This is a bit of a problem to me. I want to (need to) start practicing approacing and escalation but I live in a really small town. I go to college here and apart from the students there are mostly senior citizens here. Hell there is only 1 bar/club that people go to. Needless to say the circles are small and everyone knows everyone pretty much. Now while I've established a decent social circle here I'm having a hard time with picking up girls. I really need to learn being more aggressive and showing my desires to them but I'm afraid to fuck up my reputation here.

I don't mean that I'm worried about being seen as a player, I mean being seen as creepy. I know there will be lots of failures before I learn to calibrate myself and I'd rather that those be complete strangers who I don't have to see on a daily basis. The problem is I'm a poor student and the nearest mall is an hour and a half bus ride away and is also pretty costly. I just don't have the time or finances to go there every day.

How do I aquire these skills here without fucking up my reputation? Right now people see me as a fun guy and I know I would have a shot with several girls I know but if I go in guns blazing with my current skills it's bound to end badly. I've tried the ice a few times and the initial attraction I sensed was gone pretty quickly. Any good tips? I need practice but how without ruining my status?

Worrying is like praying for what you don't want to happen..to happen. When you relax, it'll come off natural, remember most of our communication is done by body language, so posture and kino are very important. Get rid of that approach anxiety by practicing on the ugly ones first if you want to, they aren't used to being hit on so will lap it up like a cat does milk, and its good practice for you, so everybody wins.

Hmm I get what you're saying, maybe I'm just worrying too much about it? I know people talk a lot about each other here and I'd hate to lose my image. I've gathered enough knowledge that I know I'm ready to start actually learning this stuff. I just need some people to practice on who I don't know. Maybe I should just hone my skills on the uglier girls but I don't think there are many ugly girls here lol.

Do you live in America? You could approach and use a good opener, take someone with you with you so your social proofed and it looks like you and your friend are just shopping, once you have them interested lock them in and switch it so its like they are hitting on you, once you've done that they will be the ones trying to not be too forward and creepy, trust me I tried it the other night, and they lapped it up. Once you've done a few people it will be like a second nature!

I live in scandinavia actually, hmm I have a few friends I could perhaps get to be my wingman. To tell you the truth though I don't know if I'm that far in skills that I could pull it off. Seems to me that I'd have to do routines and canned material for that and I suck at that, I like to improvise (just feels much more natural).

yeah improvisation will come off natural, but there will be times where you are stuck with what to say, so then do a routine, I pick stuff that I know I would say if I sat down and thought about it, what works for one person doesn't work for everyone else. You have to start somewhere and when you have a little success, a couple of failures, you'll feel much more confident, I used to take rejection so so personally in my teenage years, now I find it so funny!! The way some girls are so up themselves or so miserable/or subdued they are incapable of conversation. These are the women that end up lonely having 20 cats or living with their mothers all their life. If they think you are a creep for trying to make a connection with them, then they are the losers. Get out there TODAY and make it happen, don't dwell on it.