Ok so I just got back from town after FAILING.

Why does that shit feel so hard? Here's how it went down:

I got up this morning, washed my car and did a few other things to keep me energetic and motivated. I was feeling good on the drive into town, quite relaxed listening to some of my favourite music.

I parked up the car and headed to the lift in the car park to take me to the shops. Now usually I just take the stairs because a) I hate waiting for lifts and b) They're fucking awkward as hell! But this time I made a purposeful effort to wait for the lift and interact with whoever was already in it when the doors opened. Turned out to be a middle aged couple, I simply said 'Are you going to the shops' , they agreed and then after followed some awkward silence.

The lift doors open at the shops and there's a HB8 waiting for it, as I walk off I hold eye contact and smile at her. She smiles back and then just as I walk past her I manage to squeak out a fucking awful 'Hi' - man I felt like a chump after that. I then walk around the corner and two HB7.5s are waiting to pay their parking. Again I hold eye contact with one of them and do exactly the same, gay ass 'Hi' squeak as I'm walking past and then not even turning round to check out her reaction.

Why am I such a fucking pussy when it comes to this? I planned on saying hello to approx 100 people today. I DO NOT LACK CONFIDENCE, I talk to different people every day in my business and everything's fine, and yet when I want to start gaming these bitches everything fucks up!

Anyways I ended up saying Hi to about 5 girls in the space of, say 1 and a half hours. I met my friend and then left for home.

My plan ongoing is to keep up this mission everwhere I go. Walking to the shops, on my lunch break, EVERYWHERE. I overthought it which made me fuck it up, so if I just stay in the mind set of doing it whenever then gradually it will be easier (I hope).

I've just started a journal which you should all read in the Field Reports section. PM me for the link, I'm a dumb fuck and don't know how to post it here. More to come from me!

Bearer

Did it Guys.

Very easy for me, I think that my social abilities are good, BUT the fact is some people don't care about you BUT another ton of girls respond to you..

So many girls turned their head, but i've still said hello.
And another tons responded to my hello hehe.

I've not started any conversations, just stand there in the mall for 1/2 hours and did it.

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Keep Moving On.
Acting and Thinking.

PUAs,
I went to the mall today, After an online chick stood me up from getting pussy. Got my positive mind set and said this isn't the end of the word. I thank the b*tch and headed to the mall in Pembroke Pines. Stepped in the doors with a evil smile and cleaned my hands, as I stepped into JCPenny. I passed by a couple ladies said "Hi" w/a smile. Some smiled while others said hi back and a lot more just passed as if they didn't hear me, lol and I know they did.
As time went on, I decided to change it up and say "HI" and with a smile & just stop. lol, one chick looked at me like "eww" LOL. But she was fine as hell.
I started to get comfortable and stepped to easy targets, retail store employees. I went to dillards and this older chick wuz rude as hell, while I was just asking her about cologne, wtf that was crazy. No big deal I made fun of her as not knowing what she's talking about to the younger one and was helped by her. I approached like 3 more retail females and they were very friendly. hand shake and introduced myself. I did get a number close with one. went around sarging somemore and headed home

(I'm getting better) Tonight my uncle is going to introduce me to a nieces friend. I asked him to watch my body language and tell me or even record me) more will be revealed.

-NOLO

Im glad you posted this because I did this today and it gave me confidence. Simply saying hi to people can help boost confidence and helps you get use to talking to strangers. Your game will improve using this as a confidence building strategy.

Cheers

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Eat, Sleep, PLAY

PUAs,
Yes Sir, so for the New Years Party, was a success. I was ready with condoms and Mentos in my J. Ferrar -modern fit leather jacket. brown Politix long sleeve, looking fresh in loose fit Dickies and Black n Gold leather Timberland's. Low cut feeling myself. Just practicing my social with family and friends til the Girl arrived. My cousin introduced me to her. Shook her hand & looked into her eyes. She went around getting introduced. I saw her sitting there was a guy with the group, so I peeped out to see if she was with him, when I saw her sitting by herself. I sat down and held a conversation. I just found out listening to a mPUA that-we have to get to the point. The approach, the conversation, and the close. I didn't know this, but now I do. I'm still practicing on the approach part and now phasing into a little interaction. so Now I'm feeling more comfortable.

conclusion: I didn't get the number, but the approach and the 7 minutes of conversation is a plus. I made her laugh and talk about herself and life situation. Basically I found out that I was not going to waist any time and $$$ on this because she's got a lot on her plate. Would I fuck her? Sure! but to be honest I don't even want that from from these women, I want their SOUL to fuck her, while she thinks of me..

