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PostPosted: Sat Feb 04, 2012 1:21 am 
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today i approached this girl. I said "were you in the movie pretty woman?"
she said "no"
I said "because you are very pretty."
then she laughed a little and i said "get it?"
she said "yeah"
I said "is that a good pick up line?"
she said "no, but nice try"
then I left

Then I started thinking I shouldnt say that i am trying to pick her up, right? was this a bad idea?
I just dont know whats the next step? when you say your line and she laughs, what do you say next?
also when she says "nice try" do you stay there and try other tactics, or do you move on? when she said that i thought "well fuck you too" then left, but i think that shows a weakness? should I have stayed and said something like "is it because i smell? because i can change that" something funny? i dont know.


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How about, "Hey you looked interesting so I wanted to meet you :)"

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How about, "Hey you looked interesting so I wanted to meet you :)"
I have a hard time saying something normal like that. I just feel much much more comfortable saying something weird like the pretty woman line. i dont know why, i know it seems that being normal should be more comfortable, but for me, being cheesy or weird is more comfortable.
so you guys thinks its lame to use such lines? will i have better success just saying something ordinary like "I want to meet you" ?


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I think you're worried about a problem that's going to stop mattering once you get more experience. Keep talking to girls, and you'll learn to talk to them casually. Don't let this one encounter get you down.

You're never going to have success with cheesy lines, but don't worry, after a little while you'll learn not to need them.

Real life is always important, and any negative real life experience is really just a chance to learn in disguise.


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From what I found weird works, cheesy does not. No girls gonna take you serious with that line it's corny as fuck.

The only way that would ever work is if you played it off as if you were joking. Then actually started a intelligent conversation with her.

But hey! Great way to get over approach anxiety!


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From what I found weird works, cheesy does not. No girls gonna take you serious with that line it's corny as fuck.

The only way that would ever work is if you played it off as if you were joking. Then actually started a intelligent conversation with her.

But hey! Great way to get over approach anxiety!
well my intent is to joke but they take it seriously. I want them to think "wow, this guy is so confident, he is not afraid of saying something lame" but this is not what happens. What actually happens is they think "wow this guy is lame" because they think I am being serious.

whats the difference between weird and cheesy and corny? to me they are the same thing.
anyway, I do want to play it off as if I am joking. but how? is this good?
"because you look very pretty...I am joking....I am looking for corny ways to meet women"


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PostPosted: Sat Feb 04, 2012 3:28 am 
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Weird is off the wall new/different

Corny/cheesy is just lame unoriginal.

You want to let them know you're joking body language and laughter. Say something like no

"haha! seriously though. I'm not that lame." Give a cheesy grin, then move to natural conversation. Just be light free and confident. Make her leave you or close her quick then eject.

Don't ever think "well screw you" remember it's your fault she doesn't like you.


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That's cool, I like it. I do cheesy stuff like that all the time. I'd keep her guessing whether I'm serious or joking though.
You can't keep it up for long, you've gotta start making interesting chat with her early on.

Only once I told a girl she's like the girl in Pretty Woman (wasn't an opener) and she replied "are you saying I look like a prostitute?" I just laughed and apologized (some "alpha" wannabe probably thinks that's weak). Nothing ever happened with her but we're good mates now.

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"haha! seriously though. I'm not that lame." Give a cheesy grin, then move to natural conversation. Just be light free and confident. Make her leave you or close her quick then eject.
I wouldn't verbalize that you're joking. It's something I used to do a lot, but I've found it SO much more effective to sub-communicate it.
Maybe just a cheeky smile, and a facial expression that says "are you really that gullible?" and then start talking about something serious. It shows that you don't take yourself too seriously, and that you really aren't concerned about what she thinks of you. It makes you appear really secure.


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How about, "Hey you looked interesting so I wanted to meet you :)"
I have a hard time saying something normal like that. I just feel much much more comfortable saying something weird like the pretty woman line. i dont know why, i know it seems that being normal should be more comfortable, but for me, being cheesy or weird is more comfortable.
so you guys thinks its lame to use such lines? will i have better success just saying something ordinary like "I want to meet you" ?
Get over it (no offense). You are too used to acting weak around girls. I give you props for approaching the girl in the first place, that is 90% of all this mental masturbation. But when you talk to her, show balls. The reason you're more comfortable with being weird/cheesy is because you are overcompensating for the lack of balls to just tell her something bold with a poker face. Do that and you'll show congruency therefore they won't give you such a hard time and take you seriously.

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How about, "Hey you looked interesting so I wanted to meet you :)"
I have a hard time saying something normal like that. I just feel much much more comfortable saying something weird like the pretty woman line. i dont know why, i know it seems that being normal should be more comfortable, but for me, being cheesy or weird is more comfortable.
so you guys thinks its lame to use such lines? will i have better success just saying something ordinary like "I want to meet you" ?
Get over it (no offense). You are too used to acting weak around girls. I give you props for approaching the girl in the first place, that is 90% of all this mental masturbation. But when you talk to her, show balls. The reason you're more comfortable with being weird/cheesy is because you are overcompensating for the lack of balls to just tell her something bold with a poker face. Do that and you'll show congruency therefore they won't give you such a hard time and take you seriously.


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Only once I told a girl she's like the girl in Pretty Woman (wasn't an opener) and she replied "are you saying I look like a prostitute?" I just laughed and apologized (some "alpha" wannabe probably thinks that's weak). Nothing ever happened with her but we're good mates now.
You're hating on the "alpha"s and I admit, that sort of advice isn't the best, but you didn't bone her, maybe it was weak.

I would like to have said "Man, I wish you were a prostitute, money is so much easier than using my wit and good looks"

Cali, thanks ;)

I think the reason my advice was good is because I didn't tell you anything else to say, or corrections to make. Because ultimately, my advice doesn't matter. In the moment, you will think of things you've said in the past, not things people on this site told you to say.

So go practice! It can only get better.


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You're hating on the "alpha"s and I admit, that sort of advice isn't the best, but you didn't bone her, maybe it was weak.

I would like to have said "Man, I wish you were a prostitute, money is so much easier than using my wit and good looks"
My issue is on how a lot of people seem to define "alpha".
It wasn't weak, it's was genuine, and it came from a place of power. And if you put it into context, being friends was a mutual decision (it was definitely my decision anyways). Within minutes I swapped over to her friend (slightly less pretty) who I did have some success with (no f-close). It's also given me access to a whole new social circle that I'm really tight with now.

I like you're little comeback, but to be honest, when you're in the moment, you're not thinking about "what's the best response?" I don't over-think it, she's only a girl.


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Il be honest... The line itself was poor. And you shouldn't ask a girl if it was a good pick up line!! But you got the balls to approach and that's over half the battle. Try some better openers and you will get a bit further :-)


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Il be honest... The line itself was poor. And you shouldn't ask a girl if it was a good pick up line!! But you got the balls to approach and that's over half the battle. Try some better openers and you will get a bit further :-)
I disagree. If you've the right vibe, and you're being sincere, asking her if it was good will work for you.


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