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PostPosted: Mon Jan 30, 2012 12:32 am 
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This one isn't about me but a friend of mine, I have been in the EXACT same situation before and know it's a game some girls play so this is just a tip.

My mate fucked this girl 2 days ago. He gets a txt tonight saying

"Glad you had fun!
I'm on the most boring date ever. Someone kill me! I don't know why I even accepted.
Hope to see you soon"

Girls try this to make you jelous, fight for them and generally be reactive.

If you fall info trap of being nice when a girl says something like this that's a huge fucking mistake. Personally I don't give a shit if a girl I'm seeing (while she is single) is on a date... Doesn't mean I need to know about it though- honestly what good is going to come off it?

Anyway my mates reply was

"Haha, do you really think by telling me you are on a date with a guy 2 days after I fucked you, that it will make me want another date?? Lol, you girls do make me laugh. x"

After that she txt him and tried to call him, after ignoring her calls she said

"Can you please let me speak to you? I'm sorry about today. I don't expect you to forgive me, I just want to explain."

Anyway, that's just a tip on not letting girls play you for a fool


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Uh...really?

Don't get me wrong, everybody tries to pull the shit you describe. Most people like knowing they are in charge, and a jealousy test is one of the most basic ways you can do it within some sort of sexual relationship. But honest, the text that girl initially sent didn't strike me as something evil. Even if it was, all he had to do was say "okay." That response probably would have had her asking to come over later.


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Oh another example of being non reactive. Last week I slept with this girl, a couple of days later she was telling me she was in a relationship.. I sorta seen it coming as had a hunch she was dating someone as was going into central London with "friends" quite alot (could tell she was being wined and dined)
I didn't kick up a fuss. She said she thought I was using her for sex and there where things about me that bugged her. I didnt even ask what bugged her, I just said it's cool and she doesn't have to explain herself.

Apparently she jumped into a relationship with him too fast. She dumped him on Wednesday. Today she asked if she could come to mine (she is coming round Wednesday night)

Things I did.

1. This is a thing style said, but being comfortable with your own reality and don't let people change it, in this case when she said about things she didn't like I ignored it. I genuinely didn't care!

2. When she said she was in a relationship I didn't question how she had time to meet him etc when she had been coming to mine for the last few weeks... It didn't matter and to ask or bring it up shows jealousy.

3. When she told me she had split up I didn't hit on her at all... Alot of guys would try moving back onto it. Was only today she asked to come round mine (that's another story how I got her to ask that)


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Uh...really?

Don't get me wrong, everybody tries to pull the shit you describe. Most people like knowing they are in charge, and a jealousy test is one of the most basic ways you can do it within some sort of sexual relationship. But honest, the text that girl initially sent didn't strike me as something evil. Even if it was, all he had to do was say "okay." That response probably would have had her asking to come over later.
I never said her txt was evil. I'm just saying it's petty shit some girls play. I'm not saying this is advanced stuff- I'm just giving a example of a jealousy tactic girls will use and saying a AFC would fall straight into it. Chill out dude!

Oh and it wasn't about her asking to come round- it was about not jumping into her trap


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This one isn't about me but a friend of mine, I have been in the EXACT same situation before and know it's a game some girls play so this is just a tip.

My mate fucked this girl 2 days ago. He gets a txt tonight saying

"Glad you had fun!
I'm on the most boring date ever. Someone kill me! I don't know why I even accepted.
Hope to see you soon"

Girls try this to make you jelous, fight for them and generally be reactive.

If you fall info trap of being nice when a girl says something like this that's a huge fucking mistake. Personally I don't give a shit if a girl I'm seeing (while she is single) is on a date... Doesn't mean I need to know about it though- honestly what good is going to come off it?

Anyway my mates reply was

"Haha, do you really think by telling me you are on a date with a guy 2 days after I fucked you, that it will make me want another date?? Lol, you girls do make me laugh. x"

After that she txt him and tried to call him, after ignoring her calls she said

"Can you please let me speak to you? I'm sorry about today. I don't expect you to forgive me, I just want to explain."

Anyway, that's just a tip on not letting girls play you for a fool
I am sorry but your friend is an idiot. The girl wasn't trying to get him jealous she was telling him how much it sucked and hoped to see him. It should have been received more as a compliment. Hence why her reaction showing that it was a mere misunderstanding. Girls, and anyone for that matter, are allowed to date other people if they aren't in an exclusive relationship. Your friend should be able to accept that.

If she were trying to get him jealous she would have said something simple like "I am going to see (name) blah blah he is so hot" or bring another man around him. I think your friend overreacted.

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Oh dear.. I already said of course being single she is allowed to see other people. But I'm honestly surprised you don't think she was trying to make him jelous. My friend isn't the idiot- he knew exactly what she was doing. If the roles where reversed and you where on the date- you'd be a fool to day you where on a date


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This one isn't about me but a friend of mine, I have been in the EXACT same situation before and know it's a game some girls play so this is just a tip.

My mate fucked this girl 2 days ago. He gets a txt tonight saying

"Glad you had fun!
I'm on the most boring date ever. Someone kill me! I don't know why I even accepted.
Hope to see you soon"

Girls try this to make you jelous, fight for them and generally be reactive.

If you fall info trap of being nice when a girl says something like this that's a huge fucking mistake. Personally I don't give a shit if a girl I'm seeing (while she is single) is on a date... Doesn't mean I need to know about it though- honestly what good is going to come off it?