-NOLO

I tried this for a few minutes at our local mall, and eventually I managed to get enough confidence to talk to a girl that worked at one of the retail stores. I thought I was doing a decent job gaming her but then she turned out to be underage =\

Hahaha

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-Dave

I tried this and it certainly helps, but I noticed something else that's KEY here, and it can probably be a mission on its own. In fact that I think it should be a prerequisite for this mission. Practice making and HOLDING eye contact. If you just say "hi" and shyly divert your eyes, you'll make some progress but not a whole lot. Try going to the mall and try to hold eye contact with a friendly or seductive smile as you walk by a girl. This is actually harder than just saying hi, but arguably MUCH more important. I kind of stole this idea from Gambler, who places a ton of emphasis on eye contact. At first you might think "it's creepy to stare", or "staring is rude". But let me assure you, if the girl finds you interesting/attractive, she will eat it up. If you see her smile or another strong IOI, boom you're in, and you can even go talk to her. I used to be embarrassed to do this because when I looked at a very pretty girl in the eyes for more than 1/2 second I would get this stupid looking grin on my face. If you have the same problem, be very glad that the grin isn't a frown, or a psycho stalker look. Smiles are friendly, don't be afraid of it.

problem is with me is i am a very high energetic and confident person. ive done the i game loads of times met with all sorts of reactions to "do i know you?" to a smile and light conversation. problem is i can never initiate a more fun dialogue with the lady i am conversing with, the usual im Faz, im such and such, how are you. good how are you then conversation turns to hobbies and thats about it. the worst thing i kind of find when conversing with women is that i am a very diverse person i listen to death metal cus i like the music and play drums. but i also love Hip Hop cus i dance oldschool street. my diversities extend to my hobbies as well. i can never seem to find a ground to properly to speak to them about any tips would be great once you've smiled and initiated "Hi" and got a positive reaction from the lady?

Hey there! I was going to post this as a field report but seeing as how this thread still active I will post it here!



I did the newbie mission, got ready, showered and groomed etc. Then hit the mall...

I told myself I wasn't there to 'sarge' or to do the 'newbie mission' but to get a pretzel and do some window shopping and get a little exercise. With this pretense it took a little pressure off of myself. Well I arrived at the mall and first thing I did was get myself my pretzel. I sat on a bench near some HB8s. I wanted to at least say hi or initiate some social contact at least...but was far too nervous. So I ate my pretzel and brushed it off. They were carrying on an intense conversation about school, so maybe it was best I didn't interrupt them. Also their friend showed up a couple minutes later.

Anyways after I finished my pretzel I went to the shoe store and one of the employees asked me how I was...she didn't seem to enjoy working there so I said I was well and asked if she was having fun. She said she was bored out of her mind and as I was leaving she said have a nice day and I said 'have fun!" She seemed to enjoy that and seemed kind of interested. I could have probably stayed in a little longer, but my goal was to just do the newbie mission.

As I left I passed a few sets and tried saying hi...couldn't get my words out of my mouth though...then I managed to do one and let me tell you it was inaudible and so under my breath I could have choked. Then my fifth actually came out but I don't think they heard but after that I just started doing it, not giving a shit. But my 'hello's were so forced and I don't think anyone really payed attention or acknowledged it. I'm not sure if it was a fail or not...I don't think so and here is why:

APPROACHES

I approached a set of two girls both hb6 or 7 i'd say. we chatted a little bit. They were standing in front of a vending machine game where you could win an ipad.

me: So are you guys actually going for the prize?
HBs:no we're just looking, I don't think it is even working
me: oh I saw it earlier and didn't know if it was legit or not
HBs: its real! our friend played it and won the ipod..or no I mean ipad but it took him like 20 dollars
me: oh wow! lucky guy. Do you have an Australian accent? (The girl sounded australian)
HB: No...do I sound it?
me: yeah it was probably just because we're whispering!
me: okay well...yeah.

Then I left

I approached a solicitor and carried on a conversation for a little while about how they work up the confidence to do their job and got some great advice. (what they said coming later)


While waiting for my bus this HB5 was standing in the terminal and we made small talk about this kid that was pacing back and forth

me:Why does that kid keep pacing back and forth?
HB5:I don't know! i've been wondering the same thing
me: You should go out and ask, you can be my diplomat.
HB5: (laughs) I really want to
me: Do you have a cigarette by any chance?
HB5: no sorry I don't smoke
me: come on! we just met less than 2 minutes ago and you're already letting me down..I don't even know your name yet
HB5: I'm sorry I just don't need it
me: haha you don't need it
HB5: nope

Then I thought of starting up the conversation again with something like "did you see the fight outside?" or an opinion opener...technically I could have gone back in there and kept the conversation going. but I was nervous.

A few girls working at places I would just ask
me:"hello, how is it going?"
HBs: its good blah blah blah how are you?
me: i'm alright (walk on)

This black guy was handing out demo CDs of his rap music and asking for donations...he didn't seem intimidating so I asked him how he works up the confidence to do this (more on that later) In doing that I started talking to this kid from Lebanon who was standing around.

So all in all at least I got out of the house and socialized for the afternoon. This was my first time doing the newbie mission so I guess the fact that I did it is enough for right now. I definitely want to try it again. Get comfortable enough to approach and say hello without seeming intimidated or shy and actually have my presence known. I think a lot of the people just didn't hear it. also I didn't make eye contact with many people. I interacted with shop workers and all that and if I had something to say I was able to do it without being nervous.


