So guys, I wanted to finally get a second post going.. I'm going to make this my FR Journal. So I did a shit-ton of reading and studying... Mostly, I took a step back from what I know is "mastered" from you PUA's . I realized that something in this all wasn't working right for me. I found my sticking point, and my proficient points. But I do have some questions for you guys... (I promise this will be a long post)

So, I re-read a few books.. don't ask me to name them right now lol, its 3:20am right now. I watched a few videos... I even got a couple of buddies to chip in with me who wanted to learn and work with me, and we got the Social Dynamics series (all $600 worth).
I spent a lot of time out in the public. Broke my focus on just becoming a PUA, and more focus on getting myself out there as a name. The PUA part will just come to me.. that's, what I feel, is my proficient point #1. I can make stuff just develop if I nudge it into my life.

Part of PU is demonstrating higher value. I decided not to have to put on a mask, but live that higher value. Will I admit it right off the bat? No, that's begging for attention. "I fix stuff" gets that pressure of "What do you do?" cleared up. I do. I fix crap. I build, design.. different story, different forum...

I changed my look. After leaving my ex in the past, and really finding the flaws that I was falling forward into, I decided to step out of them. Changed my appearance to match where I live now. I'm peacocking a bit more.. I work out in the gym twice a week (work, you know.. don't have time for every day, but I maximize.)

To me now, pick up is just a game for daily life.. it keeps shit interesting. I have a new girlfriend (yes, one-itis still lives) but I want to keep using pick up not for sex, as I won't cheat. But as a social advantage point. I'm in no way good at this, hence why I have questions. So I wanted to start right now. I'll answer as it comes to it, (again with it being 3:30am) but throw me some questions if I'm missing something.

Is approaching supposed to be difficult? Even though I do have practice at being rejected at my (former) job, it's different in a public situation.
Along the same lines, how do you guys handle pickup on, say, a bus? Just need a few pointers on that. I'm honestly scared of looking like a fool in front of people on a bus. I realize that I may never see some of these people again, but it still creeps me the fuck out lol.
How do you guys keep track of how you did on a particular "outing"? I've read keeping a voice recorder in your pocket, with or without a hidden mic near your neck. I've also heard of just keeping a notebook for post-sarge notes for those quick revelations. I'm considering doing the recorder.
Onto a slightly different subject, and now focused at my current relationship with sex-minded Artists' advice requested. I went to spend time with the new girlfriend, and bear in mind throughout this, I'm not being a pansy about this stuff. I just have a lot of respect for her for this. She went through a rape over a year ago, and sex has to be slow and her pace. She's trusting me though. (She lives in TX, I in OR) So we make plans to spend a week or so with each other as much as possible. How have you guys handled anything like this? Avoided the girl? Or, since I can't come up with a scenario to ask about, mention what you would suggest. Again, ask me any questions you have, please. I do have to say this, after spending almost a week with her, and almost every evening, some sexual aspect has occurred, I'm not sure how best to approach it further to actual penetration.

Work with me guys lol.

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So this happened about a week ago, but I was out of town so didn't have time to write it up.
this happened while hanging out with a coworker after work, between some drinking at his place, then we went to a bar
[ME]you look like you're really interested in that ugly phone (blackberry)
[HB6]I like my phone, thank you *smile*
[ME]Well, I guess... *starting to look away*
[HB6]Why don't you like it? What do you have?
[ME]Eh, some expensive one.. It works great for phone numbers and texting... and pics.. thats about it though. *to the bartender* can i have whatever she's got? just cause its pink (it really was)
[HB6] *laughs and puts her hand on my outer leg*
[ME]So?
[HB6]So what?
[ME] So you're going to leave me without your name, or a picture to remember you by? You have your hand on me, so you must want a way to remember me.
[HB6]Jessie. And yours?
[ME]Storm. Now, picture. *pull out my phone*
[HB6]okay. *she sits up and moves close*
[ME] *i point at my cheek* kiss pic.. c'mon, my buddy looks like he wants to leave soon
[HB6]*kisses and i take the pic*
[ME]*looking at the pic* I don't like this one... not enough awesome for my standards...
[HB6] Well, what do i have to do different?
[ME] I'll take another, but *point at my lips* you put yours here
K.Close with that pic and I have it as proof.
[Me] Want a copy?
I punch in her number, send it
[HB6] I'll text you sometime, ok?
[ME]Whenever.

Turn back to buddy, we leave, he's impressed cause he sat there chatting with another dude the whole time. This pickup happened in less than 20 minutes... I impressed MYSELF lol. I'm still AFC to my own expectations tho.

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Lol congrats man! Keep it up!

I find it scary asking for a kiss after 5 mins of knowing her though. I usually wait a day. ;o

I do too, but alcohol was involved and she was very open with me. It flowed pretty smooth.