Anyway my mates reply was

"Haha, do you really think by telling me you are on a date with a guy 2 days after I fucked you, that it will make me want another date?? Lol, you girls do make me laugh. x"

After that she txt him and tried to call him, after ignoring her calls she said

"Can you please let me speak to you? I'm sorry about today. I don't expect you to forgive me, I just want to explain."

Anyway, that's just a tip on not letting girls play you for a fool


"Glad you had fun!
I'm on the most boring date ever. Someone kill me! I don't know why I even accepted.
Hope to see you soon"


Yes women try to make men jealous and you are right in no falling for it, however, she is not trying to make him jealous, she is trying to impress your friend, by letting him know that she is wanted by other men, if she wanted to make him jealous she would have talk positive about the date and the guy...

your friend did not read it right, he is kind of dumb by the way, however his lack of reading the situation, actually help him, cause he responded( even though he lacks calibration), in a way saying, i don't care, you are about to lose me, so the girl reacted to the fear of lose, challenge, that is why it work... She actually likes your friend and was trying to show of, the word jealousy is not the right word in this case.

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Never thought about calling her out on it, I usually just say: "uhm.. okay, that sucks, maybe your next one will be better"

and I disagree with skills360, I've had a girl text me saying: "oh man... had way too much whiskey last night and I had the scare of my life about who I woke up to this morning! I never expected it!"

This is coming from the same place of trying to get me jealous. In no way is she trying to impress me by letting me know she is wanted by other men.

Girls do this shit all the time, sometimes they're even lying about it just to see how you'd react.

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Never thought about calling her out on it, I usually just say: "uhm.. okay, that sucks, maybe your next one will be better"

and I disagree with skills360, I've had a girl text me saying: "oh man... had way too much whiskey last night and I had the scare of my life about who I woke up to this morning! I never expected it!"

This is coming from the same place of trying to get me jealous. In no way is she trying to impress me by letting me know she is wanted by other men.

Girls do this shit all the time, sometimes they're even lying about it just to see how you'd react.
"oh man... had way too much whiskey last night and I had the scare of my life about who I woke up to this morning! I never expected it!"


dude, in your sample, the girl is saying she fucked some other dude, is a different scenario, in that scenario that you gave an example, she is either a really dumb girl for telling you that, or trying to get you jealous... Different scenarios.. But yes coldman in your case is obvious that she is trying to make you jealous by saying she fucked some other dude... So i disagree with your disagreeing with me...lol

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This one isn't about me but a friend of mine, I have been in the EXACT same situation before and know it's a game some girls play so this is just a tip.

My mate fucked this girl 2 days ago. He gets a txt tonight saying

"Glad you had fun!
I'm on the most boring date ever. Someone kill me! I don't know why I even accepted.
Hope to see you soon"

Girls try this to make you jelous, fight for them and generally be reactive.

If you fall info trap of being nice when a girl says something like this that's a huge fucking mistake. Personally I don't give a shit if a girl I'm seeing (while she is single) is on a date... Doesn't mean I need to know about it though- honestly what good is going to come off it?

Anyway my mates reply was

"Haha, do you really think by telling me you are on a date with a guy 2 days after I fucked you, that it will make me want another date?? Lol, you girls do make me laugh. x"

After that she txt him and tried to call him, after ignoring her calls she said

"Can you please let me speak to you? I'm sorry about today. I don't expect you to forgive me, I just want to explain."

Anyway, that's just a tip on not letting girls play you for a fool


"Glad you had fun!
I'm on the most boring date ever. Someone kill me! I don't know why I even accepted.
Hope to see you soon"


Yes women try to make men jealous and you are right in no falling for it, however, she is not trying to make him jealous, she is trying to impress your friend, by letting him know that she is wanted by other men, if she wanted to make him jealous she would have talk positive about the date and the guy...

your friend did not read it right, he is kind of dumb by the way, however his lack of reading the situation, actually help him, cause he responded( even though he lacks calibration), in a way saying, i don't care, you are about to lose me, so the girl reacted to the fear of lose, challenge, that is why it work... She actually likes your friend and was trying to show of, the word jealousy is not the right word in this case.
Totally agree. Better explanation of what I was trying to say...

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Sometimes, when I stop and think about it, it disgusts me how some girls always need to play games with you.

If a girl would say or send me a text obviously trying to make me jealous by involving other guys or whatever, I would respond with "ok" or "cool", not from the point of view "so, this girl is shitting with me, I need to look like I don't care", but rather because she turns me off and that I lose interest because she is "that kind of girl" (and thus, realy not caring anymore).
Seriously, attraction and sexuality is a natural thing and should come natural, not by trying to be the though girl while actualy being heavily insecure who tries to play games. I can see right through that.

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I would have text her : lol why do you find him boring?

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pfff. I would probably call her out on texting during a date. I find that insanely rude, no matter how boring your date is (you can always leave and then text).


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Wow, some of you guys have some real anger aimed towards women. What guy could get jealous by a girl texting him about a boring date? IF IT'S A BORING DATE THERE'S NOTHING TO BE JEALOUS OF. :wink:


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Wow, some of you guys have some real anger aimed towards women. What guy could get jealous by a girl texting him about a boring date? IF IT'S A BORING DATE THERE'S NOTHING TO BE JEALOUS OF. :wink:
It's not about getting jealous. It's about the games girls play to try and make you jealous.

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