So I met this girl online and got her number. Texts were good and funny, lots of banter ect but she took quite a while to reply (a few hours) which made it tough to get a lot of rapport going! Something I'm normally very good at! I would mirror the amount of time it took her to reply but I just thought she must be busy.

Got the girl out on a date within a few days and we both had a great night! K closed and lots of kino.

On the date we were both drinking and she started to admit that she was gaming me over text. She told me that she would make me wait on purpose for her replys. I didnt react to this in fact I found it funny and we both laughed.


However it's beginning to piss me off now lol!

Recently I've noticed that inbetween her not replying she is online on the dating site for hours yet she won't reply for ages!


I hate games like this as I lose intrest quickly.

Problem is, I dont want to lose intrest in this one...


Should I call her out?



Sucks getting gamed lol

I mean should I straight up tell her that this is making me lose intrest?

It's a tactic I've never tried. I usually just let it slide.


Is there a funny/witty way to hint at it? (a funny way to say, "keep this up and I'm gone" might be tricky!

I'm 26 she's 29

It says on my profile "no games or I'll lose intrest"

Don't call her out. That will let her know it's affecting you.

Mirror her actions. Take just as long to reply to her texts as she takes to reply to yours. Randomly ignore some of her texts - don't respond at all. If she starts going through a barrage of fast responses, reward her for the good behavior by doing the same in return. Train her like a dog. A dog of the female variety. A bitch.

i will add something but snarg here told you EXECTLY what you HAVE to do!

listen to the man...

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You don't have to keep playing along, but you don't need to make a scene of it and look like a 7 year old boy who was just told he can't have a cookie. You know she makes you wait, so just have a life. Don't text her then put everything else on hold waiting for her answer. Women aren't that different, they do these games because they want to avoid overinvesting and all those other things we say are bad on sites like this one. Don't fall for it again, and if things don't pick up then I'd say yeah, just move on.

That's exactly what I've been doing. Occasionally she starts responding instantly but that's always just before bed. The first time this happened she ended the conversation saying it's time for bed. I was like fuck!! The next times I've been sure to be the one saying "right I'm off to bed" first.

After the first date I even took the piss out of it! I send the usual hope you got home safe text to which she replied straight away. I replied to that and added "shit...I replied too soon lol" which made her laugh!

Looks like there's too much bantering and not enough rapport as you said. She obviously likes you but you haven't showed her whose boss. You need to control the frame.

She tells you she's text gaming you and waiting on purpose to get you to act in certain ways?

You tell her, "Actually, girls who play games aren't very genuine. I like a girl who can be real with me." Nothing personal. You're not calling her out on it. But it will DEFINITELY set the frame and get her to qualify hard and at the same time act like it didn't affect you and you're living your life. Don't mirror her actions because her actions are counterproductive and you will still lose her eventually.

Set another meet, be a lot more serious this time. Just be boring and genuine, keep the fun low key on this one and loop it with being sexual. Bring up the text gaming thing. Be like, "So why do you like to game over text?" She'll say some shit and go on about it. Say, "Shhhhhhhhhh" put your finger on her lips, get close and tell her, "Stop existing and start living." Then make out with her.

The game doesn't exist.

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I've a life and I'm very busy but she was pretending she was busy which I know she's not...just pissed me off a little that all!

I know you guys gave the right advice.

I'm gaming a few others right now and I've dates lined up so if it doesn't pick up I'll just say sorry Ive met someone else. Hope you find someone nice.

That worked once before but I've only had this once before!

How would I bring that up without triggering the bitch shield? I'm guessing you mean in person?

It's better in person but you can do it over text as well, who cares about her bitch shield. If she refuses to qualify but puts up a bitch shield, next her and tell her, "It was a pleasure knowing you, her name." You're in control. No arguing, no debating, no questions asked. If she's going to fuck you, you need to communicate with her from a position of power. She's a cute little child, give her a little slap on the wrist.

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She just replied answering my last text and also said "sorry been really busy all afternoon and I not good at multitasking"

She sent this while still on the site so I just replied...

"Hi, I was thinking about what you said on our date and I've got to admit that I like a girl who can be real with me. Ive always felt that girls who play games are not very genuine. Nothing personal but it's not what really what I'm looking for at the moment"

She replied instantly saying

"No probs......."


I'm guessing the .......is an attempt to get me to justify my message but in reality I can't be assed!

Well that was definitely an awkward response from her.

Then again, it seems like you kind of randomly pulled that essay out of nowhere, at least from her perspective.

I'd say give her a day or two and see if she says anything. Don't follow up and definitely do NOT apologize.

You were supposed to say that on the moment when she admitted to text gaming you, not come out of the blue with it. It's like saying, "Hey remember that one night we fought? Yeah, you were wrong." What you're supposed to be doing right now is trying to set another date. Call her up to do so. Call again later if she doesn't respond. After that, text her "I want to see you this week, when are you free?" If you simply can't ask her out over the phone or text, go on to sexting/being a sexual threat. The best alternative to all of these is if you see her in person on a certain basis, it's better to wait until then and ask her out without texting/calling her and forgetting everything I've mentioned above. If you don't see her in person at all and she won't comply to setting a date, your next option is below. What I mean about not complying to setting a date is after you asked her out and she said she's busy, you must have at least kept the pressure on her. Don't stop right after she told you she's busy. Go on and say, "How about next week?" and she still says she's busy, you stop there and continue on to this.

Come out with a text saying, "What's your favorite position."
Her: Why do you need to know?
Me: Because I was having dirty thoughts about you last night.
Her: Umm I don't roll like that. Me: I'm just being honest.
Her: Umm you're perverted. Me: You're just sexy, it's all your fault.
Her: Don't text me anymore.
Me: Good idea, you make me too horny anyways.

If she responds the opposite way to all of those, then she's with the program and you can try to ask her out again. If she isn't compliant that time, don't say anything else and leave it at that. Let the sexual images form in her mind over a few hours or days. Meanwhile, keep meeting new girls.

Your texting now must be aimed at seducing her and pushing it forwards. Don't go backwards with it and discuss things that aren't related to your attraction towards her.

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Ah that makes more sense lol!

I'm viewing this one as a lost cause now anyway! I'll take this as a lesson learnt!

Think I'll just cut contact and move on.

Go back and read the post just above the one that's above this one. I added more to it. You still have a few options left.

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