Hi guys!

Need a bit of advice. I have been meeting up with this girl for a while we haven't slept together or anything but tomorrow night we are going on technically our first date. I know she likes me because she admitted it to me and she said that she likes that I'm not obsessive and don't get jealous and she likes that I don't bombard her with messages and allow her to live her own life. Anyway she told me she had been seeing this guy for a little bit and he comments on her Facebook status' quite a lot and she seems to 'play' along with it. Problem is that I don't know if I should be doing something to prevent him from coming back into her life by that I mean should I be doing something specific with her to just get rid of him? She's constantly in hysterics when we meet up and we have such a good laugh and she had told me she would love it to develop further.

Should I text her more or just keep it how I am? Any advice you guys could give would be brilliant.

Thanks in advance.

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Okay, let me just say that by you being on this forum you have the advantage, you obviouslly know some PU stuff so you have an advantage. Now the other guy is probably an AFC, it is soo easy to post on someones Facebook all the time and women will like that to start with but nearly every woman I know gets guy's chatting her up on facebook all the time because they have no nuts.

My advise is keep playing it the way you already are. You are getting IOI's and your taking it further and further, if the subject is still bothering you on say the second date then bring up the guy, for all you no he may just be a work colleague that she know fancies her but she doesn't know how to let him down... It could be anything.

I think looking into qualification is the key, you'll want to get her qualifying herself more to you, by her telling you she likes you that means she is qualifying but just get her to jump through a couple other hoops too.

By your description though your not way off... don't worry too much about that other dude, if and when you go out with this girl in a relationship if thats where you want it to lead you'll find this cropping up a fair few times if your lady is particularly attractive.

Hope this helps

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Actually, there is nothing you can do. Ultimately, she decides who she wants to spend time with. That is only fair. Only thing you can do is work on yourself so damn hard that one day you become a guy who can tell a girl and stand behind those words "Go away from me. This guy is waiting for you". And you don't care if she goes, but she decides to stay.

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The funny thing about this scenario is that the other guy is perceived by you as "winning", when in reality it's the one who cares the least that always comes out on top. If anything, pull away from her slightly and watch as she magically rides your ass so hard you start to get annoyed by her sudden clinginess. He's digging his own grave and seems to me like he's pretty much her gay friend. I wouldn't worry too much.

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Yeah your right - he who cares less does have more power. I've got really good at not being clingy and backing off slightly and allowing the girl to live her own life as well but obviously we both know we like each other. When we were out on a date last night she said to me that a lot of the guys she has ever gone out with always get so obsessive and clingy, like texting her constantly and trying to find out what she's doing and who she's doing it with - she said it was weird.

What's your opinion on the use of facebook when in the early stages with a girl? For example I want to change my status to 'had a great night last night with her name' but not sure whether it's the best mood.

Thanks in advance.

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