Ok so i met a girl out about 2 months ago kissed her and we were all over each other..she had to go home..so

i spoke to her on fbook and said are u gonna let me take u out, she said ok but i have to wait a couple of weeks (she had just split from 3 year relationship)

so anyway 3 weeks passed with messages here and there and me pounding her to take her out and we set up a date..and she flaked and said lets do next week, so i was like cool..well that never happend..then since then ive tried to keep the attraction up and build comfort but its obviously hard..
I said to her "im gonna leave u a lone as uve just split from your bf and prob want time, and said u just let me know when u want to meet up" she said "deal"

anyway the other day i complemented some shoes on fbook she had a pic of..and said "i do mean that even tho i amtrying to get in your pants"

she said ok, i give up, when do u want to go out and where?

as shes always working, i just said dont worry about the where just give me a day, she said she'd send her rota...

then i got a facebook message saying come out for my bday..but i thought that was an easy way out for her, and i wasnt going to go and stand like a lemmon with all her friends there, i want to see her one on one..so i didnt go!

well she neve txt herr work rota..and i feel i keep txting her and im not getting anywhere, i say have u got a day? and she ignores it..i start all conversations..But i know it seems shes not intersted but i just really dont know? she is a busy girl with loads of friends..

I got into a txt convo the other night whiich got quite sexual..but again it goes knowwhere..

So i really dont know what to do? do i keep txting her and say "have u got a day for me yet?" or is that just going to bore her? or do i just lay off that and try and spark some attraction..but i really dont know how to now after 2 months???

Where did you meet her? Did you know her previously? What were your frames while you were talking to her. She may have just been really drunk, and when you 'pounded' to take her out it's abit of a DLV, which will lower her interest levels. You can't just pull her in you got to push her away abit first. Facebook compliments are like pissing in the wind because guys are constantly inboxing women with compliments. I'd call her and say I got a really cool film in and a bottle of wine, I hope you like Red?' If she says no say tough, thats what you're having, ' and if she says I'm not free tonight you could say 'Woah there you can't just invite yourself over like that girl' listen to your tone when you speak to her, sound sexual, she'll get the point.

Other than that don't waste too much time on this girl, you only want her like you do cus she's making herself sound slightly unnatainable, but then pulling you back in with a promise of a date, some girls do this for their self esteem, dont be her pup

Cool..I met her on the streets randomly before when she had a bf..she added me on fbook..then a couple of weeks later i bumped into her at this club and that's when we hit it off..we were both drunk!!

I've said to her so many times, I'm going to cool u. and she either says some excuse or talking on the phone is for seccond dates only..so its impossible!!

I guess its cause there isnt enough comfort..but i dont want to do all that over txt or facebook, i want to save that for when we go out! so ive tried to just say funny things or be sexual with her..

but im kinda running out of things to say...If i say "how are u?" she completely ignores it..its like i have to say something random to get her attention..the last couple of says ive used "stop" and done the whole thinking about me..(that got good responce) and the otherday i txt "congratulations" and that got her talking to..but i really cant think of anything else to say?? Should i stop pestering her about when am i taking u out? i said to her im being persistant..but whether that looks good or not i dont know? i just want her to agree to a date and go from there..just seems fucking hard work!!

this was the other night see what u think?


Me:stop x
Her:stop?
me:thinking about me x
her:read my mind
me:what were u thinking about me? x
her:haha no but i guess i am now
Me:that's good, now i've got your attention x
Her:for how longgg eh? xx
me:well..I'll have your full attention when i kidnap u and hide u under my duvet x
her:this is true!
me:you've got to at least put up some kind of fight
her:oh i will!
Me:love a girl that plays hard to get x
Her:clearly haha xx night you, i need my beauty sleep xxx
me:beauty? well i aint chatting u up for your looks and funny humour, i like your personality..x x
her:be nice its my bday in an hour x
me:ill say happy bday now then babe. cause i doubt your enjoy me waking u up with a txt in an hour speak tmoz xxx
her:xxxxxxx
her:

You're probably best now freezing out on her, game other girls, shes just a potential and not even a great one at that, I don't think you can raise her interest levels anymore by txting or calling, if I were you, I'd go out to a place I know she's going to be at, or people are there that are close to her, and be surrounded by as many beautiful women as you can, get her fighting for your attention rather than the other way around.

I agree...or what I do which kind of works is to post photos of you with friends and girls of a night out....if you go out for 3-4 times in a row and post each night pictures of you having fun you will get her attention!!! That is what happens to me and I found out by mistake...

So true, its a tactic that will get other girls that have led dorment on your friend list attention too. I did the above after splitting with my ex and it drove her crazy, even though each are different, women have these triggers built within them to be attracted to alpha males, don't let this chick call the shots, e.g 'thats only after the second date' I would have replied 'I know its hard talking on the phone, but I wont bite, I'll bite you later' but just use this an experience. You've learned that making yourself to availible on the phone she wont feel the need to see you in the future.

ok guys cool..i will, better save up some pennys for a big one next weekend then haha...so if were on facebook together don't say anything? unless she does...and i won't bother txting her anymore?...It's anoying cause she said she fancied me the other day to when i showed her my band vid...she seems to go out a lot on mid week nights with friends..she's hot and does seem to have a shit load of friends so its hard to catch her attention for that reason to sometimes i think..is my txt game ok do u think?