthday and ask how you've been doing?"

Is this a good idea? If you need to know more details about this just let me know. I didn't want to bore anyone with a whole life story.
How the fuck have you been a bad friend? ... Are you trying to make her feel sorry for you? Because in no way were you a bad friend.
Strange saying he wasnt a bad friend when 1) you're asking him how he was a bad friend under the assumption that he might have fucked up, and 2) you have no idea what went down on the camping trip.


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How the fuck have you been a bad friend? ... Are you trying to make her feel sorry for you? Because in no way were you a bad friend.
Part of it was because we camped on an island and I wanted to camp in the mosquito free south end of the island but she insisted it's not a designated area and we could be fined $50 for doing it. The mosquito's were horrible too, literally biting once every 5 seconds. She probably thinks I was a bad friend because I was miserable while being bit every 5 seconds for hours on end too. Oh yeah, then I saw in her myspace blog after she deleted me that she also deleted at least one other guy and said " I just deleted a couple of bad friends".


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How the fuck have you been a bad friend? ... Are you trying to make her feel sorry for you? Because in no way were you a bad friend.
Part of it was because we camped on an island and I wanted to camp in the mosquito free south end of the island but she insisted it's not a designated area and we could be fined $50 for doing it. The mosquito's were horrible too, literally biting once every 5 seconds. She probably thinks I was a bad friend because I was miserable while being bit every 5 seconds for hours on end too. Oh yeah, then I saw in her myspace blog after she deleted me that she also deleted at least one other guys and said " I just deleted a couple of bad friends".
If u truly were a bad friend go right ahead, if not fuck it and move on.


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How the fuck have you been a bad friend? ... Are you trying to make her feel sorry for you? Because in no way were you a bad friend.
Part of it was because we camped on an island and I wanted to camp in the mosquito free south end of the island but she insisted it's not a designated area and we could be fined $50 for doing it. The mosquito's were horrible too, literally biting once every 5 seconds. She probably thinks I was a bad friend because I was miserable while being bit every 5 seconds for hours on end too. Oh yeah, then I saw in her myspace blog after she deleted me that she also deleted at least one other guy and said " I just deleted a couple of bad friends".
From what you wrote, you didnt do shit wrong.. Don't apologize to her, thats really wimpy and she won't like you for it.. Just spark up a new conversation.. Like "hey, im up for some mosquito bites, wanna go camping? :) "

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Fuck apology letters.
What should I say then?
lol nothing. this thread is stupid.


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How the fuck have you been a bad friend? ... Are you trying to make her feel sorry for you? Because in no way were you a bad friend.
Part of it was because we camped on an island and I wanted to camp in the mosquito free south end of the island but she insisted it's not a designated area and we could be fined $50 for doing it. The mosquito's were horrible too, literally biting once every 5 seconds. She probably thinks I was a bad friend because I was miserable while being bit every 5 seconds for hours on end too. Oh yeah, then I saw in her myspace blog after she deleted me that she also deleted at least one other guy and said " I just deleted a couple of bad friends".
From what you wrote, you didnt do shit wrong.. Don't apologize to her, thats really wimpy and she won't like you for it.. Just spark up a new conversation.. Like "hey, im up for some mosquito bites, wanna go camping? :) "
Alternatively, "I'm up for mosquito bites, so show me your titties!" Statements are always better:D


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