I just need to vent this somewhere. For the past year I have been seeing a great girl. Very attractive, very funny, she has always made me happy, I never suspected her of cheating or falling for anyone else. She has almost always put my needs first. She is by all means most guys dream girl. She is very into me. And I don't have to do anything to keep her interested. And I have never had a real reason to even think about leaving her.

BUT
I am off to university and she is still in school. Now I don't want to cheat on her. I don't want to leave her because girls like her are actually rare and she has done too much for me so I feel kind of guilty for treating her like that and I feel she deserves better than being left just because I want fun. But I still want to enjoy game at university while I have the chance. Anybody have an idea what I should do?

A little more detail will help. Are you going to be several hours away from her? You think you will too busy or too many other girls around? I dont understand what your "issue" might be.

But I will tell you this. In all of the four years I was in college, I NEVER saw a long distance relationship work. Those people who have a significant other from high school and go to seperate colleges/schools..... the longest I ever saw it last was 7 months (just over a semester).

If you are 18 and shes 17 or whatever....its not going to last anyway. Sorry to be blunt, but since you are going to college you are obviously not from some backwoods small town looking to get married at 18 and be a mechanic or work the Wal Mart.

I know you think she is this amazing girl...and I am sure she is...but shes not the only one. As you grow up you will see yoru interests develop and find an even cooler girl who has the same new interests.

i'm a mechanic, lol.

i've got four years of college into it.

going back for another two.

and i pulled 70,000 in 2007.



i wouldn't lump "mechanic" in with "walmart worker"

i'm just busting your balls. btw

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LOL! I was just throwing out there what job an 18 year old can get in some smalltown, dont get all butt-hurt. If you two are a little bit older, then its a possibility. I have seen older couple make distance work. You two seem like you have a good thing going, I would say its a solid possibility if yo two been together for 2+ years

i'm so butthurt that my rectum is throbbing and bleeding periodically

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You can go with the pragmatic evil way, aka fucking everything that moves while on the college while staying in the LTR and making sure she never gets to know, or you can break up with her and game other girls. Since you're already thinking of gaming other girls, I don't expect you to stay faithful, what is, by the way, the third option.

As cruel as it may sound, I recommend you to go out there and learn something on the other women. It's a lifetime investment - you'll use these skills once when you'll be ready to settle....and in many other situations. College is like an optimal training arena for seducers.

If you're really wanting to game at college, and you know you're not going to be seeing her for long stretches, you're lying to yourself if you think you won't be attracted to and end up getting involved with other women.

If it were me, I'd just tell her that I was not going to be fulfilled in my romantic life being so far away from her, and that I would want to meet others.

But I'm certainly not the norm, my situation is FAR from it. So take that with a grain of salt!

--Aeron

I will basically see her at least twice a week. It's is kind of just a moral decision for me as I know I won't be faithful, It's just that she has been very good to me and I feel kinda guilty for leaving her the moment I go to uni, and I think she deserves better, but I guess being straight with her is better than cheating. And no, I don't plan to marry and be a mechanic lol