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No, its not really the same as your analogy at all, because going after a professional fighter means he has something you don't and CAN'T get without years of work. No matter how much you fake it, he has a physical advantage so you're fucked.
However, a girl that thinks she is better than you or anyone else has no real advantage. Its all a mind game at that point. You can completely destroy someone's self esteem and image of themselves if you are slick enough with your words. You cant do that to a pro boxer. Because girls dont have a physical advantage. And dont say looks because looks are a mental advantage. Why do hb's think they are fat or obsess more about their looks in public than anyone else. BEcause a lot of them are inseure and those who arent can be easily made to be.
it is the perfect analogy, because confidence and social skills are something you gain due to experience, you don't just read a fucking e-book, put it down, and say, yep... I sure am confident and charming now, it might give you the courage to go out and gain some reference experiences, with an outline of some good ideas (not being needy, not being reactive, not seeking approval, talk to multiple girls), but it takes tons of prior references to make you sure of yourself in certain situations, and it takes alot of practise socializing to naturally improve your social skills, the thing is, some of this advice doesn't make sense to you right now, but really it would after a long time, the answer is more women, not because she is hopeless move on, but because when you have abundance, you become more attractive, it is that simple, a guy with alot of girls on the go, naturally is not needy, naturally doesn't care, he does not have to live by ''fake it till you make it'', he has simply made it, and it is no longer an act, why put money into a dieing stock, if the stocks value goes back up, re-invest or you are throwing your money away (but you actually have to do and believe this, not just do it to ''get her'' that is what neediness is all about, desperation, and a need for something)
you can not learn some pua material and have it immidiatley change you, you have to work on yourself, it could take months, and it could take years, depending on how long you work on yourself, and how much effort you put into it, but there are a whole list of defining factors that currently you would have already demonstrated to her
-how you look
-how confident you are
-if you genuinely like her and how you have expressed this (what your intent is)
-what sort of lifestyle you lead
-how much resources you can provide
-what sort of personality you have
there is alot more to confidence then asking chicks for opinions, then telling them that they are beautiful but beauty is common, what else you got going for you more then your looks?
it is not the words that you say, it is how you say them, how much you believe in them, how sure of yourself you are, and how your
sub-communications/actions/words line up congruently with your intent
if she already likes you for things besides personality/confidence, but it is a lack of these things that screwed you over, then your best bet is to move on, gain more reference points to build confidence off of and stay away from her long enough that she is unsure of the kind of person you are in the hopes you reverse the impression you made on her, or at least have a chance at making a new more confident one, not only that but you would be in more of a position of power if you re-approached her comming with abundance rather then scarcity as you could sub-communicate alot of attractive qualities simply by having more girls in your life
it is not about one girl, it is about alot of girls, and the more you realize this, the easier it will be to get that one girl, you can't just fake and maintain status, you have to actually go out and put in effort to achieve it, work on yourself both physically and mentally and financially, as well as your lifestyle in general
now with all that out of the way, neediness is a bad trait to demonstrate, and hanging on to a girl, or showing interest, when a girl has expressed dis-interest, is telegraphing neediness, keep that in mind in future interactions
CHAT
