I'm dating a girl, a complete party fanatic, she parties a lot, from thursday to saturday basically. Last week she invited me along but I couldn't came. Anyways, we had agreed that we would go to a bar on this weekend, and she had forgotten about it, we were also going to go eat, she seemed concerned about the hour, because she said she was going to be extremely hangover because one of her best friend's birthday is going to be on the weekend.
My problem is, why do I let it over affect me?? ... Like, I feel bad because she forgets, and I feel like I can't see her on the weekend, we both said we should go slow, maybe I should just hold back this feelings and wait for things to unfold naturally? ...

Read this post and tell us what category she falls into: drama-free-relationships-1-screening-vt124827.html

Also, why are you wasting your time with a girl who makes you feel bad?

-Wolf

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Well, it is the first time that she "forgot" the date, I just mentioned it to her, she'll come, but I just don't like the kind of attitude that asks "At what time? Because I'll have a horrible hangover" ...
I just got out of a 20 month relationship, and I have lost confidence in myself, maybe thats why I chase her, and the fact that I have wanted her since middle school, even though my friends say she's not pretty enough for me.
I think my problem here is my lack of confidence in myself again, I feel like I need to start from Zero on the game ... initiate conversation with strangers, with girls, without closing ...
As to Wolf question: I guess she's a normal girl, not to much drama, she just likes to party a lot with her friends... so I basically "lose" her from Thursday to Sunday because she'll be partying.
I feel bad, maybe because of the way she says it ... One time I told her (AFCish) "You only talk to me when you need or want something" and she got really mad because she said like "I hate how every men thinks we only use them" ...
I need my confidence back : (

Follow up question: Are you having sex with this girl? If the answer is no, then you seriously need to put this girl out of your mind completely. Right now. Stop initiating any kind of conversation with this girl and go meet more women. If the answer is yes, then you need to ask yourself why you are not being invited along when she goes and parties with her friends.

-Wolf

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No, we haven't had sex, although we've been escalating sexually. We've been seeing each other romantically for like 4 weeks, and we've been friends since we were like 15 (We're 21).
I have always liked her, and right now that we were both single I told her we should try it out. Maybe its just a little bug that I had of being with her, and now that I am actually with her I just gotta let it fade away.
I do want to have sex with her, and I was thinking the exact same thing of not initiating contact. A few hours ago she called me, I invited her for sushi but she was sleepy.
I am not really looking forward of hanging out with her or her friends really. I know some of them, plus I'm not the "crazy party" guy ... I enjoy bars, and going out for a few drinks, but not going to the extreme drunk sides.

Dating a girl that parties a lot and forgets your dates? This should be good.

*Rolls eyes* She hears that a lot because she's guilty of it. There was one time where I was having a group of friends visit, and one of the female friends asked me if I could pick her up from the train station. However, she hadn't decided if she was going to hang out with me and the group. So I told her I would pick her up if she decided to stay and hang out. Needless to say, she went and found another person to pick her up and drive her home from Philly to Central Jersey. My point is there are some women who only take, take, take, and never give.

There's a quote from Napoleon Hill's Think and Grow Rich, "There is no such thing as getting something without giving something." I've used this motto with women and it's helped me weed out the women who are worth my time and the women who aren't.

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