how to be look confident but not like a bully or boastful

im not naturally boastfull, but then my friends (including Girl friends) that im so boastful, though i aint intentionally do that, i just wanna look confident

answers will be appreciated great

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I think this article is 100% relevant to the conversation.

People with prestige show confidence but without being to imposing and without the arrogance.
People with dominance can be perceived as both arrogant and imposing, not to mention insecure on the inside.

So the key to unlocking prestige is to show intelligence, express you're positive attributes (demonstration of higher value) subtly but with a hint of self-depreciation so it does not appear like you are boasting: you are just expressing yourself, not trying to impress anyone. Have good posture and look confident don't lean into their personal space too much. Different people have different personal space boundaries so invite them to close in on you so they can be at a distance in which they are comfortable. You can do this by walking backwards, or by looking as though you are ready to leave at any moment.

Finally, don't fold your arms (nervousness), don't create barriers across your chest with your drink or with your hands (nervousness), don't slouch or hold your hands behind your head (arrogance), sit/stand with good posture whilst smiling from time to time and laughing at jokes, even when they're not funny (confidence) and show your palms a lot, especially while talking (submission/honesty).

Of course a touch of dominance here and there ain't too bad but know how to use it

I am mostly with JHA on this, you wanna be less boastful?

Less Mouth, More Body

Its very hard to be boastful if your not saying anything. Now I am not saying don't use words but what I am saying is you can show confidence easily with your body, so why not do it. If you focus more on showing confidence with your body language, you won't have to try and back it up with words.

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Did I just cite a youtube video by mistake? What a fool. Here, read this:

http://coevolution.psych.ubc.ca/pdfs/Jo ... %20PDF.pdf

yeah i do that CONFIDENCE tricks

leaning back plus some body language, yes i invade some personal space but i think it contradicts on the ALPHA attributes that you must show dominance.

help, still got it ((

(sorry for very late reply)

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