| I was on a date a few weeks ago, eventually it didn't work out because we live too far from eachother. The girl was already attracted to me and I started building comfort. This was a first date and I wasn't looking to F-Close that very night.
Anyway, I'm what you might call a "spiritual" person. I'm not talking religion or anything, but I always like to have deep and meaningful conversations.
Looking back on that date, at the time I thought it went well. The conversation was flowing and she was clearly comfortable. And then I pulled out some heavy guns.
We started talking about life, purpose, meaning, etc. Now don't get me wrong, she was into it. She made constant eye contact, asked questions, gave some of her own insight, etc. I was very confident and I think I took this conversation to very interesting places. She said I'm a very interesting person. But is that really a good thing?
Thinking about it now, although I may have formed some emotional connection, this might not be the kind of connection I should have established. That conversation was in no way C&F, there was absolutely no teasing the whole time (about an hour) and I was so into it that I didn't even try to escalate sexually while discussing this topic.
Unfortunately, although I have made strong attraction in the beginning, I think I lost a lot of it due to being too deep too fast. While this might look like a good thing (it did at the time), I may have been too "heavy" with this, and should have stayed C&F while just sticking to escalation rather than becoming too comfortable.
What do you think? Can you be too comfortable with a girl? Can you lose attraction and value by being too deep? Where do you draw the line between comfortable and too comfortable?
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