Now, here is what the solicitors advised to me:

-Body Language is a big part of it.
-Smile
-Be confident
-Don't worry about the rejections
-The aspiring hip hop artist said something that reminded me of 60yearsofchallenge
-"99 rejections don't matter when you get that 1 person that says yes. The one person that says yes is the one you care about, not the 99 that said no. Just gotta know your demographic, have more than one spot and be relentless. This is life. This applies to everything in life." so basically weed out the nos to get to the yes.
Very very PUA if you ask me
-You're in this for YOU! you're going after what YOU want. Don't be ashamed of going after whatever it is that YOU want.


Despite my inability to clearly and confidently say hello I opened a couple sets, Had a few conversations with people, and don't regret today in the least! nothing but big things in the works from here on out

Very inspiring day!

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Respect the cock.

I agree, big things are coming your way. I think half of the battle is already won! Keep it up.

I don't have a problem with this so much, but when it comes to HB10s I get shy..

Well I really wanted to post in this topic and ask some questions of people that have done it, I was nervous but the rules are that you can't post until you've done it so I went out to do it, mostly to prove to myself that I could do it. But also to post in this topic - I've done it!

I went into town this morning, it was a busy Saturday so plenty of people about. My first few 'hello's' people ignored me - so I knew why - I didn't really get their attention. All my 'hello's' came with a little wave but I was still getting ignored - I need to catch peoples eye whilst doing it or it really diluted what I was trying to do, a wave isn't enough.

I only had a couple of hours but I reckon I said hello to about 30 fit girls - and women - in this time.

Anyway, I started off by saying hello to any woman, got bored real quickly as to be fair I'm not really interested in saying hello to ugly girls. So I decided to just say 'hello' to the good looking ones. I got a mixed bag of reactions....

The worst reaction was that they blanked me - however they could not miss me saying hello to them so it wasn't as though they didn't know I had said hello, they just intentionally blanked me for their own reasons. A couple of the two/three sets looked at each other instead of me. No really bad reactions though.

About 5 of them of them actually slowed down and looked like they wanted to talk to me - these ones made me laugh and I carried on down the street laughing. I wasn't going to open them today, I'm on the newbie mission.

The best one was a really hard nosed looking posh woman - about 40, not amazing looking but definitely worth a seeing to - she had a really hard expression on her face walking up the street, I said hello really early and she immediately started smiling and held my eye contact for the few seconds that we walked past each other.

So, anyway, I've done the newbie mission, it was easy and fun and I am posting in this thread because I can.

I have been on the board a couple of days after a break up (again) when will i learn that game needs to be maintained and that keeping a relationship going needs to be as fun as at the start, anyway veering off topic there. (posted elsewhere)

Right I am an older guy 39, and I read "the Game" back in Jan/Feb of last year after my wife of 8 years filed for divorce, however found my niche in online gaming as the approach always scared the hell out of me, i don't think it matters how old you are as to AA. I was in a bloody minded mood at the time and did actually do the newbie challenge back then, and i enjoyed it but when i calmed down, i found online gaming easier and stopped pushing it in the field. I am still online gaming and does bring me results but i still hanker after the thrill of being able to just meet someone in the street or in a club or bar, whilst sober. My two big relationships to this point were a spanish woman i lived with for four years who i met when i ran her over with my motorcycle in central London and my wife who i met when drunk (a little) in an art gallery that was a proper street approach and number close before i even knew what that was. I have just spent my afternoon reading every post on this topic and would like to thank True Flame, Rooter, true destiny, bassline and last but absolutely not least Chief.
I am now of the opinion that although this is a newbie mission, it needs to be worked in to your persona not just as a one off, its only being friendly, and like a smile can become infectious to those around you spreading a little sunshine yourself can only help to improve peoples day, if nothing else comes of it you've done your good deed for the day. I will now be thinking along the lines of wherever i am and whatever situation I'm in saying hi and smiling, it needs to come naturally so do it till it does.
I know i mentioned a few guys names before but i will finish with this every one of you is trying to improve themselves through this, i know that the goal is more women but regardless of that, the more you strive to achieve the better, stronger, healthier and more well balanced you will be as individuals, you guys rock

I actually used to do this when I was back in middle school. I wen to the mall with a couple friends and used goofy pick up lines that I knew would never work and I did it just for a good laugh. My warmup was always to approach a woman working at a retail store. They are paid to be nice to you and if you aren't overly creepy they normally smile because you are bringing some energy into their otherwise incredibly boring day. I used to use a prop pick up line, trying to hand a lady a sugar packet and say " excuse me but I think you dropped your name tag" normally flattered them, but needless to say I couldn't even drive to the mall by myself at this time so nothing went anywhere with any girl.

So basically in spark notes format, if you are incredibly nervous and awkward try approaching a woman who works somewhere in the mall to build confidence. you could even do it a bunch of times at different stores till you have enough confidence to approach completely random strangers. Hope this helps at least one person.

This is such an awesome thread for newbies.

If your a newbie and you've skipped to the last page, go all the way back to the beginning.