The answer is pretty obvious to your question. Why do you need advice? You have two options(forget about pick up)
1. Talk to her about an abortion since she is not ready and you don't like her
2. Try to make a friendship with her that allows both of you to raise your child properly

People are agianst abortions I get it. But sometimes it is the best solution for everyone. I might get attacked about this but raising a child in a broken, fucked up family environment will hurt the kid mentally. I guess the 3rd option would be to talk to the blonde about adoption.

So, you love HBlond and the only problem with your relationship is that you can't keep it in your pants?
Also, have you any proof (aka a doctor) that she is pregnant? I know to many stories of women saying they are to keep the guy/scare the shit out of him etc.

Regardless, if you do honestly love this girl and everything is fine apart from her (justified) jealousy - then why not see if you can work on YOUR commitment issues?

Another thing, get a paternity test as soon as you can. You seem pretty sure it's your kid but it never hurts to be 100% sure, especially with how cheap and easy paternity tests are nowadays. I think the at-home mail-in tests are only like $100 or so, and only takes like 2 weeks for results.

That's what you get for being an idiot, game over.

Nope don't have proof it's mine.

Honestly I asked advice here figuring you guys would understand my situation. Being as how many of us are in similar situations (aka multiple women polygamy type relationships) it's not like I'm a cheating asshole. I was up front from the beginning. And yes I can honestly say I love the girl which has a lot to do with our breakup. I don't want to hurt her, so I split up before I did. I was completely faithful to my ex-wife... but I was miserable. I don't want to go through that again.

I'll admit I fucked up but I've learned there is no reason to dwell on thar fact. Time is better spent figuring out a game plan. And that's where I'm at now... I was only looking for thoughts. It's ultimately my own decision to make and I'm fully aware of that.

Man, you gotta calm down. Go arrange a date with a psychologist (or a very good buddy) and talk to him. Consider all options you have. Pick one and talk with your baby mama. Then discuss what you want to do.

You are acting way to emotionally. You gotta think more logically. Just calm down.

Take 1-2 days free and do NOTHING, not even TV or Internet. Then talk with your baby mama. Go and get a test. Then discuss the situation.

That's IMO the most logic plan for now.

Good luck bro

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lol for puas' u guys aint that smart key line chicks are evil and lie

here's the thing you gamed her sis and kept at it,you ever heard of hell have no fury like a woman scorn,well that's it.She is fucking with you as far as i can tell,dude you gamed her sis and made a date with her in which she agreed to sleeping by your place before hand,really like it's that easy.

think calmly for a second,you said something about the pill,that thing is fucking strong and she suddenly is pregnant a day or 2 before your date with the sister really,like its that easy to get pregnant,that's why families try so hard and long to have a child?

think about the situation and how you've fucked with them, a chick you dated for a while and her sister.........you never heard of sisters screwing guys over just for fun,i have and for lessor reasons,but her you gave a jealous girl solid reason to screw you over,why wouldn't she(being a woman) use the one thing us guys fear the most pregnancy.

i say before you contemplate or even worry get the pregnancy test and have her take it and see the results if positive sorry mate,you seemed to have fucked the wrong girl at the wrong time but if negative have a laugh and walk away.

don't you think it's a little too soon i mean has it even been a month since this all happened? DO YOU GUY LEARN ABOUT SEX AT SCHOOL!?!

wtf it takes a month for her to have her period and if she misses it then you fucked,has she missed it? or is she really just pissed at you who had her and now wanted her sister?

that's my advice,get proof she's preg and then proof it's yours,if so you said monies not an issue so there you go you got the family you never wanted ,either decide to live with her or pay child support but no way in hell are you gonna get a mother to let you have her child after you did all that to her.

lastly if it is yours i honestly wish it's a girl,so you can feel what it's like to worry about the next you plotting your daughter.it's guys like you that give guys a bad name in general,you'll appreciate shit and take advantage of damaged woman,congratulations on fucking up because you couldn't get a condom or was too fucking in the mood to think about what exactly you are doing and what it's purpose is.

sex is initially for reproduction,that's why birth control was invented dipshit make use of it next time.
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Yeah she's a week late so far and took an at home test. I guess it could be her fucking with me... but honesty I doubt it. Who knows at this point. Time will tell and I fully plan to have a paturity test done.