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FOREWARNING: This is not a field report, but a simple report on an online "sarging".

It took so long to actually get around to writing this becuase I didn't think it was working.

Now, with the story/report:

Met this girl on Digimon Online (yes i still play games like that, cause I can, and its relaxing) and we were chatting a bit about me buying a digimon she had (patamon). After a few minutes, we got each other's ages, and i figured I would turn on the game.
I won't go into the convos, but I went from meaningless stuff to full blown "let me get your MSN so we can chat more outside of mods attempting to ban us for flirting". I got it, added, researched her a bit. Legit.
She's a chick in Brazil, so there's no way of a fuck close. And phone bills would be astronomical, so a MSN close is as close as im getting lol.
We chatted a bit, and i was really playing the "not interested in hooking up" card, and had her full attention. I own my own small business, and I showed her some artwork I do for fun, and there was the DHV.
We chatted for a week or so when we had time. (In total, i think my time would have been about a 6-hour get together.. guesstimating here) I mentioned a few times about wanting to see her naked, and played it down til it stayed in her subconscious, or at least in the back of her mind (my best approach at kino). Earlier yesterday it finally got to be too much for her and apparently, she was ready to get to the cyber sexing. (closest ill get to a f-close).
being that she's at a family member's place for a celebration, there's not much private time for her, plus no webcam (who the hell doesn't own a webcam in this age??). But, she's taking a few pics today for me to last until she's back home with her personal laptop. We know what's going down then

So, if i can summarize, and analogy it..
Opener -digimon game
number close- MSN
kino- suggesting and pulling away the sexual requests
f-close - getting pics, and a guaranteed cyber session in a day or two

and don't tell me "she wont do it, she'll back out" I have 99% confidence that she wont ditch out. There's that "wrapped around your finger" comment i would like to use.

-Storm

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Well, here's another success story i can add to my list.. and my FR sheet. Courtesy of Celestias, who bumped my sticking point out with a simple reminder that I do SALES lol.

So me and a friend (female, lesbian, makes for a good wing) went to the local Fred Meyers.. (similar to a WalMart) to get some stuff for food that night. I told her beforehand that I wanted to see if I could get a girl's number while she was there. $10 on her side said I couldn't. Fair enough. We go in, and I tell her.. "Find a cute one.. not over-dressed and doesn't have a shopping cart, but a small tote carrier. And no wedding rings!"
Lo and behold, i get a perfect 9. Well fuck. Game on, gents.

[Me] My lesbian friend over there pointed you out to me and said you were extremely cute and that I should say hi.
[9]Oh. Well hi. Since you're here and tall, can you grab me that can of turkey?
I grab it.
[Me]Since you're here and needing help, what's your name?
[9]Sarah. Your's?
[Me]Storm
[Sarah]I know a couple of people with your name.
[Me]Yeah.. I'm sure. Well, I must be going. If i may though, you have a bit of mascara on your cheek.
I start to walk away as she brushes it off
[Sarah] Where? Can you get it for me? I'm surprised nobody else mentioned it. I was just out with some friends and they never said a word.
I walk back over. Brush the imaginary mascara off, and brushed her hair back a bit... somehow always gets a reaction when i do that.
[Sarah] Thanks. Hey, so your friend.. she's not a girlfriend, is she?
[Me]Well, a female friend, but no. Not a girlfriend like that. I need the right girl before I'll actually commit like that.
She qualifies herself a bit... what she does (marketing) she knows a few people at the bars (an owner, especially).
[Me] Well, look. She really wants to get going. I want to talk to you more later and we'll see about a drink or two. Give me your phone so I can put my number in for you.
She hands me her phone.. its (gag) an iPhone. I punch in my digits, add my second phone, and text them both with her name.
[Me] I texted both my phones
[Sarah] Both?! You must be important.
[Me] Eh, one's business, ones personal
[I use the two phones thing as a great DHV. I use them interchangeably as business and personal.]
[Sarah] Text me when you're available for drinks and some time with me ok?
[Me]Well.. I'll be forward with this. Will you object if i kiss you? just to see how this will pan out.
[Sarah]Um, no.
she moves her hand basket thing to the other hand.
Did it. She needs practice at it, to be honest lol.
[Me] We can work on that. I gotta run, she looks impatient. I'll call you probably tomorrow, ok?
[Sarah] K. have a good night.

The friend is shocked as shit. Number and a kiss.. in a grocery store. If I had paid attention, i would have had her get my camera out and record it. Eh, whatever. I texted her, and got a pic.. so if i decided to be a little "adventurous" I would know already what I would be getting into .
No harm no foul, right?

Again, much thanks to you Celestias. I did use that "sell yourself" tactic we hinted around, and the direct action.

-Storm

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