So my gf was at my place the other day. We had a nice time, but at 9:30 pm she told me she had to go home and sleep, as she had to attend an important meeting early the next morning. However, I found out she was active on Facebook at 2:00 am. I know it's true that she attended the meeting, but it was obviously a lie that she wanted to go home to sleep.

I appreciate honesty and openness, so how should I deal with stuff like this?

Maybe she got bored of hanging out at your place all the time?

Maybe you can take her somewhere next time, i dont know, bowling, the movies, whatever!


Interesting to see what other people have to say!

I'm considering telling/writing her something like this:

"Hey, since I love you, I think it's a little sad that you lied to me. If you wanted to go home or do something else, it's better just to tell me the truth. I appreciate honesty and openness, and I'm not willing to tolerate much of the opposite."

Is this a good idea?

Need more details to give you really solid advice.. how long have you been dating this girl? Does she treat you well? Is she a freak or a good girl (see my link on screening if you don't know what I'm referring to)?

Mack would tell you to bring it up. I, on the other hand, completely ignore this kind of thing. If I was really annoyed, I might soft-next the girl (i.e. my preferred way of dealing with bad behavior). In this situation, you can't even really be sure if she lied for nefarious reasons.. she may have just had diarrhea or maybe she didn't lie and just had insomnia.

So, no, I personally don't think texting or saying that is beneficial to your relationship. If she really did lie, then I would just take that as an indicator that you need to step up your "relationship game".

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I agree with Wolf, I think you're reading WAY too much into this. There have been many times when I know I have to work early in the morning, so I make attempts to get home, then end up staying up late.

--Aeron

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We've been dating for 5-6 weeks. She's a good girl who treats me well, and I also treat her well.

Excellent posts, btw!

Maybe your being too insecure... I mean whose to say she just didnt wake up in the middle of the night and couldn't go back to sleep so she went on facebook? Or she got home and wasn't tired anymore? Isn't she allowed to change her mind?

I have an advice for you... Do NOT check her facebook activity. I would consider a relationship exactly a RELATIONship. I mean, when she leaves, it is HER life, and you are with yourself. If you saw her posting stuff on facebook, that is not a relationship, that is stalking, and you should avoid it. By the other hand, if the next time you meet up she mentions that she did go to sleep and obviously lies to you, then you should take some action, but at the moment just chill out and get yourself a life.

I do not wanna be mean, sorry if I sound mean. I just wanna avoid you a lot of pain, since those "lies" can build you up a real insecurity problem, and then you will not trust her, even if she is really not lying at all.
She is your girlfriend, you are NOT married, it is HER life.
Be happy

Sometimes uwake up in the middle of the night and go online

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Lol. +1

I say give her the benefit of the doubt, but it in the back of your head as a possibility that there is something up but not very likely.

Honestly i think she just needed to take a shit, because sometimes i say im tired when really i just want to able to fart, take a shit and pick my nose without turning her off. Thats true dedication right there.

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Good point. Would you recommend unfriending her?

I recommend you to chill the fuck out!

Relax. You are acting like a crazy fuck.

Drop it or you will be another casuality of AFC life.

Lol, ok, thanks! Guess you're right

Sorry for my rudeness lol.

There could be many reasons behind her FB being active. I wouldn't bring it up. I'm sure it's nothing.