As for me being the root of all evil. It's seriously cracking me up that you guys are preaching to me. This is a pua site... we are here to discuss how to pickup girls and fuck them.
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Yeah, so, I understand you're likely freaked out. I do not think I know enough about you to make personal judgments, but a few things need to be addressed:

1. Figure out if the child is yours.
2. Figure out what you are truthfully willing to give to the relationship with her.
3. Communicate to her what you are truthfully willing to give in a relationship with her.
4. Take responsibility for your share of the child rearing (if the child is yours)

Everything else is moot really. As for the sister situation, well, you kind of have to accept that if you're trying to have 2 sisters romantically that it may come along with a lot of drama and baggage, but that's your choice and theirs to make, whether the juice is worth the squeeze so to speak.

--Aeron

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you laugh but its a serious thing,we lecture so noobs won't fuck up like you did.

yes but it's not just about picking up chicks its about becoming smart enough to pick the chick up ,isn't that the key element? you use you brain and not act on impulse like some joke who relies on his muscles to get the girl?

all you remind of is a natural whose looking to perfect his skill,which you did but abused it by being that jock and thinking you were smarter than safety jumping off the second floor to look cool.

for your sake i hope its not true,you ain't ready to be a dad with that attitude

The thing is karma got to you real quick and you are going to have to sleep in the bed that you made. Why the hell you will go after the sister next is beyond me and only makes you a guest for Jerry Springer. And why do you want to mess up the family even more than it is already is? If the sister is truly pregnant and you want to make the situation better then stay away from the other sister and find another girl to cheat on or one that will be in an open relationship with you.
Yea and not here to talk about how to mess up their lives even more.

Kharma's a bitch, huh? Clearly youre not very good at being a polygamist if you opt to date women who fucking hate the idea of you having sex with other women.

Well we tried. But it was always a battle... she knew what I was doing, it's not like I hid it from her. In the same respect I was discrete about my Ben's too (I never went into detail or was around them together). She knew what was in store and proved she couldn't handle it. I haven't fucked the sister, I kissed her before knowing her relation. I also didn't pursue her till after I broke up with HBlond. I'm not double teaming them behind each others back. And HBrunette knows all about me her sister and my promiscuous lifestyle.

As for me being a natural/Jock/amog/ext, I'm not. I'm 6ft 140 lbs. I'm pretty decent looking but I have the body of "the new guy".

I'm normally a hit it and quite it guy. I tell girls when I pick them up that I'm not looking for a relationship. I never wanted to be with HBlond or any other girl. But my feelings got the best of me... and the fact that she was always up my ass trying to turn me into her boyfriend. I tried it, it didn't work, so I ended things. I had no clue about the pregnancy before hand. And for all I know she some how faked the test to sucker me back in. Either way I still don't see a future with any woman. I tried it, my wedding day was amazing. I was the happiest man alive that day... three years later I could have killed that woman. Love fades! It's a natural release of indorphens. It's a high much like adrenaline, it's amazing while it lasts. But the rush is over before you know it.

Kalel said what I wanted to say, but better than I could say it.

I won't judge your morality. You did what you did, there's no taking back the past. Figure out your own morals and do the right thing, take the honorable path. That's the only way to go here.

Honestly, yeah. We've all done some bad stuff in the past. He obviously didn't set out to do anything bad. He met two women at clubs, by some weird twist of fate they ended up being sisters, and one ended up pregnant even though she was on birth control. And all this happened so fast, that this guy is literally just in shock of it all. Seeing as his entire life just changed in an instant and he hasn't even had the time to take it all in yet.
And he turns to us for help, and rather than help him, we judge him. Who are we to judge? He's right, everyone does some fucked up stuff at least once in there life. He didn't mean to hurt anybody. He was just doing what you guys taught him to do, go to the club and pickup chicks. He messed up by not protecting himself better, he admits his mistake, and comes to humbly ask for advice. Why not give it to him. How can we one day treat him like a brother in the community and the next shun him for making a mistake, a mistake he is planing on taking responsibility for, a mistake anyone of us could have made at his age. Why beat him up anymore, just give him advice and leave him in peace.


Hell, you guys gave him the line that allowed him to get these women in the first place.

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