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Basically my girl friend and I are getting on really really well.


But, due to my nature maybe, I can't stop thinking 'if this ever ends I'm gonna be destroyed'. It is a stupid feeling to get because I know its very defeatist, but is this something I should speak to her about? We are very happy but I don't want this negativity to transcend into our life.


Secondly, a guy who is friends with her/her girlfriends met me last night. She was at home but he said 'Oh are you *******? You're like semi going out with ****** arent you?'


My initial reaction in my head was 'semi??? what does this mean'.


What the hell did he mean?!

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Perhaps I'm making something out of nothing but I would hate to think things arent classed as official to some people, particularly males!

One your too far into your head... And 2 do not Talk to her about something like this.. Never let a chick see that life is getting the best of you.

Find a hobby asap, meditate, exercise, do something.. It'll keep her interest level up because your going to lose her with that mentality..

As a matter of fact, read "relationship roulette" from 60 years of challenge. I wish I read that in my last relationship.. It'll help dude.

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Thanks man. I'll go check it out.


I think because my last relationship ended in major drama/heart ache, I'm more of a 'realist' this time and keeping myself grounded.

But I don't want these feelings to get into our life. Its really annoying thinking 'Man if we break up I'd be devastated' when there is literally nothing gone wrong between us thus far.

What do you make of the 'semi going out' phrase? We're not official on facebook and I decided to put that out of my mind...but deep down I wish we were as we are bf/gf.

It's because your a lot more invested in this relationship then she is, you may not think so but she's running the show. She wears the pants so its semi, you know. She's not really your girl, shes just letting you have her for the meantime.. When she becomes YOUR girl, she'll want it on facebook and want everyone to know because she will want all the girls on your facebook to know your with her as well.. I've been here 1 too many times.

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How do I take control?

It's not about taking control. The thing you need to do, and it may seem like the opposite, is to game other girls. If you are her semi-boyfriend, she is your semi-girlfriend. You want a girl who wants to just be your girlfriend? Well at the moment she doesn't seem to want that, so go look elsewhere. Be willing to tell her that, no, you can't see her right now, you have something else going on. You don't need to shun the woman, but you do need a life.

We go out; her parents have met me, shes met mine. Her friends know we go out, she has said she loves me. We see each other 3/4 days a week.


This dude friend who said 'semi going out' had never met me before.

Part of me wants to mention it to her, part of me thinks that would be ridiculous/make me look weak.


I don't know why I fret over words like that, he seemed a decent dude... I'd hate to think he picked that word up from her or her girlfriends' mouths though.

Oh yeah and the other issue, its scenarios like this that make me wish we were officially an item on facebook. Stupid and trivial again, but in the past week two girls have texted me asking to meet up for drinks...deffo not as friends either. I'd much rather have that relationship info on the internet to save me making excuses to other girls and just let me be.

Bump


It is certainly not 'semi' anything: she has said she loves me, the sex is great, we see each other every other day and there has been zero problems between us.


The 'semi' comment baffles me. Though not true I sorta wish I knew where it came from.


My BIG weakness in life has always been over processing things and worrying as Fuze correctly identified. How can I learn to do this less?


Also...how does one take more control and care 'less' than your gf?

Did you read that thing I told you to read? It'll answer all your questions

Here: http://dc179.4shared.com/doc/AVbhaBFK/preview.html

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