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This will bring massive attraction. Girls find it cute and ballsy when you do this.
So after the opener "Hey, I really think you are cute and I just had to meet you." I usually let that marinate first, then I stick out my hand for the hand shake and introduce my self. If she is sitting, then go sit down after the intro.
Now to build social comfort/transition, make assumptions or statements.
1) "I'm assuming you go to school her? (Guess her major) ... You look like you are studying [insert major]."
2) "You don't look like you are from here." (Either guess where she is from)
Making statement is magnificent because even if you guess it wrong they will correct you. Plus this avoids the interview questioning that everyone hates. If you guess it right, they will be amazed! WIn win win situation.
It's also proper to figure out what she is up to at that moment. So you can gauge how much time you have to do the interaction. If she is busy, go for the number. If she isn't doing anything, go for the bounce. If she is sitting down, you have about 5-10mins to build comfort and seed a date.
The most important part is to be comfortable, relax, and be authentic. Of course this will take a while to actually be comfy and relax, but just keep approaching and it will become simple for you. It takes 30 days to instill a habit ^_^. Now when I say be authentic, talk about anything you want. Like literally anything you want, what is interesting to you! If you are comfy and relax doing this, and be excited about it, that emotion will be transfer for her and the content of your conversation will not matter! This is being authentic, and is highly attractive to girls. This will cure your syndrome of "I ran of things to say". How can you run out of things to say when you've lived for more than 15 years?
Now there are plenty of information out there on day game. But, the problem is that this can over ride your brain. So have small goals and repeat it until you've developed a habit over it and conquered some fears. Some guys can't even approach at all. Therefore, lower you goals to asking tourists questions from strangers.
Tourists questions:
1) Do you know where xyz building is?
2) Do you know what the time is?
3) DO you know where the nearest SPAM machine is?
Do this 5 times a day for like a month. I had to do this for like a month because my approach anxiety would hinder me from approaching and I would literally walk for hours doing nothing and leering at girls ....
But, you just have to desensitize yourself from your fears. Think of it as baby steps and a long term self improvement thing.
Lastly, don't forget eye contact!
Sincerely,
Donston
Dude thanks a lot....Lastly, I was thinking of using this liine
"Excuse me, do you know where the library is".
*Wait for her response*
"I actually know exactly where it is, i just thought you were really cute and wanted to come talk to you".
To me this is an easier transition into getting really successful at opening and i feel like it would be just as effective as straight up telling her that she is cute, due to its humor and fun nature. Thoughts?