Hey guys,
(Wasn't sure which thread section to post this but)

I know this is for PU and all, but my end goal of this is really just to find a quality girl for a GF.


My problem is this,

All the girls I want relationships with I don't feel strong sexual attraction with, but alot of emotional connection. This makes PU really weird for me because the girls I'm relationship-inclined to be with are usually nice, easy-going, funny, possibly even motherly types, and pushing anything sexual feels unnatural.

Girls I'm attracted to and easily push sexual escalation with are the ones I don't give a shit about, and they're usually more open to escalation. I guess you could say I like ditzy girls.
The issue is I feel no emotional connection with them, and in the past I've got really frustrated having to put up with BS involving alcohol/emotional instability/whatever.

Whereas a girl that will actually talk philosophy etc. I LOVE, but doesn't get my testosterone pumping.

Is this common? It's weird because I feel like I crave intelligence, laid-back nature, but everytime I come across this there's nothing in my dick telling me to push things, and we always end up as friends. At this point I know there's nothing that can change that, especially since my natural nice/clowny nature comes out, which girls adore but will never be attracted to.


It feels a little cruel, I don't want what I want/need, and can't stand what I want.

Anyone have this weird complex? I feel like I'm a unique person that needs someone that is also unique, but there never seems to be anyone that kind of just..fits.

You might have to see a shrink for your problem.

I think your problem is, your insecure sexually or something and afraid sex will mess everything up. Again, this requires help from a pro probably, and I am not a pro.

The good/nice girl wants sex just as much. I think you just need to get out of the mindset you are in and just go for it. The only difference is that it might need to be a tad more subtle.

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"To Give anything less than your best is to sacrifice the gift" -Prefontaine

Not a PUA just a girl offering my opinions/advice

Same problem here. It's all in the head, and by that i mean you need to understand that it is YOUR job to wake her inner nympho. Every girl has it in herself ,every girl can be horny as hell if you do thing's right.

Somebody said:,,In order to win a girl, you must not be afraid to lose a girl''. Few days ago i realized what that means.
Involve sex jokes with the clever girls you like, show you are interested in them, and yes you are right it won't seem natural if you don't act like it is natural.

Zan says:,,I assume that every girl is attracted to me, and if they say something different, i would look at them like they are from Mars and don't know what they are talking about''.

Girls aren't as rational as men, so what they SAY may not be what they FEEl. You can understand what they FEEL only by becoming good body language reader.

I look up to Jhonny Depp in the movie (Don Huan DeMarco) and try make women i am with feel beautiful and good around me. Till now i only can make them feel good, since i am afraid to move things sexual, i am afraid of losing them. That's what i want to change and probably what You want to change about yourself.
Good Luck comrade Philosopher

About the shrink thing, I was talking about the girls being too into alcohol (aka party chick), or being all unstable and going through mood swings and stuff like that. I'm looking for a more reserved girl who only drinks occasionally etc.

Basically, what I'm trying to say, is that when I find a chick that will actually talk philosophy/intelligent things/whatever, I enjoy being with them, but I always end up befriending them because I feel no need to push sexual escalation. I think it's because in my mindset I want to them to stick around because I enjoy their company because what I have I'm (only) content with, but what I SHOULD be doing, is the "I'm going to fuck this girl" mentality that I get with ditzy girls from the beginning, constantly working towards that end goal. By the time it's comfortable between me and a smart girl, it's over sexuality-wise I believe.
But yeah, worrying about keeping a girl I enjoy company with around and ending up friends, just having to start over with someone else is probably MUCH WORSE than befriending a girl I really like but will never go any further with.

It just makes it hard when the girls I'm mentally attracted to are the reserved type, and it's hard to build a foundation when things feel cold from the beginning. I guess it's my job to loosen things up fast though.

Then there's the ditzy type girls that I have fun with since they're more outgoing, but can't stand being around for long and could never date.

Who knows, maybe time will tell, I'll just have to start over with another girl and see if I can pull anything out of her.

Are the intelligent girls physically attractive? If so, I'd say you got a mindset problem. If not, then you need to find more attractive intelligent girls. When you do, give me a call and I'll stop by, cause I'm looking for them too