Ok,so i have been talking to this woman for the last 4 weeks,she is on my facebook,i have been on a date,i have been round her house on several occasions,and watched dvd's,she has showed loads of interest,making the first move to kiss,last friday we made an arrangement to meet at hers last sat and watch some films,she said for me to "wear something comfortable" i knew i was going to be staying the night,we watched 4 films,and near the end of the last film she said she might fall asleep,and that it was ok if i wanted to stay.We stayed on the sofa,switched off last film,turned off the tv,in the dark she said "i am so horny,but i know thats bad"we chatted a little,but basically i didnt make a move of any sort,i kow it was on offer,and i am kicking myself stupid that i didnt.In the morning as i was leaving she said "you are a real gent,thanks for not taking advantage of me last night"i said "it wasnt because i didnt want to,who knows next time i might" and she replied "but i am a lady"we made some small talk,and i left.Now since that she has been very distant,it is usually me thats initiates contact,i tried to chat to her on facebook yesterday,and she took ages to reply,i didnt keep trying to chat,just waited for her to reply,she did,but didnt say much,and she finished with "i am very tired,speak later"but i didnt go back online,so never chatted,now today i haven't bothered to chat,or message her.I am thinking maybe i have blown it with this woman?anyone have any ideas on how i can get things moving again,or should i just leave it,i know i will see her friday as a bunch of us are all going out.
all suggestions welcome.

Smiff

Bluntly, you blew it.


I'm sure she knows many gentlemen, but I don't think she's told many of them in the dark that she is horny. My advice would be to lay off for a while and look elsewhere. If she is bringing you back in then obviously just play it off, but don't miss the kill shot, you don't get that many. I could understand if she was drunk, I've passed on those, but you didn't indicate anything except she was tired. Girls want guys who can read their mind, she basically spelled it out, and you came up short. If she really wants it she will come back but press on elsewhere and don't be that desperate guy.

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Hey Tundra thanks for replying

I kinda knew i had blown it,i think i just got "spooked" never been in that position before,and i guess i couldnt read the signs right,but looking back they were there from when we were chatting on fb the day before.I will persue others,but i will continue to chat to this one,just not as often,i havent spoken to her in a day or two,and she hasnt contacted me,part of me thinks she feels a bit stupid for putting herself on the line,and me not making the most of it.I know she has interest from two other guys,but from what she says she has blown them out to,she made a point of telling me a couple of weeks back,when we were cuddling on the sofa, that they hadn't got as close to her as i had,but i somehow think thats a bit of a lie.I dont want to not talk to her though,so i am just going to chat a small amount,and not mention that night.

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